re: why you don't want to be a statistic in wikipedia
posted 1st Dec '06
Wow, Im glad to know..I beat all of those statistics. Im 21 have a 4 year old and am pregnant with my second baby. I gained 75 lbs in my first pregnancy, and Im a stay at home mom purely so that Im sure my son is getting enough affection and attentionquote
posted 4th Dec '06
Wow...that's an awful post. It's very sad how young women are so stereotyped and it's things like that which make it very difficult for young women who are pregnant or who have children to have to deal with those stereotypes. I'm 19 and 9 months pregnant with my little boy and the looks I receive just shopping for groceries is amazing, like I'm something that should be showcased at the zoo. A woman's age has nothing to do with the love she shares with her child nor does age determine how good of a mother she is or will be. It's almost as if I am constantly having to justify myself to other people because of those stereotypes and "statistics." I am curious as to where those statistics are gotten from and from whom they are written by. I think if anything, a young teenage mother should be admired especially for all her strength and independence not looked down upon with "statistics" being shoved down her throat as not every woman is the same.
What I find to be the most terrible is telling young woman who are pregnant that their babies have higher chances for birth defects and so on. I believe that that may apply for pregnant teens who drink alcohol or don't eat well, etc., but it's a shame that "statistics" don't include that, they just apply it to all pregnant teens.
I understand also that Mara was meaning well but pregnant teens already know and have to deal with those stereotypes/statistics so posting it only reminds them about how untrue they are and how much more they have to struggle to explain themselves.
posted 4th Dec '06
i am happy to say i will not be apart of those statistics!!i have a 3.7 gpa in high school . iam a sophomore. my boyfriend and i mad a mistake but i odnt regret it now that isee and feel my baby boy!!i love him to much!! and i can assure you he will not be adding to those statistics.
also i eat really healthy.and i am going to make sure my baby does too!!ALSO i wont have another baby til i am married when i am 18.or 19
posted 5th Dec '06
pff. my great grandmother had her first baby at 14 and had 9 there after. She was a great little lady. She picked cotton for a living and worked hard. Those were different times and It wasnt a big deal...my grandfather told me when I got pregnant at 16...old enough to bleed...old enough to breed. Its gross yeah. But nowdays girls are getting periods at 9 years old!!! I started when I was 11. A 9 year old is not old enough to understand the responsibilities of a baby! its gotta be the hormones in the food thats produced nowdays or something.quote
posted 6th Dec '06
i also seen that on wiklapedia and just cryed i think thats horrible but i know it is also true in some cases but i am 15 and due on june 29th i quite smoking as soon as i found out and i dont drink or do any drugs and i am eating heathy i know what i am up against being so young and i hope that other girls my age will see that the little baby in you belly is so much more important then anything elese you do... i think most i am just a lil emotional this last week but its so so very sad and hurts that because of some teen moms that we are all at first labeled as bad mom... other teen moms please prove these wrong...quote
posted 7th Dec '06
I don't think we should stereotype. It IS important to get these facts out there. But its more important to get information about proper birth control and protection. Just all around good sex education! Lets face it, people are afraid to talk about sex. Just because you get pregnant as a teen doesnt mean you will be a bad mother. Getting pregnant as a "grown-up" doesn't mean you will be a GOOD mother! I had my first child at 18. I would like to think that I am one heck of a good mother and I love my children to death. I've never been a fan of stereo-typing. quote
posted 15th Dec '06
I just have to say that it is really sad what the world is coming to on the negativity based on facts and statistics.
I have to say, that the BAD teen moms give us good ones a bad name, and its a shame because you never see on the news "Respected teen mom, working hard" etc.
I got pregnant when i was 15, i had a great family, a lot of money, was on the varsity cheerleading squad and was loving life. Unlike MOST teen moms, i decided to KEEP my child, because abortion is murder in my opinion. I dropped out of cheerleading, stopped going out, and did everything i was supposed to, to have a healthy happy pregnancy.
After my son was born, I GRADUATED high school with a diploma not a ged...moved out of my parents house, got a job AND went to college, and still took wonderful care of my son without his father around.
I to this day do not go out with friends, my son is only dropped off at my parents wheni work, and from day one i have been a responsible adult that i needed to be....and its sad that people look at you with opinions and judgment when people like myself are better than most "Adult" parents.
posted 17th Dec '06
posted 18th Dec '06
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posted 18th Dec '06
I am 17 years old, I am going to have a baby boy on Feburary 24th. I cannot say I was thrilled at the idea of having a child this early and it certainly wasn't planned! But my baby is NOT a mistake...When my baby boy arrives in this world I will take full responsibility for my actions and This baby will be the most important thing to me. I am staying in school and I am going to get my high school diploma, I have my family, and my baby's daddy (whom I have been with 3 years) and his family, behind me..Yes I will admit it will be hard, but I know I can do it. I just hate that I see no support from anyone else, like yes when you type in Teenage Pregnancy in Google, you get no sites that offer advice. I don't like that, most of us who look up teenage pregnancy are already pregnant so we need advice no criticism, because the more they don't believe in us and criticize us the more we feel like we cannot do it, but we can, we all can. It just takes the strength & courage. I am so excited to be a mother, even though this was not planned, I am scared at the same time I don't what to expect and it just makes me wonder.
My mother had her first child when she was 16, I can say it was very hard for her, but she made it, and is the BEST MOTHER EVER, she passed away when I was 14, but I will always remember how great of a mother she was to her 3 kids.
My Sister Saskia had a baby when she was 15, she was in 8th grade, but she finished and now just had her second son, she is doing so great and being the best mom she can be. I look up to my mom and my sister not because they got pregnant at a young age but they dealt with their consequences and made the best of it. They succeeded in life.
Well Take Care Everyone & Have fun.
posted 19th Dec '06
i have always hated paople bringing up this subject because everyone thinks they are worlds greatest mother as soon as they pop out a child but honestly it takes time to be a mother no matter how old you are i was 15 (2 weeks before my 16th bday)when i had my son and i had alot of learning to do i lived with my mom until i was 17 and moved out on my own no government help no babys daddy just me and my boy and yes i will admit it was the hardest thig i had ever done in my life but it was the most profound thing to do and i needed to do it i lived close to my mom (no i didnt mooch her for anything) just in case i couldnt do it and my son was going without but that didnt happen my son had what he needed at all times and and what he wanted most of the time he is loved and cared for just as a 30 year old mother would do for her child i am now 18 and am pregnant with my second child would be third but had a miscarriage last year... and i am getting married in march 2008 and have 3 soon to be step children. and i am a very proud parent of all of them... I hate people who look at the old statistics from way back when most of it is not current . yes there are alot of teen parents who cant take care of their kids but there are also alot of them who do so whoever started this topic needs to quit labeling us as teen mothers and leave it at just mothers I take great offense to whoever started this topic... it is not just pointed at mothers who dont know how to raise or treat their kids it is pointed at all of us teen mothersquote
posted 19th Dec '06
Yes I agree with you morebabies! We might be teens but we are just as well mothers as all the rest of them, so stop labeling us as teen mothers. Anyone can be a great mother no matter how old you are. Thanks, Take Care and Have fun!quote
posted 21st Dec '06
One thing I would really like to point out -
Statistics are just that - STATISTICS. The truth is, there are a lot of teens who turn out to make great mothers. There are also many teens who don't give a damn about there babies. There are older women who are HORRIBLE mothers, and some of them are fantastic. My mom smoked all through her pregnancy & never took prenatals - she had three healthy babies. STATISTICS just say the liklihood of something that could happen. It's like flipping a coin, because even if there's a 99.9% chance of something, SOMEONE WILL BE THE .1%. Quite frankly, I think people are putting too much ambition into pointing fingers, saying that the statistics are wrong. How do you know? Maybe the reason that there are so many successful teen mothers in a forum is because (I'm just assuming) you obviously aren't that bad off if you still have an internet connection - correct? I don't know many people who're on welfare yet still have the internet.
I am 17 years old, I got pregnant from a drunken one-night-stand. People can tell me that I'm not going to love my baby. Guess what, I wanted an abortion, but my parents wouldn't let me. Know what? I dealt with it - I'm pregnant now, and I'm going to have a baby boy. Why not make the best of it? I'm not going to piss & moan about it, I'm gonna love Kaden w.all my heart, who cares about statistics? There will always be people out there who will fall into that .1% of the population. To bet on the odds is just downright STUPID.
STOP BEING OFFENDED BY THE STATISTICS, girls. The only point the person who wrote the first post was to inform you on what could very easily happen. And maybe it's a good thing that all of the times we google teen pregnancy bad statistics pop up - it gives us a reason to fight back & prove people wrong. So, you can sit and complain about it, or you can realize that it's NOT that huge of a deal. Beat the odds, don't just sit there and deny them.
posted 22nd Dec '06
Yes, Let's prove Them Wrong People. Why whine/Complain, it will only lead us nowhere in life, Let's show everyone we can be great mom's no matter what our age. quote
posted 28th Dec '06
I am 19, about to be 20. I am going to school, have a beautiful 14 month old, and i have one on the way. I am married, have all the support I need, and yeah money isn't great. I'm happy and so is my child. She smiles at me and my husband every day. She is the happiest baby in the world. I'm not on walefare, yeah I was on WIC, but that benifited me and my baby. It helped me know what to eat, how much, tought me how to breastfeed my child. You can find help, and just because you need walefare dosen't mean your a bad person. Yeah thaie are many people who abuse it, but not everyone. Hell I've been paying into walefare since I was 16 years old, when I started to work. Why can't you get back what you helped other people with?? I am 19, proud of my life, proud of the fact I was 4 months along when I accepted my diploma from high school, proud of the fact i'm a mother, wife, and still am finishing my education. Books are facts, staticts, not more so reality.quote