its all just hitting me...am i really ready...

so i was visiting my mom yesterday and she was taking care of my cousins baby girl for the week. So i took her for the day for a little "practice" they day went wonderfully and i was convinced that this is going to be a piece of cake... then at night i was putting the baby to sleep, i gave her some formula and she stated to doze off then she started crying... a lot.. then she threw up .. over and over again until all the milk was out of her system.. i realized then how real this is .. and i was scared to death bc if my mom wasnt there i wouldve had no idea what to do... i started crying whenthe baby calmed down and started falling asleep in my arms (im crying now jsut typing this).even when she stopped crying and started falling asleep i cried and constantly checked to make sure she was breathing and makin sure she had a heart beat...although my mom kept assuring me she was fine... but i got so worried... and im terrified... am i really ready...

Quoting mommymack4707:“ so i was visiting my mom yesterday and she was taking care of my cousins baby girl for the week. So i ... [snip!] ... heart beat...although my mom kept assuring me she was fine... but i got so worried... and im terrified... am i really ready...”

1. no one is truely ready when it comes to being a first time parents..it's a learn as ya go deal...2. you own baby is different...something you can't put up with with someone elses baby you will with yours...3. You can do it...

Honey you will be fine, Motherhood is a learning thing. You will know what to do with your little one, and the rare times you don't you will learn. its totally a learning experience. but the most wonderful thing that you will ever do. PM me if you wanna talk more

Don’t worry mama. . . it will be fine, I was the same way before my daughter and you will have your moments even with your own. Thank GOD for my cell phone when she was little I was on that thing all the time. Your instincts will kick in more when the baby gets here too. Mine a little later than mosts. Just calm down you have plenty of time to get it down pat

You'll be just fine. It's amazing how your Mommy instincts kick in when you have your own baby. And if worse comes to worse, call your mom! lol. That's what I did, and she was so supportive. And checking to see if baby is breathing is totally normal, I still do that and my baby is 8 1/2 months old! You'll be a great mom. Good luck!

Quoting mommymack4707:“ so i was visiting my mom yesterday and she was taking care of my cousins baby girl for the week. So i ... [snip!] ... heart beat...although my mom kept assuring me she was fine... but i got so worried... and im terrified... am i really ready...”

I was freaked out when I had Jenna 7 years ago, but when they get sick Mommy mode kicks in and you just do what needs to be done. I was not prepared the first time she got sick she stayed awake for 3 days vomiting and the Doc said it was a virus and I had to wait it out, she wouldn't even let her daddy touch her. I was so tired but you just do what needs to be done, then when it is over with you sit down and cry, breathe, freak out or whatever it is you do then check on them over and over.

Quoting mommy2Amonkey:“ 1. no one is truely ready when it comes to being a first time parents..it's a learn as ya go deal...2. ... [snip!] ... you own baby is different...something you can't put up with with someone elses baby you will with yours...3. You can do it...”

this is so true that what you can't put up with for someone's else's baby you can your. I hate when other babies puke on me since I have a weak stomach and throw up easily but when Jenna puked I wiped it up and kissed her little fac, never even got naseous.

No, you are deff not ready. But as soon as you giet that baby out here in the world, your whole life is going to change. It hard, so hard. But as the baby grows so do you. You will learn. Pretty fast too.   good luck hun, and dont cry. everything will be fine. I went threw the same shit. I wish you the best of luck.

ok now im crying again... u guys are so supportive... but the more i think about it the more scared i get... what if i have toddler motherly insticts but newborn instinct just doesnt kick in... ughh hormones and a racing mind are no good for me....

Quoting mommymack4707:“ ok now im crying again... u guys are so supportive... but the more i think about it the more scared i ... [snip!] ... toddler motherly insticts but newborn instinct just doesnt kick in... ughh hormones and a racing mind are no good for me....”

You seriously will be so fine! You'll love your baby and of course want to the best you can for him or her. That's not to say that you'll never make a mistake, cause you will, but just remember that you know what's best for your child. It's hard to explain about motherly instincts... I remember being pregnant with my daughter and reading baby book after baby book, trying to learn everything I could..... I was so scared cause I didn't even know how to dress a baby properly!! But then she was born, and all my worries flew out the window. The first few weeks are hard, cause you're so tired, but honestly you WILL know what to do! Just the fact that you are worried shows how much you already love your baby, and that is the first step!

Quoting Soon2Bmomto2:“ You seriously will be so fine! You'll love your baby and of course want to the best you can for him ... [snip!] ... WILL know what to do! Just the fact that you are worried shows how much you already love your baby, and that is the first step!”

u have no idea.. i think i own every preg book out there and now i started on the first year books today... but its the whole thing that scares me... besides the fact that joe (father ) and i dont live together and i dont know if we will when the baby comes around.. i CANT do this alone... i live with 2 great ppl (one of my best guy friends and my friend nicole) who say they willl help me in anyway they can ... but they know less then i do about babies.. there are times that i want to move back with my mom just so i know someonewill know what they are doing...

I will admit that I did have the full support of my husband, which made things easier, but there are plenty of women who have babies on their own and they manage just fine. Is your mom willing to let you live with her after the baby is born? Or could you just maybe stay at her place for a couple of weeks? My mom was a godsend when my daughter was born. She came and helped with the cooking and cleaning, so I could focus on my baby. That helped soooo much. Also, there is something so comforting about having your mom around   And if you're worried about your friends not knowing about babies, don't worry, they'll know soon enough! lol. A lot of people are so freaked out by newborns, thinking that they're so frail and fragile, but they're a lot tougher than you think! Once they are around the baby, they'll get to know your routine and I bet they'll be a big help to you. Everything will work out just fine. Just relax and try not to stress too much.

Aww honey...

Nobody knows what there doing at first, but it just comes naturally and you and the baby learn together... It really is amazing.

Even if you dont have Joe around right now, or any time soon, you still have every single woman on here ready and willing to support you, especially in times of need!:]

Quoting Bell Jarr:“ Even if you dont have Joe around right now, or any time soon, you still have every single woman on here ready and willing to support you, especially in times of need!:]”

awhhh that was the sweetest thing ever!!