Depressed & Pregnant

what do you do when you just feel like you husband or BD isnt attracted to you anymore now that your pregnant. My husband just got back from iraq on the 5th and everything was great for a few days (our sex life)...well after those few days i started feeling like i was always the one making the first moves on him. Which bothered me because i was wondering why he wasnt all over me after not having sex for 3 1/2 months. So then i started letting him doing anal on me because i know he loves it and i hate it, so i figured i would give it a try to keep the excitment there and keep him interested. Well after a couple times of that...he wsnt interested anymore. Now whenever i go to work he always get his pleasure from porn sites. Now our sex life is GONE! I even asked him to have sex with me before i went to work today and he said no im not in the mood, then i come home after a 3 hour shift and find porn sites on the computer.


I dont understand. Is it because im not attractive anymore and because im the size of a house now? Right before he left for the dessert i was 3 or 4 months pregnant and we were having the same problem. We used to fight about it ALL the time, now i dont know if i should talk to him about it or what. it didnt help before whywould it help now?

i need some advice from some girls. what would you o if you were in this situation?
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Rape his ass. .
Does he get in a bad mood when you talk about it?

I'm guessing it's because he's gotten used to not having sex. When I was pregnant, I didn't hardly ever want sex and my bf got used to it. Now a lot of the time when I want it, he doesn't.

He might have fears of hurting the baby or something and just be embarassed to tell you. Kudos to you for trying to have sex. My husband and I still haven't figured out a good position since I got this big. Either just leave it till after the baby is born (since you don't have much longer to go) or ask him if there's a problem. If it starts to go to the arguement stage I say it's not worth the fight. You don't need to stress you and the baby out.

I kind of had this problem after I had Kaden. Before Zack always wanted too, and I loved it. Well now its like Im having to beg him every time I want to. He never starts it. I finally just yelled at him and said that Im very unhappy and just beacuse we have a baby doesnt mean we are not still us. Just tell him that you need his love right now and that you missed him so much while he was gone that yall really have to make up for the time! If he still doesnt seem to care maybe he had a really time over seas and might need help with that. And if thats not the case and hes just being an ass then bitch him to high heaven and make him!!

Sex is definately different being preggofor me and my man but he doesnt not have sex with me. My BF has to have sex in order to go to sleep lol. Im sure my Bf looks at porn on his comuter every once in a while and im fine with that but I wouldnt like it if he was doing it too much. As far as the porn goes did he have that problem before you were pregnant? I would sit down and talk to him about it.

Quoting MarchBaby:“ Rape his ass. . Does he get in a bad mood when you talk about it?”

yes he gets mad! he's like....oh god not this again. i have tried to explain to him how i feel like he doesnt want me anymore because im pregnant but hes like thats stupid thats stupid...now thats hes back its like we are starting off were we left off. hes so amazing to me and treats me soooooo good. but i just feel like he doesnt want to have sex with me and isnt interested in me anymore. he doesnt look at me the way he used to...doesnt want sex all the time like he used to....but he will get on porn sites jerk off everyday.

i know its not because im pregnant and because he thinks its weird. i know thats not it......trust me. i have asked him.

Quoting stlv22:“ He might have fears of hurting the baby or something and just be embarassed to tell you. Kudos to you ... [snip!] ... If it starts to go to the arguement stage I say it's not worth the fight. You don't need to stress you and the baby out.”

i know, but i just feel liek sex is a way of connecting with the person you love the most and we dont have any of it. i hate when he looks at other girls or talks about how this girl on tv has a nice body because i know i dont!

i feel like he thinks im so ugly and fat now and thats why he doesnt want to have sex with me.

Quoting qdhilton88 [HBC]:“ Sex is definately different being preggofor me and my man but he doesnt not have sex with me. My BF has ... [snip!] ... too much. As far as the porn goes did he have that problem before you were pregnant? I would sit down and talk to him about it.”

mine looks at it everyday, or at least everyday when im at work! i mean i even let him start doing anal on me just because i knew he liked it and i wanted to please him so much. but now hes not even interested in that. i have no idea what to do. i know im not sexy anyomore with a big belly in front of me but thats because im carrying his child. i just want him to act like hes still interested in me. and i have no clue how to get through to him

Quoting Brookes Mommy:“ mine looks at it everyday, or at least everyday when im at work! i mean i even let him start doing anal ... [snip!] ... im carrying his child. i just want him to act like hes still interested in me. and i have no clue how to get through to him”

I let mine do anal too and he actually loves it and hasnt got sick of it. Im sure your man loves it and still think you are beautiful but I know how you feel about having the belly and not feeling so sexy any more. I looked at your pics and think that your are very pretty I dont see what his problem is.

Not trying to concern you any further. But maybe it's not you at all. I've heard of some guys developing a porn addiction after being overseas.

Quoting qdhilton88 [HBC]:“ I let mine do anal too and he actually loves it and hasnt got sick of it. Im sure your man loves it ... [snip!] ... and not feeling so sexy any more. I looked at your pics and think that your are very pretty I dont see what his problem is.”

its the internet....we never used to have the internet and we had a great sex life. and well we got the internet when i was pregnant and everything has changed. im affraid its going to stay like this even after he baby is here and im not sure what to do....im ready just to get rid of the damn thing now.

Quoting qdhilton88 [HBC]:“ I let mine do anal too and he actually loves it and hasnt got sick of it. Im sure your man loves it ... [snip!] ... and not feeling so sexy any more. I looked at your pics and think that your are very pretty I dont see what his problem is.”

Okay. .question. how do you do anal? Not how but I mean like me and my boyfriend have tried it but it burns! He pretty much just thinks it's funny, hahah. He's like dieing to do it though. .I told him I would buy him a hooker [only kidding] but I personally can't get into it.

Quoting MarchBaby:“ Okay. .question. how do you do anal? Not how but I mean like me and my boyfriend have tried it but it ... [snip!] ... He's like dieing to do it though. .I told him I would buy him a hooker [only kidding] but I personally can't get into it.”

use alot of lube! trust me....it makes a WORLD of difference. it still hurt a little once it goes in...but once its in...it feels just as good as normal sex...maybe better.

i could never do it before because it hurt so bad but thats because we always forgot to buy lube and so we never used any.

Quoting Brookes Mommy:“ its the internet....we never used to have the internet and we had a great sex life. and well we got ... [snip!] ... to stay like this even after he baby is here and im not sure what to do....im ready just to get rid of the damn thing now.”

Maybe there's a way that you can like block all porn sites. ya' know? like on TV you can have a code to keep kids from watching certain things. There has got to be something, cancel your internet for a month or something or take and hide a cord to the computer so he can't use it. .shit even throw it away if you really want to, just make sure it's something you could buy again.