Help...

I have bitched a lot about my fiance on here and I really appreciate all the replies I get. I really do not have many friends because I moved from my home town and lost touch with everyone up there and now in Louisiana, I really just sit at home. I am embarrassed to even post this but I do not know what to do and I know I will probably get replies that I won't like because at this point, I am not ready to leave him and until I am ready nothing will happen but anyways, I caught my fiance twice before texting this number and recieving texts from this girl about how much she loves him and so glad they are together. All that good stuff. He always came up with a story and I forgave him. Well tonight, I just had a feeling and he ALWAYS hides his phone so I decided to find it and read his texts and there are HUNDREDS of texts between him and this girl. How she is going to kill herself if he leaves her and all this and he texts her that they can meet up later at his friend's apartment. He was sleeping and I pumched him right in the face. I feel like a fuckin fool. This is the third time, I caught him and he swears up and down that he feels sorry for her and they are friends and he just tells her stuff to make her happy so she doesnt kill herself. BULLSHIT! Ok, I know I should leave. I know I should. Why am I so naive? He has to be lying. It just doesn't make sense. I checked our phone bill and they talk like hours a day and it has been going on since May. He is the biggie and when I say this please do not judge me. I know I am stupid for staying. I am know I need to grow up and worry about my child. I just really need to get this out. He is 37 and she is 17. She is in high school. It disgusts me. I am so hurt and confused. I would love for him to go to jail and suffer but then I do love him and am having his child. I needed to get it out. I can't sleep. I can't eat. I am so distraught.

oh sweetie...thats awful...and you know what you need to do....I just hope you get the courage to do it...

your children are better off having parents that are split up...than to have to be with parents that are miserable together...

save that phone bill too. because you can use it in court when you divorce him.

Oh god,she is seventeen?!!?

This is more disturbing than anything...damn right you should punch him in the face! That girl is,what,ten years older than his own daughter!

We aren't married so I don't have to worry about that but I am saving it. I want his family to know why I am taking their grandchild and moving a 1000 miles away. Also he is so stupid, how can he think he can be with a child. If he quits talking to her like he says he will she will get mad and say they had sex even if they didn't (i think they did but he won't admit it) and he will be fucked. The police won't believe him.

Quoting AbbyJo'sMomma:“ We aren't married so I don't have to worry about that but I am saving it. I want his family to know why ... [snip!] ... they had sex even if they didn't (i think they did but he won't admit it) and he will be fucked. The police won't believe him.”

well karma is a bitch. he got himself into that mess.

Quoting hellogoodbye:“ Oh god,she is seventeen?!!? This is more disturbing than anything...damn right you should punch him in the face! That girl is,what,ten years older than his own daughter!”

Thank you! He was like I am calling the cops because you punched me in the face. I am 22. Yes we have an age difference but I was never not legal. This girl is closer to his daughters age than to his. He is so disgusting. I can't look at him. I can't be in the same room. But then why can't I leave? I am scared to raise this child by myself. I have no where to go but home with my parents in PA but I am 36 weeks pregnant. I have to wait to have this baby first. I am so confused.

She's 17?

HE IS SCUM! You should have started to have sex with him and bit his dick off.

You need to call her parents too.

Quoting BabyBoyInNovember:“ well karma is a bitch. he got himself into that mess.”

That's how I feel. That is why I am embarrassed that I haven't left yet. He knew how old she was. She was 16 when the first started talking. She turned 17 in June. She isn't close to being legal. He is like you always threaten me because I said I was calling her parents (which are probably his age). I know I have been a bitch lately but how can I sit here and blame this all on myself. He knew what he was doing and when I caught him the first two times he didn't stop. He promised he did.

Quoting OG Brycen's mama:“ She's 17? HE IS SCUM! You should have started to have sex with him and bit his dick off. You need to call her parents too.”

Thats what I said. HE was like I can not believe you punched me in the face. His jaw is so swollen. I was like you are fuckin lucky I didn't cut your fuckin dick off. He should be scared to be sleeping right now. I am fuming. I need to calm for this baby though. I want to call her parents. I am pissed that I haven't. I guess I am just so mad at myself that I am soo stupid and won't call and get him in trouble.

Hes sorry. I know you must feel bad, him running around on you with sum little girl, while you're pregnant with is child. And why would he be friends with a 17 yr old when hes 37? That doesnt make sense.When you're ready to leave, maybeyou should move back to your hometown, and into a new environment all together. Its not healthy to be under this kind of stress while your pregnant too.

I just wish there was an easy fix for you...the fact that you are 36 weeks pregnant doesn't help....I'm so sorry that he is such a disgusting pig....

Right now, you do your best to focus on you and baby and your daughter....Then when baby is here move to Penn. with the parents.

Quoting Bl0ndB0mbshell54:“ Hes sorry. I know you must feel bad, him running around on you with sum little girl, while you're pregnant ... [snip!] ... hometown, and into a new environment all together. Its not healthy to be under this kind of stress while your pregnant too.”

And that is what i want to do. I have thought about going to live with his sister until i have her but I hate leaving Caitlin here. She is his daughter but I am her mother. She considers me her mother and I do too. She doesn't see her real mom. She works at his parents reception hall. I know her, I have worked there. They always talked but I mean meetingup and talking and texting all the time is more than friends.She wrote shecant wait to get knocked up and they get married. He must be saying something for her to say that. He acts like I am a moron and it is one sided.

Quoting BabyBoyInNovember:“ I just wish there was an easy fix for you...the fact that you are 36 weeks pregnant doesn't help....I'm ... [snip!] ... now, you do your best to focus on you and baby and your daughter....Then when baby is here move to Penn. with the parents.”

That is what I keep telling myself. I have a month left and need to stay healthy and calm for the baby and then as soon as I have her and am able to leave, I will move home. I just hate being here for a month. I don't want to be sucked in. I know I am weak. I know I am pathetic. I keep putting myself down and I hate it.

omg, I am so sorry that you are being treated this way!! Hes lucky cause if that was me, I WOULD have cut his dick off!! Or atleast punched him in the face and on his gooroo!!! I would call the girl from his phone and find out for sure what is going on. Let her know that you are going to be calling her parents if she doesnt tell you the truth. And then after you get off the phone with her, call them anyways   chances are mom and dad are paying for everything and think that they have a little angel. Hopefully they'll stand up and be parents and put a stop to it. Good Luck and I hope that everything works out for you!!!

Quoting AbbyJo'sMomma:“ That is what I keep telling myself. I have a month left and need to stay healthy and calm for the baby ... [snip!] ... for a month. I don't want to be sucked in. I know I am weak. I know I am pathetic. I keep putting myself down and I hate it.”

don't feel bad. you aren't weak. guys like that just put you down and make you feel worthless so that you won't leave them because you think you can't do any better or that you have to put up with it or whatever. you are not the only woman who feels that way. its his fault. not yours. there are women's "shelters" that are for women who are abused. and abuse is not just physical. its emotional. and i would consider what he is doing emotional abuse. they help you build up the courage and strength to leave and know that you deserve better and shouldn't be treated that way. i don't know you. but i can make a good assumption that you are a good partner, mother, and friend. you are beautiful and probably have an equally beautiful heart. you deserve the world because i'm positive you give the world to those you love. hang in there girl. be strong. and remind yourself that you are not pathetic. you are not weak. and if you ever need to talk you can message me.