re: why you don't want to be a statistic in wikipedia

yupp well alot of it isnt true.

Quoting aidens_mommy_5808:“ yupp well alot of it isnt true.”

Excuse me? How is it not?

Come back in 30 years and tell me you don't fall under any of those statistics and we'll talk. But it's the people who don't believe them, who end up being on of them. You can't be ignorant and ignore them, you have to recognize them and get passed them and prove everyone, including yourself wrong.

Quoting lyssababy07:“ Excuse me? How is it not? Come back in 30 years and tell me you don't fall under any of those statistics ... [snip!] ... can't be ignorant and ignore them, you have to recognize them and get passed them and prove everyone, including yourself wrong.”

Seriously, there is no getting through to the girls on here saying "It's all bullshit" when CLEARLY it is not. Take a look around, there are many many teenage mothers who fall into this category. Just because "you" may not be one of them doesn't make it untrue! If it doesn't apply to your life or situation then what are you offended about? Yknow..

Quoting lyssababy07:“ Excuse me? How is it not? Come back in 30 years and tell me you don't fall under any of those statistics ... [snip!] ... can't be ignorant and ignore them, you have to recognize them and get passed them and prove everyone, including yourself wrong.”

LOL OKAY HUNNY.
i have a job & i do great in school.
& i have ag reat family.
so stop getting SO hyped on statistics k ?
& worry about youreselves.

Quoting lyssababy07:“ Excuse me? How is it not? Come back in 30 years and tell me you don't fall under any of those statistics ... [snip!] ... can't be ignorant and ignore them, you have to recognize them and get passed them and prove everyone, including yourself wrong.”

LOL OKAY HUNNY.
i have a job & i do great in school.
& i have ag reat family.
so stop getting SO hyped on statistics k ?
& worry about youreselves.

Quoting lyssababy07:“ Excuse me? How is it not? Come back in 30 years and tell me you don't fall under any of those statistics ... [snip!] ... can't be ignorant and ignore them, you have to recognize them and get passed them and prove everyone, including yourself wrong.”

LOL OKAY HUNNY.
i have a job & i do great in school.
& i have ag reat family.
so stop getting SO hyped on statistics k ?
& worry about youreselves.

Quoting Sugar Mommy 2 More Weeks:“ Seriously, there is no getting through to the girls on here saying "It's all bullshit" when CLEARLY ... [snip!] ... be one of them doesn't make it untrue! If it doesn't apply to your life or situation then what are you offended about? Yknow..”

& im affended because theres more great teen moms then shitty ones.

Quoting aidens_mommy_5808:“ & im affended because theres more great teen moms then shitty ones.”

yeah, maybe the ones you know. but you don't know every teen mom in the world do you? a lot of the teen moms on here ARE great moms and don't follow the statistics but that's because the ones who do follow them probably are not going to be "wasting their time" on a pregnancy website. A lot of teen mothers live in poverty, and in the ghettos...places where you haven't seen them. They're not on the computer chatting with other mothers because they're out NOT taking care of their children and getting into drugs and other things of that nature. It's obvious that you aren't around teen mothers like this but that doesn't mean they don't exist.

I used to hang out with a bad crowd and I knew a girl who had a 2 year old son whom she gave birth to at the age of 16. She didn't have a job and she basically lived off welfare checks every month where she rarely spent that money on her son but drugs like crack. I had actually seen this young women, who had a beautiful little son, doing crack and shooting up at the age of 18. And now, I'm sad to say she is also due this month with her second child and the father is now in jail. It's great that you have a supportive and loving family but not everyone does. This girl hadn't seen her father since she was a baby and her mother had recently died because she had aids (from shooting up) so she didn't have a nice home life or people helping her and guiding her like you do. She is a prime example of the statistics and not the only one. Reading this post made me immediately think of her. Just because you don't see it, doesn't make it any less of a reality.
Before I met this girl, I never saw the dark side of teen pregnancies either but I know they exist. Don't be naive or offended by these statistics. Having knowledge about it can only make you want to better yourself and those around you.

Quoting aidens_mommy_5808:“ & im affended because theres more great teen moms then shitty ones.”

I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but that isn't true in the least bit. I'm not trying to be rude to you, I'm just trying to make you realize that the statistics ARE true and they happen everyday. You just need to step up and take YOUR responsibilities and make sure you don't end up being one of those statistics, or your child.

Quoting aidens_mommy_5808:“ LOL OKAY HUNNY. i have a job & i do great in school. & i have ag reat family. so stop getting SO hyped on statistics k ? & worry about youreselves.”

I do worry about myself, to make sure I DON'T end up as a statistic, you may be doing great while you're pregnant, but sorry honey, actually having a baby in your arms who needs you 24/7 is nothing like being pregnant.

Quoting lyssababy07:“ I do worry about myself, to make sure I DON'T end up as a statistic, you may be doing great while you're ... [snip!] ... while you're pregnant, but sorry honey, actually having a baby in your arms who needs you 24/7 is nothing like being pregnant.”

& i actually i am there with him 24/ 7 thanks.

Quoting aidens_mommy_5808:“ & i actually i am there with him 24/ 7 thanks.”

That was my bad, didn't realize you already had your son. But that doesn't mean you have to get all defensive and explain yourself like you're doing with EVERY post. I'm sorry, it just makes you look insecure with being a teen mom.

Quoting lyssababy07:“ That was my bad, didn't realize you already had your son. But that doesn't mean you have to get all ... [snip!] ... and explain yourself like you're doing with EVERY post. I'm sorry, it just makes you look insecure with being a teen mom.”

well im not at all.
im defending other teen moms.

Quoting aidens_mommy_5808:“ well im not at all. im defending other teen moms.”

Okay, I understand that. I'm not trying to sound rude at all, because I'm a teen mom myself and I had my daughter at 15, too. But I'm just staying that you can't ignore the statistics and pretend they're not there, because they are and the sad thing is is most teen moms aren't the great moms you seen on this site because just like Sugar Mommy said above, they wouldn't be on this site wasting their time. You just need to step up and get past the statistics and prove everyone wrong, which so far seems like you're doing a great job.

Quoting aidens_mommy_5808:“ well im not at all. im defending other teen moms.”

you don't need to defend anyone b/c i'm not attacking anyone... all i'm doing is pointing out a reality that i hope can change.

young women such as yourself and many of the women who've posted in this thread are living examples of how it's possible to be more than a statistic, but that doesn't make the statistics false-- statistics are averages and medians, percentages and probabilities. which numerically speaking, means it's fully possible to not be an average or to escape the probability of being a bad parent.

don't take it personally that there are bad teen moms out there... it's just the way it goes when you have people who are still mentally and emotionally kids being forced to raise their own kids.

you've decided to be responsible-- that's great, but there's just no way in the world that we can pretend that being a teen mom is a wonderful thing, even if you are doing your best.

your teenage years are supposed to be spent focusing on getting your life together-- getting your education, figuring out what sort of living/career you'd like to have, learning how to navigate relationships, developing your own ethics and morals, and just enjoying the last years where you're not fully an adult...

the reality is: once you become a mother (and it's sad and extremely unfair how often the girl is left to fend for her child and herself w/ no support from the father), you are forced to be constantly responsible for a tiny helpless completely vulnerable baby.

this makes it much more difficult to finish your basic education, much less get into college, get a high-paying job or even a job that pays decent living wages, or learn how to navigate a relationship w/out the added stress of a child. (the divorce rates sky-rocket once you add a child to the mix, no matter what age the couple is).

and no offense to you personally, but the number of teens getting offended by what i'm saying here is a clear testament to their inability to read and/or think clearly-- instead they become defensive and unwilling to acknowledge that-- yes, teen parents have a difficult road and many fail at the expense of their child. this is a rather obvious example of why being a teen parent isn't a good thing-- b/c you need to slow down and take the time to think this through-- to not assume that b/c i'm posting statistics about teens i'm attacking you personally, which i'm not.

all i want: is for every single teen mom (and dad-- if they'd be so brave as to take their share of the responsibility for that tiny child) to find their place in the world-- to receive love and support from their families (sadly, this is often the last place they get support) so they can finish their education and feel the freedom and confidence to continue educating themselves beyond highschool, and to realize that although a portion of their childhood has been stolen from them, they are fully capable of becoming more than a statistic.

thankfully, i have seen young women come on here time and again w/ the story of how they're in college now ... working towards a brighter bigger future for themselves and their child.