OMG! I can't believe him! *Vent*

OKay, this is purely to vent because I feel like I'm about to implode!
My husband is an ass!
I just woke up, on the couch, to find that my husband seriously went to bed (on my side, no less), leaving me on the couch and little man in his car seat beside me, on the floor, all the lights still on, the front door left open (screen door unlocked even), dishes in the damn sink (I busted my ass all last night cleaning the kitchen and the dishwasher is DIRTY!), his dinner dishes still on the living room floor and the damn trash still on the floor in the hallway (I bag it up and he's suppose to take it down to the garbage can... it's been sitting there since I cleaned, last night!). I'm seriously livid, right now!!!
Yeah, most people would say wake his ass up or yell at him or something but, that will do nothing but get me a guilt trip, start a big ass fight, leave me in tears, etc. I would then get his rant about how he works all F***ing week and he needs a break or how he's trying blah blah blah... DUDE! I'm the one that takes care of our son 24 F***ing 7... I change him, feed him, clothe him, play with him, bathe him, put him to sleep, wake up with him multiple times a night... he, on the other hand gets to sleep through the night EVERY night, do whatever he wants with his time off, every day, hell... he can get a shower whenever he wants... that alone is enough for me to be jealous of!
What the hell happened to the plan? I had completely agreed to get up with him every week night since he had to go to work the next day but, I haven't had
a SINGLE day off in over SIX WEEKS! I'm not looking for even a whole day to myself even but, it'd be nice to be able to go down to the garage and clean out my damn car, to which I haven't seen the back floor since I gave birth or to be able to take a bath... I don't even remember what a bath feels like... UGH!
And tonight I had asked him if it'd be okay with him for me to get an in home helper, like a teenager, to come by for a couple of hours a week just so that I couldn't get things caught up and guess what he says... he doesn't see why we should pay someone to do something that we can do ourselves and to make a list of what I want done and he'll work on it... TWO PAGES... I seriously have a two page list made already... If he can't even manage to take the trash out or put his damn dishes in the dishwasher, how the hell is he going to so much as help with my list?!?
We're suppose to be having a party in the middle of September but, who the hell do you think is going to have to clean the house, prepare the food, set up for the party and then clean up after the party WHILE taking care of an infant? Yeah... that's fair! But, the party means a lot to me because I really want to spend time with lots of friends and with the little man it's hard for me to get out (not because he's an infant but, because he's got acid reflux which is still being worked with plus we're [aka me] having to start over with his sleeping routine.) regularly.
We had gotten into a big fighta few weeks ago about how he wasn't helping and things improved for a few days... then they just started going back to normal... this shit isn't fair (and yes life isn't fair but, come on!).
I seriously find myself wishing that he were deployed, not because I don't love my husband or want him around but, just because then I'd have less to clean up after and would actually have more of a break once in a while. At least then the house would stay clean and I'd be able to relax, a bit, while little man sleeps.
Oh, and he's gonna be upset, with me, when he finds me asleep on the couch instead of coming to bed but, I can't very well even try to sleep in bed with him on my side. His side is right under the A/C and little man winds up in our room, in his car seat, on the floor (it's the only way he'll sleep through the night) after he wakes up the first time because he won't go back to sleep in his crib... so, therefore, I'm left to sleep where? Yeah, the couch... OMFG!!!! This is so F***ed up!!!

Are you sure we're not with the same guy? Haha, seriously he sounds just like my boyfriend. I'm a very vocal person though, so he knows when I'm not happy!

I understand exactly how you feel.   Except it's my mom and brother that screw things up. lol My step dad lives here, too, but he and I are both pretty good at picking up after ourselves.

I can't keep anything clean unless I'm on my feet all day, running around behind them wiping away whatever they spill, rinsing and rewashing their dishes, throwing away used paper towels they just leave on the counter, orange peals, banana peals, YOU NAME IT. Ugh. Plus, mom's coffee maker leaks coffee all over the place...so the counter under it is always stained black. Mm'hmm. Stressful, especially being 32 weeks pregnant. Only 8 weeks until my son is here...how am I supposed to be able to bring a baby home to a clean environment if no one else helps me? Bah.

Quoting ZayZay's Mama:“ Are you sure we're not with the same guy? Haha, seriously he sounds just like my boyfriend. I'm a very vocal person though, so he knows when I'm not happy!”

lol... oh see, it'd be one thing if I hadn't been with him so long but, we've been married over 3 years now... and he's acting as if he's single again.
I think it's kind of obvious that I'm not happy but, he's like oblivious or just doesn't care or something. It's really sad that we're actually going to have to get in a fight again for him to start helping out. And it's just pathetic that afterwards, he'll act as if the fight never happened instead of discussing it or maning up and apologizing. It's childish, really!

Quoting Lilly89:“ I understand exactly how you feel.   Except it's my mom and brother that screw things up. lol My step ... [snip!] ... until my son is here...how am I supposed to be able to bring a baby home to a clean environment if no one else helps me? Bah.”

Lol.. move? You will seriously be going out of your mind by week2 (PP) if they don't get their act together... it's too much to ask for new mom to clean up behind herself, let along anyone else. You really are suppose to do nothing but care for baby and sleep because you need to rest and relax in order to heal yourself, physically and mentally. I'm so glad that little man and I spent an entire week in the hospital (he had jaundice) just because it gave me a chance to sleep before I came home to hell.

Quoting Mommy2Malykai:“ Lol.. move? You will seriously be going out of your mind by week2 (PP) if they don't get their act together... ... [snip!] ... I spent an entire week in the hospital (he had jaundice) just because it gave me a chance to sleep before I came home to hell.”

I honestly feel like I can't raise my son in this environment. It's worse than I described. I just don't want to leave, though. I love my family, they've been amazing...we're just all busy doing our own thing so we don't mesh well when it comes to adding new stuff to our schedules.

This has been on my mind for months, though. I may very well end up having to move out.

Quoting Lilly89:“ I honestly feel like I can't raise my son in this environment. It's worse than I described. I just don't ... [snip!] ... to adding new stuff to our schedules. This has been on my mind for months, though. I may very well end up having to move out.”

You have to do what's best for you and him, not anybody else... funny how I say it but, I don't follow my own advise... kinda diffeent though considering your just talking about moving out of family's house and my situation is with my husband, his dad... I'm definitely not considering leaving but, I totally can't live like this much longer... you'd think he'd be taking advantage of the time he has with us, before he leaves again... he has several detachments (being gone 2 weeks to a month) coming up and deploys again (6 months) just after little man turns one.

Quoting Mommy2Malykai:“ OKay, this is purely to vent because I feel like I'm about to implode! My husband is an ass! I just ... [snip!] ... go back to sleep in his crib... so, therefore, I'm left to sleep where? Yeah, the couch... OMFG!!!! This is so F***ed up!!!”

ugh men! i feel ya hun. my Dh is being the same way. the kitchen is filthy and i just cleaned it two days ago. his dishes and work stuff is every where!!!! what did he do for the last 9 hours? play world of war craft on the computer. when he said 3x in the last week he'd do dishes and take out garbage. i just ended up doing 'em cuz i get sick of looking at it and i need 'em to cook.lol

Quoting toxiraindancer:“ ugh men! i feel ya hun. my Dh is being the same way. the kitchen is filthy and i just cleaned it two ... [snip!] ... week he'd do dishes and take out garbage. i just ended up doing 'em cuz i get sick of looking at it and i need 'em to cook.lol”

I needed to do dishes because otherwise I'd run out of bottles but, didn't want to give in to putting them away (he's suppose to put them away and I load and run the dishwasher) so I started stacking them up on the stove and counter... it took him over a week to finally start putting them away and when he did he acted as if he deserved a damn cookie... and he didn't even put them all away... the pitchers and the casserole dish are STILL sitting there! It's just ridiculous!
It's insane, I actually have to stay up into the wee hours every night just to get things back to decent for the next day....that's why I'm still up now... plus it's my only 'me' time so I watch a show or two, do some stuff online and get done any quiet work I have. It's one thing to make little man sleep through noise during the day but, I expect quiet during bed time so he should get the same, ya know?

Quoting Mommy2Malykai:“ I needed to do dishes because otherwise I'd run out of bottles but, didn't want to give in to putting ... [snip!] ... to make little man sleep through noise during the day but, I expect quiet during bed time so he should get the same, ya know?”

i really wanna know why they expect a damn metal or more play time when they do a lil task. we do it every day and don't ask for a reward. just appreciated. altho i did get some ice cream out of it today.lol yeah def know what ya mean. i get so pissed if dh even talks in another room when i'm trying to sleep. he wants to share the room with the baby when he gets here cuz he's a shelfish and wants the big room. but i'm like i'm the one who's gonna be getting up with him evefy night and he snores so bad. i don't share a room with him cuz of it. why should my son have to suffer through his snorning?

Quoting toxiraindancer:“ i really wanna know why they expect a damn metal or more play time when they do a lil task. we do it ... [snip!] ... night and he snores so bad. i don't share a room with him cuz of it. why should my son have to suffer through his snorning?”

Oh, I know... my single thrill in life right now is the 10 minutes a week I might get to take hubby's car to the store and leave little man with him (only while he's sleeping of course) and get to blare the music. Yet, I had to give him a "free day" of me asking nothing of him just to get him to put the crib together, and another just to get him to help me move the changing table upstairs... he was seriously going to watch me break my back trying to get it up there... (it's a really heavy one)... where the hell is my free day???

Quoting Mommy2Malykai:“ Oh, I know... my single thrill in life right now is the 10 minutes a week I might get to take hubby's ... [snip!] ... going to watch me break my back trying to get it up there... (it's a really heavy one)... where the hell is my free day???”

oh he did that last night with the TV. his mom brought us one over since mine broke and he put it on my bed. well 10pm rolls around i wanna lay down and watch my show. he doesn't feel like outting it on the dresser where it's supposed to go. you can just roll it over and out it on the floor. umm i can't see it on the floor and its' too freaking heavy. plus i'm 30 weeks pregnant. hello? if i wasn't i'd do it myself. i've always been one to do for myself. i never needed a man around, until i got prego and its medical reason why.haha

It's just not fair... why are we EXPECTED to be super moms?
When did married parents start having to do everything as if they were single parents? UGH! This is BULLSHIT!

Quoting Mommy2Malykai:“ It's just not fair... why are we EXPECTED to be super moms? When did married parents start having to do everything as if they were single parents? UGH! This is BULLSHIT!”

i agree with ya. but i need to la down now. my back is starting to hella hurt from sitting up. try and have a good day tomm! 

Have a great night! Seriously, enjoy allthe sleep you can get... I wish I had when I had the chance.