re: Help...

Quoting Rachael J:“ omg, I am so sorry that you are being treated this way!! Hes lucky cause if that was me, I WOULD have ... [snip!] ... Hopefully they'll stand up and be parents and put a stop to it. Good Luck and I hope that everything works out for you!!!”

I am waiting until he has been asleep for a while and going to get his phone. It jsut makes me sick reading the messages though. I am going to call her. I have her number but she won't answer on my phone. I am getting her house number from his sister tomorrow because she works for his parents reception hall so she should have her house number. I don't know her last name. I just need to stay strong and not give into him. Thank you !

And you keep puttin yourself down and havin low self-esteem, is exactly what he wants.If he sees that he can get away with it, and u believe his lies or excuses, then he'll continue totalk & do whatever else with this girl. So proves what has happened in the past. You're NOT pathetic. Just confused, andi understand why, b/c its your babys daddy.

Quoting BabyBoyInNovember:“ don't feel bad. you aren't weak. guys like that just put you down and make you feel worthless so ... [snip!] ... be strong. and remind yourself that you are not pathetic. you are not weak. and if you ever need to talk you can message me.”

Thank you. That made me cry. I am a mess tonight. I know I am a good partner and have done nothing in this relationship but love him. I supported him financilly for 2 years and I raise his daughter. I raise her as my own and that is what hurts too. I hate leaving her. I love her so much and she doesn't have a mother who cares about her. The only reason me and him could fight tonight is bc she is staying at a friends. IF she was here, I would of ignored the situation until she was not around. She does not deserve to hear us fight. She doesnt deserve to have a fuckin loser as a dad. I wish I could take her with me. She is everything to me. That is how I feel, does he think thsi 17 year old will just come in here and raise his daughter. She is a child herself. I don't want Caitlin to see this. She knows about this girl though because she told me something about daddy's girlfriend they went and saw the other day. I knew something was up.

Quoting BabyBoyInNovember:“ don't feel bad. you aren't weak. guys like that just put you down and make you feel worthless so ... [snip!] ... be strong. and remind yourself that you are not pathetic. you are not weak. and if you ever need to talk you can message me.”

Thank you. That made me cry. I am a mess tonight. I know I am a good partner and have done nothing in this relationship but love him. I supported him financilly for 2 years and I raise his daughter. I raise her as my own and that is what hurts too. I hate leaving her. I love her so much and she doesn't have a mother who cares about her. The only reason me and him could fight tonight is bc she is staying at a friends. IF she was here, I would of ignored the situation until she was not around. She does not deserve to hear us fight. She doesnt deserve to have a fuckin loser as a dad. I wish I could take her with me. She is everything to me. That is how I feel, does he think thsi 17 year old will just come in here and raise his daughter. She is a child herself. I don't want Caitlin to see this. She knows about this girl though because she told me something about daddy's girlfriend they went and saw the other day. I knew something was up.

Quoting Bl0ndB0mbshell54:“ And you keep puttin yourself down and havin low self-esteem, is exactly what he wants.If he sees that ... [snip!] ... So proves what has happened in the past. You're NOT pathetic. Just confused, andi understand why, b/c its your babys daddy.”

That is totally true. He knows I am upset with myself and turned the situation on me again tonight. Saying I am a bitch and how can he stay with a bitch. All that bullshit and I got so upset. I need to stay strong and am going to do everything in my power to do that. I say this now and I need to stick to my guns.

He caught me on his phone... YAY!! He called her and told her its over. Now lets see what happens tomorrow. I am going to try and sleep... Thanks for listening

Whats over? I thought that they didnt have any thing going? She was just a friend that he felt sorry for?? He busted himself!!! I would still keep a close eye on him, and let him know that your in control!! Dont let him think that he just got away with it!!!

Quoting Rachael J:“ Whats over? I thought that they didnt have any thing going? She was just a friend that he felt sorry ... [snip!] ... still keep a close eye on him, and let him know that your in control!! Dont let him think that he just got away with it!!!”

I changed his number today but I still don't trust him. I don't know if I ever will. I can't sleep. I can't eat. I am fuckin miserable. He admits it was something now. It is all just a bunch of lies. EWw

Quoting AbbyJo'sMomma:“ That's how I feel. That is why I am embarrassed that I haven't left yet. He knew how old she was. She ... [snip!] ... this all on myself. He knew what he was doing and when I caught him the first two times he didn't stop. He promised he did.”

Don't let him make you think you are in any way responcible for him,as a 37yrold man,messing around with a 17yr old girl:-(.
No matter how "bitchy" you say you were,your fiance chose to mess with this child's head,and her body.
And lied to you about it all.
He must have figured that this would crush you if you found out, but getting what he wants,when he wants,obviousley means more to him than the devastation he would cause you,
no to mention whatever sick thrill he gets from manipulating this 16-17 year old who is threatening to kill herself.That wouldn't bother him too much,huh? 
And you are NOT weak or pathetic! You are a woman in her final weeks of pregnancy who has just learned that her fiance is sleeping with a young girl only a few years older than her stepduaghter.That's enough to rock any grown woman's world...I can only imagine what the hormones are adding to the mix.
The more I read about this man,the more I loathe his type.

By the way,what you wrote about only being able to fight cause Caitlin wasn't there, shows you that you are a lot stronger than you realize.You put her first,even during this.

Quoting hellogoodbye:“ Don't let him make you think you are in any way responcible for him,as a 37yrold man,messing around ... [snip!] ... to fight cause Caitlin wasn't there, shows you that you are a lot stronger than you realize.You put her first,even during this.”

I love everyone on BG. I do not know what i would do without ya'll. Thank you. You make me feel so much better. I am disgusted. I know I need to take care of myself for the baby. I need to thik about the baby. I am trying to be a grown woman but believe it has been hard through this.