re: Do I make the call or not??

Quoting Beth [due 12-25-08]:“ Apparently he's not or else he would be respecting the court order and not jerking her around. ... [snip!] ... every now and then really isn't "something" when it comes to taking care of your child and paying bills. He's getting off easy.”

 

if i may ask how far behind is he now monetarily not time wise because even 50 here and there doesn't really touch what he truly owes i'm sure...

Quoting Beth [due 12-25-08]:“ Apparently he's not or else he would be respecting the court order and not jerking her around. ... [snip!] ... every now and then really isn't "something" when it comes to taking care of your child and paying bills. He's getting off easy.”

So that's an excuse to get his mommy and daddy involved? No, not really. If he's old enough to have a child, he's old enough to take care of his issues without having his mom and dad into it. If she's old enough to have a child with him, she's old enough to face the consequences.

And $50 is a lot better than getting $0.

Quoting Janet_and_Asagai:“ if i may ask how far behind is he now monetarily not time wise because even 50 here and there doesn't really touch what he truly owes i'm sure...”

Right now we arent doing so bad. My calculations are at $500.

Quoting ♥Kitch:“ So that's an excuse to get his mommy and daddy involved? No, not really. If he's old enough to have ... [snip!] ... she's old enough to have a child with him, she's old enough to face the consequences. And $50 is a lot better than getting $0.”

Yeah, it is. She can't go to the courts because he's working the system. Soo yeah, I'd say do whatever you can to get your money because I sure as hell would. And like I've already said apparently he's not "old enough" because he's not doing it.

Quoting ♥Kitch:“ So that's an excuse to get his mommy and daddy involved? No, not really. If he's old enough to have ... [snip!] ... she's old enough to have a child with him, she's old enough to face the consequences. And $50 is a lot better than getting $0.”

Wow, I asked for an opinion. Not an assumption on my life.
I am ASSUMING you are not a single mother.

I completely agree with Beth!! I say, make that call girl!! He's acting childish so show him that when he acts like a child, its his parents that take care of him! lol

Quoting Beth [due 12-25-08]:“ Yeah, it is. She can't go to the courts because he's working the system. Soo yeah, I'd say do whatever ... [snip!] ... your money because I sure as hell would. And like I've already said apparently he's not "old enough" because he's not doing it.”

And, unfortuantly, he should've thought about that before he decided he was old enough to have sex. So should she. No offense OP, but it seems like you might not have thought it all out completely before this child came. He's showing his immaturity, but you can show that you're the bigger person. Going to his family isn't the answer you need, but perhaps sitting him down and maybe giving him a choice might help. With you having full custody, that means that he only gets limited visitation with his daughter as per your wishes, correct? If he doesn't want to help his daughter financially, then he can't see her. Why should he be able to when he's not providing for her? That's a mature decision, considering you're doing it all anyway, and then if his parents ask you about it or come down on you about it, you can tell them that he's not paying you child support. In that sense, they brought themselves into the issue, not you just going to them and whining.

Quoting Ashley[bbylove] Rys Mum:“ I completely agree with Beth!! I say, make that call girl!! He's acting childish so show him that when he acts like a child, its his parents that take care of him! lol”

I don't want to "tell" on him like a kid. He justifies his actions. His parents know how hard I work to take care of my daughter. If anyone can knock some sense into him it would be them, because he doesnt listen to me.

Quoting Kelli Jo & Bebe:“ Wow, I asked for an opinion. Not an assumption on my life. I am ASSUMING you are not a single mother.”

Nope, I have a husband that takes care of his family.

Quoting ♥Kitch:“ And, unfortuantly, he should've thought about that before he decided he was old enough to have sex. ... [snip!] ... not paying you child support. In that sense, they brought themselves into the issue, not you just going to them and whining.”

FYI

It is against the law to with hold visitation from a non-custodial parent based on child support issues. It isnt my daughter's fault.

Quoting ♥Kitch:“ Nope, I have a husband that takes care of his family.”

Congratufuckinlations.
I HAD a husband, and I take care of MY family.

Quoting Kelli Jo & Bebe:“ FYI It is against the law to with hold visitation from a non-custodial parent based on child support issues. It isnt my daughter's fault. ”

I'm not saying it's your daughter's fault, but I'm giving you other mature options rather than telling on him like the 5 year old you don't want to be. If you don't want to hear different point of views, you shouldn't have asked.

Quoting Kelli Jo & Bebe:“ I don't want to "tell" on him like a kid. He justifies his actions. His parents know how hard I work ... [snip!] ... I work to take care of my daughter. If anyone can knock some sense into him it would be them, because he doesnt listen to me.”

Well, yeah.. I was just messin around.. all's I'm saying is that if I was in your position I would call.. there are too many men in this world that get away with that shit.

Quoting ♥Kitch:“ Nope, I have a husband that takes care of his family.”

Your point?

And what is it that she didn't think through? Did she forget to predict that he would turn into a dead beat asshole?