Please someone help me

Omg im sorry im nervous to talk to my friends and shit about this all but i think im gonna go crazy. i am currently living back at my parents house, i left my husband about a month ago we went ot counciling but i just trulely belive its to late and to far past fixable. even though hes trying i dont know if i can do it. and i dont know how to tell him and i dont want to crush him. i love him i always will i jsut dont feel the way i should about him. hes my husband and i dont even want to have sex with him or anything. i really think its unfixable and im not the giving up type, i have just given and given and i feel like there is nothing left. well here is my major issue. our wedding annv. is in like 7 days and i dont know what to do. should i wait and tell him or tell him before, how do i go about something like that im freaking out. i cant take it anymore i need some kind of closure cuz i feel like im dragging him through the mud. and i dont want to be that person that hes holding on to when i really dont think i can.help SOON PLEASE

Honestly there isn't going to be a GOOD time to tell him. Just sit down with him and have a heart to heart and tell him how you feel. He will either take it okay or he won't but you can't really worry about that. Good luck!

i dont know your particular situation but you had a baby recently, thats a really big change in life, you might still be on the hormone roller coster when it comes to sex, ALOT of couples have a little bit of sex in that first year if any sometimes, plus having a baby causing you to see eachothers faults more and pick at them......you might wanna give it more time? good luck with whatever you decide!

Wow! That would be very hard.I think you have to tell him before! That would be very mean to drag it on, where as just stating your opinion is not mean at all. I believe that if you are not happy, do not fake it or try to be someone your not. I am very happy in my marriage, but if I was not, I would not be able to live like that! You have got to be happy too... but telling the truth and fast in my opinion is the nicest thing you can do right now. Also I would never try to make anything work for kids as well... I dont know if that is a factor, but my parents always stayed together for us and now were all grown up and they are not happy and we all can tell. But they are miserable still because they did not do what makes them happy!   good luck to you.

maybe you're going through PPD? You should try counsiling without your hubby before making this huge of a decision.. good luck, mama
btw - your little one was born on my wedding day  

im sorry your going trough something like that. but i say you tell him before.
goodluck mama!

She is right about that too. After I had my kids sex was the last thing on my mind even if it wasn't his. My mood swings were pretty bad although I didn't feel as though I was having any, the stress of having a baby is really hard on a realationship. I almost left my husband several times after I had my daughter and I am so thankful that feeling past. We are going strong! We are about to celebrate our 7 year of being together and our 6th year of being married. I didn't think about you just having a baby, knowing that I would say give it some more time and see how you feel. Some couples let the stress of everything rule and alot more work stick it out. It isn't abnormal to just want to give up.

Quoting Shawnelle:“ Omg im sorry im nervous to talk to my friends and shit about this all but i think im gonna go crazy. ... [snip!] ... him through the mud. and i dont want to be that person that hes holding on to when i really dont think i can.help SOON PLEASE”

Your daughter is a little bit younger than my daughter and let me tell you something honey.... It sucks sometimes, but you have to learn that children change lives... I would still try. Sometimes I fel like that to my hubby and we are working on #2, its part of being married and having a family> If you are truly unhappy then tell him, but I think that you would regret it in the long run if you didnt put a little more effort into it. But remember, we arent in your situation, you are.

Quoting Krista Kay:“ Your daughter is a little bit younger than my daughter and let me tell you something honey.... It sucks ... [snip!] ... regret it in the long run if you didnt put a little more effort into it. But remember, we arent in your situation, you are.”

i agree w/ you...
also she should really think about the good stuff about her hubby and stop thinking about the bad... just work things out. give it more time.

I have really really tried, we had problems before Aurora was born when i was pregnant even at the very begining. its just getting worse. i cant get him to step up and be a man. i did the counciling thing. i tried.
I am the type of person to always put everyone else first and, for the first time in my life i want to be selfish and do whats best for me. we Fight ALL THE TIME, im not saying im perfect but i have tried and tried, and i feel like the longer i stay the worse its gonna get,
he thinks i want to f*ck other people thats why i want this (thats literly what he told me)i tried telling him i want to get my stuff straight and go somewhere in life and im stuck, when im with him. and i want a better life for my daughter.

I felt the same way with my first husband and I did leave and got a divorce. I wouldn't say I regret it because now I'm married to a wonderful guy but therewere some things Ididn't really think about before I acted. Do you really want to have your daughter away from youevery other weekend and not even see her on some holidays? That part still kills me. I didn't want my ex being a big influence on my son andwas part of the reason I left but he still is and is the hero half the time because he isn't around to dothe discipline. He gets to be the good guy 4 days a month and let my son get by with anything he wants. There are lots of things to think about but if you know you want out then I would just tell him.

I'd say if it's really what your feeling then just be honest and tell him. No point in celebrating an anniversary if you don't feel that way for him anymore. Good luck.