re: why you don't want to be a statistic in wikipedia

Quoting PaigeLatisha:“ ”

i agree. i lived at my moms house when i was pregnant with my first son, i was still in high school. but i moved out i believe it was my junior year and started paying everything, well me and my boyfriend. i haven't paid for a wedding yet because we haven't gotten married yet. but i completely agree about the thinking newborns are a new "handbag". Its not so much the living with mom and dad part that makes me mad, its the ones that have the babies then leave them at home for mom and dad to raise so they can go run around and not take care of their responsibility.

Quoting Mara:“ you girls are amazing and inspirational! i am so glad to hear these things... i really do think that ... [snip!] ... for it-- that is exactly the opposite of the correct response. keep the good stories coming! prove the statistics wrong!”

Im confused what statistic are they trying not to be apart of? If you are a pregnant teen YOU are the STATISTIC.. I was 16 when I had my first child, graduated high school went on to the army , met my husband and now we have children of our own as well. I will say I waited until 22 yo to become a mother again. Reguardless of maturatity status at 14,15,16,17 yo , you are a differnt person at elder ages, I am way difffernt then I was at 22 and I am not 27, I find myself enjoying the little quarks rather than surviving. Im not saying its bad to be a teen mom just saying that waiting for most is the better option IMO

Quoting dizylizy12:“ Im confused what statistic are they trying not to be apart of? If you are a pregnant teen YOU are the ... [snip!] ... quarks rather than surviving. Im not saying its bad to be a teen mom just saying that waiting for most is the better option IMO”

oops now 27 .. SIGH LOL @ NOT.. man I wish...

Quoting dizylizy12:“ Im confused what statistic are they trying not to be apart of? If you are a pregnant teen YOU are the ... [snip!] ... quarks rather than surviving. Im not saying its bad to be a teen mom just saying that waiting for most is the better option IMO”

the statistics that indicate that teen mothers are less likely to take care of their health while pregnant, that they'll get pregnant again w/in a year after giving birth, that their kids are less likely to graduate, more likely to engage in criminal activities and such.

thost are all statistics they don't want to be a part of. the mere fact of being pregnant as a teenager doesn't mean they have to also become a negative statistic as well.

i absolutely agree that it's optimum to have a child later, but what's done is done-- and the young women on here need to be made aware of what they're up against.

everyone knows to eat right when your preggo, and adults eat just as unhealthy. i ate healthy for him. and im a teen mom and the doctors say my baby boy is VERY advanced for his age. also, i am going to teach him the right values and morals, just like i would if i were 30. so yeah it isnt true, atleast not in my case.

Quoting Specs06:“ To start off I think all of those statistics are biased. Oh, and probably almost everyone's grandmother ... [snip!] ... quite old "enough". My question is WHY NOT LOOK DOWN ON THEM FOR BEING SELFISH instead of looking down on us for being young?”

I have never agreed with anyone as much as i agree with you!
Im 18, and expecting my first,
Im now engaged, i have my own house, still working full time being almosy 8 months pregnant, My mom had me at 22, my gramma had her at 20,
I graduated with honours 6 months early.
i've worked for everything i own and have not needed financial support form anyone,

GO TEEN MOM'S!!

Quoting JenniferBarclay:“ I have never agreed with anyone as much as i agree with you! Im 18, and expecting my first, Im ... [snip!] ... months early. i've worked for everything i own and have not needed financial support form anyone, GO TEEN MOM'S!! ”

AGREE.
i turned 19 the day after my son was born. i was engaged for a year befor that. we have our own house[3bedroom], two vehicles, we both work full time plus my fiance works atleast 10hrs over overtime a week. we both graduated high school, me with honors. and we both went to college.

Quoting DuVaLMoMMa:“ i think most of that is BULL! im 21 years old and on my 3rd baby. i havent had the best of times but ... [snip!] ... responsibility and not running and having an abortion and at least stepping up to be a good mom and be responsible! THANK YOU!”

yep! i agree! and for those saying we are some of the "lucky"ones... i say it has nothing to do with luck! its hard work and and a lot of maturity! we wouldnt have succeeded if we were your typical uneducated, irresponsible teens. i earned my mommy title. i didnt just get it out of "luck" THANK YOU!

Quoting mariibabii:“ yep! i agree! and for those saying we are some of the "lucky"ones... i say it has nothing to do with ... [snip!] ... if we were your typical uneducated, irresponsible teens. i earned my mommy title. i didnt just get it out of "luck" THANK YOU!”

AGREED! couldnt have said it better!

I just have one thing to say.....Wikipedia is not a credible encyclopedia site. My high school does not even allow it to be a source for research papers. Anyone that has an account can get on and make changes to the site. I could get on there and write a bunch of false statistics that sounded okay and it would be posted. So, in the future, when you want to condemn people and try to give them "information," you should probably use a better source.

Quoting Corinne LaGore:“ I just have one thing to say.....Wikipedia is not a credible encyclopedia site. My high school does not ... [snip!] ... So, in the future, when you want to condemn people and try to give them "information," you should probably use a better source.”

can you show me where i've "condemned" anyone?

and obviously you haven't read through the topic and seen how i backed up all those statistics... several times over.

Quoting Mara:“ can you show me where i've "condemned" anyone? and obviously you haven't read through the topic and seen how i backed up all those statistics... several times over.”

I actually did read the whole thing. I've always been open to other people's words...I just don't think you should have posted that in the teen pregnancy section. You haven't experienced being a teen mother, so you can't form a truthful opinion on the matter. You may think you know certain things, but a lot of things about being a teen mother are different from what a text book or website says. A lot of the girls agree with me when saying, you have no room to tell us these things. You can speak freely of course. You may not understand because you are older, but the things you said are very well critisizing people for making certain choices. Like some of the girls said, we've earned our mother title and we can take care of our children just fine. We don't need statistics that are not proven to be true warning us how to live our lives.

Quoting Corinne LaGore:“ I actually did read the whole thing. I've always been open to other people's words...I just don't ... [snip!] ... take care of our children just fine. We don't need statistics that are not proven to be true warning us how to live our lives.”

okay, the title of the post is: "why YOU don't want to be a statistic ..." , not why YOU are a statistic.

and if you had read the whole thing you would have seen that i backed up all my stats multiple times-- that these stats are indeed a reflection of reality.

experiencing being a teen mother isn't the only way to be qualified to give advice on the challenges of being a teen mom... observation, research, and starting website full of teen moms are three things that have me fairly certain that what i've posted here is both useful and important.

if the statistics don't apply to you, great. if they do, well, perhaps that's the reason you're telling me that i "have no room"-- when i actually have more perspective on the issue than most teen moms currently do.

i'm not critisizing anyone, i'm warning teen moms about the risks associated w/ being a teen mom-- to make you and all teen moms aware and willing to do more, to defy the statistics and ensure that you don't end up w/ your children perpetuating the cycles of chaos, crime, and neglect that is associated w/ being the child of a teen mom.

Quoting ~Missing My Soldier~:“ I think its funny that most teens now days think its "cool" to have kids. They think in their heads that..."hmmm, ... [snip!] ... out gf pregnant) Now teen lives off welfare and tax payers get to pay for it!!! Yippeee, please keep spreading your legs!!”

Thats rediculous. And just because you meet in highschool, doesn't mean you can't stay together. My boyfriends parents started dating when they were both in 8th grade, and would still be together now if he didn't pass away 9 years ago. And it's not a matter of spreading your legs. For instance, he was the first guy I have loved and it just so happened that we got pregnant. No matter what your age, pregnancy is a beautiful thing once it's happening to you.

Quoting Corinne LaGore:“ Thats rediculous. And just because you meet in highschool, doesn't mean you can't stay together. My ... [snip!] ... it just so happened that we got pregnant. No matter what your age, pregnancy is a beautiful thing once it's happening to you.”

not true... i like your optimism, but there are more than a few pregnancies that are downright tragic... whether b/c they end in miscarriage/stillbirth or b/c the mom abuses drugs throughout.