I can't do this anymore.

Hi ladies, thanks for reading, I just need to vent. I've only been married for 3 months, but we've been "together" for about 5 years now. I just can't do this anymore. I don't want to. I feel so depressed all the time, and I feel so unwanted and appreciated. I support his ass and all I get is heartache in return. Today I was upset with him because he locked himself in a room and wouldn't let me in..and he was in there because he embarassed me in front of my family and forced me to get off "his" computer. When he didn't have a laptop, I let him use mine all the time. I took his video games and threw them across the room, making sure none would break. Then I placed his XBOX upside down on the floor so it would look like I threw it, when I really just lightly placed it. He came into the kitchen where my mom and I were sitting and threw my $400 cell phone onto the table, in 2 pieces. He ripped it in half. I know it doesn't seem like a big deal, but it's just everything in general. Everyday I find myself saying "Why did I marry him." while I cry. Everyday. There isn't a day that goes by where we don't fight. He's so inconsiderate. I just feel like I'm more than ready for a divorce when we haven't even been married very long. I feel like I deserve so much better, and I deserve to be happy. I'm not happy at all.   Thanks for listening.

If you're not happy hun, a divorce may just be the best thing. You two should sit down and talk about your relationship.

It sounds like you guys need to find a more constructive way to deal with your disagreements, not to be rude. But good luck with everything.

Quoting Beth [due 12-25-08]:“ It sounds like you guys need to find a more constructive way to deal with your disagreements, not to be rude. But good luck with everything.”

I agree with her also.

Im so sorry things are so awful right now. But this does seem like a HUGE change from a few days ago with a couple great threesomes you had. I thought everything was great just a few days ago or was that just a fascade?

Quoting Beth [due 12-25-08]:“ It sounds like you guys need to find a more constructive way to deal with your disagreements, not to be rude. But good luck with everything.”

i was thinking the same thing. OP sorry you are so unhappy, good luck in whatever you choose.

For a while, we were actually physically abusive with eachother, so now instead of that, I guess we break eachothers things, which really isn't any better. I'm just so fed up. He doesn't work, he doesn't clean, he doesn't do anything. He bitches about ANYTHING I ask him to do, which isn't much. Whenever I try to talk to him about our relationship or how I feel, all he has to say is "Fine, then leave." or if he gets mad at me, he says "I want a divorce." I'm so sick of this. I deserve someone who loves me and wants to make me happy.

Kind of sounds like neither one of you handle your issues in a mature manner and that you fuel each other's misery.

I'm sorry that things are so sucky but you don't sound overly compatible.

Quoting Mrs♥Ladylike:“ For a while, we were actually physically abusive with eachother, so now instead of that, I guess we break ... [snip!] ... he gets mad at me, he says "I want a divorce." I'm so sick of this. I deserve someone who loves me and wants to make me happy.”

Yea, I say get a divorce. Your relationship is unhealthy and dysfunctional.

Quoting Mrs♥Ladylike:“ Hi ladies, thanks for reading, I just need to vent. I've only been married for 3 months, but we've been ... [snip!] ... very long. I feel like I deserve so much better, and I deserve to be happy. I'm not happy at all.   Thanks for listening.”

Welcome to my life, I've been married for almost 6 months now & been together for 6 years. Things are horrible he hardly works, I work a full-time job & go to college at the same time as well as take care of my daughter. I've learned that its not going to get any better it'll just get worse. The only time my husband is loving if at all is when he wants sex.

Quoting Anna_M:“ Im so sorry things are so awful right now. But this does seem like a HUGE change from a few days ago ... [snip!] ... days ago with a couple great threesomes you had. I thought everything was great just a few days ago or was that just a fascade?”

It's either really good or REALLY bad. I guess I like the whole threesum thing because our sex life SUCKS. I'm not insecure or jealous, so it isn't the 3sum stuff that gets to me, it's the way he treats me in general. And I will admit, sometimes I have a bit of a facad.

Quoting Mrs♥Ladylike:“ For a while, we were actually physically abusive with eachother, so now instead of that, I guess we break ... [snip!] ... he gets mad at me, he says "I want a divorce." I'm so sick of this. I deserve someone who loves me and wants to make me happy.”

It sounds like you guys need counseling. Either that or just seperate now.

Quoting Samantha's Mommie:“ Welcome to my life, I've been married for almost 6 months now & been together for 6 years. Things ... [snip!] ... that its not going to get any better it'll just get worse. The only time my husband is loving if at all is when he wants sex.”

My husband never wants sex. Hardly ever.  

Quoting Beth [due 12-25-08]:“ It sounds like you guys need counseling. Either that or just seperate now.”

Neither of us are willing to leave Toula. And if I ask/tell him to leave, he just says no.

Quoting Mrs♥Ladylike:“ Neither of us are willing to leave Toula. And if I ask/tell him to leave, he just says no.”

Then counseling for sure. You need to get this stuff figured out if you're going to be raising children.