Help Please

Anyways. This is going to be a super long post.

So I've been with my babys daddy for like three years. Things have been pretty rocky with him alot of fighting he was pretty controlling. We didn't really trust eachother. Plus he had a real mean streak and like, I would just kinda ignore it I guess beacuse I thought I was so in "love" with him. So I let alot of stuff fly. But he had done pretty sneaky things to hurt me before. And hes always been a liar. Even when there were hard facts that he was lying he would stick to his lies. But anywas When I had her things just got worse he coulden't handle her crying he would ge real imipatient with her and like be like oh fuck this. blahblah Shes crying like a bitch. WTF shes a baby! you know we would always get into these big arguments with cussing and punching and screaming on his part. Screaming on mine to. But hed always just make me cry and like be like stop crying! grow up! you know. Id be like wtf. So one day we were fighting outside and my mom came out and told him not to disrespect me in her house. and he was like well I'm not in your fucking house I'm outside. And she was just like oh its my property. and he was like. Stay the fuck out of my buissiness blahblahblah. And all this shit, she started yelling at him. and then eventually he was like I'm leaving we can't be together because of your mom. He was like oh I'm taking the baby! I'm taking it. She was like no your not going to take it. I was like nope. Your not. So he left, later on he was like oh I want to see her at my place and I was just like you can come and see her at my house whenever you want day and night and your family can too. Because I don't trust him with the baby, You know and when he got real mad one time he said he was going to take her to mexico and I would never see her again. Becasuse thats where he was from. So I was like wtf How am I supose to trust you now? Ever since hes left he hasn't really asked about her. He would just text me and be like oh I went to the strip club and I got fucked up. Or something like that. Is that supose to make me feel good? Not it hurts real bad actually. So I was just like whatever. I've heard all hes been doing is drinking evreyday and getting high off of weed. So I was kinda like I really don't trust him I don't know what other shit hes on you know. He just thinks evreyones out to get him. He wants his cake&eat it too. and Im finnally putting my foot down and saying he can come see her whenever however long. Just here. And when I move to Texas soon [he lives here in california], he wants me to send her via airplane. His step mom would come pick her up because he can't fly. I don't know her or trust her. So I don't feel comfortable handing her off to her either. Plus shes too young. How is she going to remember him from three weeks of life. She would be out of her element&totally scared. But he doesnt care. Anyways He can't fly but he can drive. So do you think I'm being unreasonable? Or am I being pretty reasonable? I actually have a recorded video of us fighting on the phone. If anyone wants to see it haha. The quality is not the best though.

I think your being totally reasonable. If all he want's to do is get drunk and get high and say your baby is crying like a bitch i dont think he should get to see her at all. And i would never put a baby on a plane to go and stay with him. He sounds way to irrresponsible.

Stay outtaa the way of that freak!

You need to stay away from him and keep your daughter away from him too! He cannot force you to put that baby on a plane with a family member.

What you need to do is get an attorney, get child support from him and they will write up a visitation order. If he is unfit... well then they will make all the visits supervised. You definately need to say you want them supervised because you fear for your daughters safety and well-being!

I dont think your being unreasonable at all... from the things you said he seems very irresponsible and i dont blame you for not trusting him with her alone. you best bet is to stay away from him you baby is now your number one priority now!!!! HE has alot of growing up to do and i feel like he needs to show you thats first before you let him have any responsibility of your daughter alone