re: I can't do this anymore.

Quoting Mrs♥Ladylike:“ My husband never wants sex. Hardly ever.  ”

I'll trade you for sure. When he wants it he rips off my bottoms while I'm asleep & doesn't care. I hate it. But things have never been physically abusive (except for sex) but more mentally abusive. My family doesn't want to hear about it & he hates his family he has a restraining order against him by his family.

My husband did that the other night also. He pulled my bottoms off while I was asleep, and had sex with me. I was half-awake..but he didn't care. And I didn't want to fight it, because it would just wake me up more.

Quoting Mrs♥Ladylike:“ My husband did that the other night also. He pulled my bottoms off while I was asleep, and had sex with ... [snip!] ... had sex with me. I was half-awake..but he didn't care. And I didn't want to fight it, because it would just wake me up more.”

Its an every night thing here I've learned to drown it out most of the times. Can't really request a divorce until I start back at work.

Quoting Mrs♥Ladylike:“ My husband did that the other night also. He pulled my bottoms off while I was asleep, and had sex with ... [snip!] ... had sex with me. I was half-awake..but he didn't care. And I didn't want to fight it, because it would just wake me up more.”

so he won't have sex with you when you're awake but he will when you're sleeping?? seriously why are you with him? i'm not trying to be a bitch but i just don't understand why you would continue in a relationship like that. i really hope you get out of it, it's going to be hard at first but you'll be 100x happier in the long run. good luck and i really hope you leave his ass, he sounds like a complete asshole.

Quoting mshell:“ so he won't have sex with you when you're awake but he will when you're sleeping?? seriously why are ... [snip!] ... but you'll be 100x happier in the long run. good luck and i really hope you leave his ass, he sounds like a complete asshole.”

I agree, he is a complete asshole. And it doesn't happen often (the sex thing) but it's happened a few times. I just feel like our marrige is so new that I should work on it. I really do love him, and I know he loves me, but I just don't want to deal with this anymore. I want to be happy and loved. I want to look foward to being around my husband. Not beg for time..you know?

Quoting Mrs♥Ladylike:“ I agree, he is a complete asshole. And it doesn't happen often (the sex thing) but it's happened a few ... [snip!] ... with this anymore. I want to be happy and loved. I want to look foward to being around my husband. Not beg for time..you know?”

oh i know what you mean, my husband was totally different when he came back from iraq last year, we had a lot to work on and we worked through it. but if you want to stay i would definitely say go to counseling (each on your own and couples counseling) have you talked to him about it?

Quoting mshell:“ oh i know what you mean, my husband was totally different when he came back from iraq last year, we had ... [snip!] ... want to stay i would definitely say go to counseling (each on your own and couples counseling) have you talked to him about it?”

I try to talk to him about it but he says I'm nagging and gets all pissy. He won't talk about anything, all he'll say is "Fine, then leave."

aww girl I'm sorry. I hope things get better. You should not live an unhappy life. If you want to, try counseling. If not, talk about splitting up

Quoting Mrs♥Ladylike:“ For a while, we were actually physically abusive with eachother, so now instead of that, I guess we break ... [snip!] ... he gets mad at me, he says "I want a divorce." I'm so sick of this. I deserve someone who loves me and wants to make me happy.”

I hate it when they just say those things like it's nothing.... that often means that they don't care as much.... I used to be in a relationship where it got to the point where we just started threatening eachother with those things. And after a while it didn't even affect us. It was just like something we said which is horrible... I think you really need a break... even if you don't officially get a divorce... just take time to yourself to regroup and gather your life. It sounds like you do love eachother... otherwise you wouldn't have gotten married... but sometimes stress and issues can overtake you end up forgetting the reason you are together and taking things for granted. [Which it sounds like is what he is doing]. Hope this helps. Keep your head up!

Was he like this BEFORE you got married? If he was I just don't understand why you would marry him knowing the way he acts. I mean love is love and sometimes you can't help who you fall in love with but dang. Change is good.

He was like this, but not to this extent, I thought we had figured things out, you know? Obviously not. He keeps calling the house on my cell phone, which is broken, so he probably went out and bought me a new one, but that's not going to change the way I feel. I'm so over this.  

Oh wow I'm sorry hun. I know it's tough to try and make the right decision but if you are unhappy and sad more than you are content then I would say you should leave. If you guys threaten each other with breaking up all the time obviously it isn't a big shocker that you both are thinking about it. Maybe even a break from each other would help.

hey hun I'm sorry to hear this. You 2 have been together for so long. I think you should try to get him to go to counseling. If he doesn't take it seriously then I think you should consider separation. And if that doesn't work... then there is no other option. He has to be willing to work it out and if he just doesn't care then what's the point in trying anymore?

I've brought up counseling before, and he says it's "ridiculous" and a waste of money. He isn't willing to do it. And about a month or 2 ago we took a "break" for about 3 or 4 days where he went and stayed at his parents house, and we're back at square one again.  

Quoting Mrs♥Ladylike:“ I've brought up counseling before, and he says it's "ridiculous" and a waste of money. He isn't willing ... [snip!] ... we took a "break" for about 3 or 4 days where he went and stayed at his parents house, and we're back at square one again.  ”

yes my husband is the same way about counseling. I think you should take more time apart. 3 or 4 days really isn't that long. He should live life without you for a bit. He relies on you so much. Is it possible to stay with either of your parents for a couple weeks or longer?

What did your mom think when she saw him break your phone in front of you 2?