re: why you don't want to be a statistic in wikipedia

Quoting Ravey Candyass:" <blockquote><b>Quoting storms mommy:</b>" no, thats not why. we get defensive because ... [snip!] ... YOU. You're taking it too seriously. Look at it from an unbiased point of view. These things are true, but you can change it."

they are true to a point, they are just as true for grown women, as they are for teens. that person that posted this was saying that teen moms in general, i have looked at it from an unbiased point of veiw, and i still think the same damn thing lady! GET OFF OUR Smurf! go say that "you care about the lives of our children and unborn children" as if you actually have ever met them or ever will you dont know anything sweety you are just judgemental, and straight up stupid for saying that this is how everyone is, but it can be changed, grown women have done a far more worse job than i have or my sister, another teen mom. get to know us before you go running your mouth and posting stupid smurf like this and not expecting that us teen parents arent going to get upset.

<blockquote><b>Quoting storms mommy:</b>" they are true to a point, they are just as true for grown women, as they are for teens. that person that ... [snip!] ... you go running your mouth and posting stupid smurf like this and not expecting that us teen parents arent going to get upset."</blockquote>
But why get upset? There's no need to

Quoting Ravey Candyass:" <blockquote><b>Quoting storms mommy:</b>" they are true to a point, they are just as ... [snip!] ... this and not expecting that us teen parents arent going to get upset."</blockquote> But why get upset? There's no need to"

because she has no right to get on here, and tell people that we are all going to turn out like this, and honestly if grown women were being wrote about and have statistics about them, im sure that theyd be pissed too

<blockquote><b>Quoting storms mommy:</b>" because she has no right to get on here, and tell people that we are all going to turn out like this, ... [snip!] ... like this, and honestly if grown women were being wrote about and have statistics about them, im sure that theyd be pissed too"</blockquote>



But nothing is being said personally. These are statistics. Proven facts. If you don't like them, change them-

i am tryign to change them but the negativity from people towards us doesnt really help, my grandparents did the same thing to me about me wanting to be a dancer and i gave up because i had no support in my dream.

<blockquote><b>Quoting storms mommy:</b>" i am tryign to change them but the negativity from people towards us doesnt really help, my grandparents ... [snip!] ... my grandparents did the same thing to me about me wanting to be a dancer and i gave up because i had no support in my dream."</blockquote>



Who is being negative?

by putting negative "facts" on here for us to see them puts us down all together

I give up. Mara, idk how you do it,

thanks for sharing this thread, I find it really interesting

social and family

Quoting storms mommy:" no, thats not why. we get defensive because no one has the room to put these up and pretend they actually ... [snip!] ... like we are smurf and this is how our lives are going to be. you knwo nothing, just because you read it doesnt mean it is true."

oh, don't worry -- there are TONS of statistics about older women, too!

older women who smoke/abuse drugs/have mental disorders/have no partner... and how that negatively impacts the baby's development in the womb and post-natally.

this post is specifically to motivate teens to avoid becoming any of the statistics specific to your demographic.

there are plenty of posts and articles i've written specifically for older women who abuse substances, have stress, have no stable relationship, are mentally or emotionally wounded and so on.

the only difference is that all of these older women KNOW they're in a risky demographic and don't get pissed off by the advice that's given to help them.

whereas this post -- w/out fail, reveals just how quick-to-anger teens are, not to mention how little reading comprehension they have.

I got pregnant with my daughter at 17. I am now 27 and I am pregnant with my 2nd. I graduated with honors from high school, and I am now finishing my bachelors degree is mathematics. I can see a huge difference in the way Doctors, Nurses and generally everyone treats me now in comparison to when I was 17 and pregnant. Before I was treated as though I was an idiot, making bad decisions and what not. I will admit that having a child that young made succeeding in life a struggle. But I know I am a great mom. My daughter is 9 and is so highly educated that she can read at a 9th grade level. She is respectful and well disciplined. Having a child young does not affect how you are going to raise your children, or is any indication that they will have problems. Honestly, I find kids around middle school aged are the worst off, so I must say that it was the previous generation that has let their children run wild. If society would learn to properly disciplined children, educate them and teach them respect and responsibility, then we wouldn't have to even worry so much about this issue in the first place.

And I would like to add, this is not me being argumentative. I was not ready, but I would not change it. I am a strong advocate of responsible sex at least until you have went to college. I see so many young women popping child after child out, and wanting more and more children while working part time minimum wage jobs, living off the government and such. Don't get me wrong, I have needed financial help through college and I have taken advantage of every government grant I can get. But your personality changes so very much between the ages of 18 and 25. How could anyone possibly know what kind of life you want to lead and want to dedicate the rest of their life because you weren't careful enough.

I got pregnant at 16 when i only knew my boyfriend for 2 months. I was on two different birth controls the depo shot and taking the pill. My mother had her first child at 16 and so did her mother. they both did drugs and wernt married. the statistics are real. anyways i ended up getting married at 17 i only knew my boyfriend/fiance for 3 months on our wedding day. he had no job because he was going to school, so we lived off the government for 6 months. we got along perfect we are soulmates and believed this life was meant for us. allthough it could have waited a while but i am now 22 and i did get pregnant again 27 months later whilst on birth control again but damn we were so happy and in a hell of a better financial situation. we did not have our own place off and on and it wasnt cause we were poor we saved up to buy our own place. now i am pregnant with my 3rd 22 weeks along we are building our 3600 sqft home already paid for. and are very happily married.... i beat some of the statistics. i got my ged and did some college, i have never done drugs, never got divorced. my kids are very smart, and unique in thier own way. i am very happy with how my life is turning out. and know a very good number of mothers that dont have any support, are not married, do drugs, live off welfare, cps on thier case, and has had living children die. it is very sad. i also know a handful of great teen mothers not very many. i know so many because they use to be my friends. i have decided to only associate with other married couples with children. anyways to all teen mothers to be, BEAT THE STATISTICS. your not all doomed. and i wish you the best of luck.

Thanks for posting

Quoting Mara:" AUTHOR'S NOTE: Because of the many responses I've received from intelligent and concerned teenage mothers, ... [snip!] ... the world a better place. Please feel free to reply with all and any thoughts you have on this posting! All the best, Mara"

I am currently 17 and nine months pregnant, even so I happen to agree with what you've posted. In my grade alone(this was a weird fluke in a small town) there have been 5 pregnancies in the past year. All of the girls being 16 when they conceived their children. Some have chosen to stay in school(granted the tremendous help from their parents), while others have simply dropped out and remain with their parents. To see this saddens me. I grew up with these girls and its hard to watch their lives go downhill. While one girl is remaining in school, its still very hard for her to be away from her daughter 8 hours a day. I was one of the lucky ones you could say. I wasnt given an option of staying home(not that I would have) so now my partner and I live together in a 2 bedroom apartment. By hard work.. yes I worked.. and have since I was 14, we've managed to set up the house. While I was a drop-out, I've chosen to maintain a GED and continue part time college courses. SO eventually when my son does come to me wiht homework, I will manage to help him.
Its hard to just change your life. For the first 3 or 4 months I was angry, I wanted to be a teenager again. I wanted to get up without being sick( i have hg), go out with friends, smoke my cigarettes, stay up late, wear what I wanted. But by choosing to have sex so young I made the decision to give up my youth. Do I miss my daily monster? Heck ya.. but thats what happens when you choose to have sex. You choose the except the option of becoming a parent. Unfortunately people rarely think of that. I was blessed to have the partner I did, so my journey won't be as hard as some mothers. In general though, being a teen mom is just something that shouldnt happen, but it does. So instead of complaining about how people look down on me for being so young, I hold my head high, and continue to prove everyone wrong.

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