Teen Mommies living at home.

I'm 27 weeks, and as of right now I'm planning on staying at home until my boyfriend and I can move into our own place, which is taking some time for personal reasons. We'll hopefully have an apartment by the time our son is a few months old, if not sooner.


So, I was just wondering how many of you teen mommies are currently living at home, or planning on staying at home after your child is born?
How is it working out, as far as the living arrangements with you, the baby, and the rest of the family?
I'm just a bit hesitant, just because I don't want people in my household, and my family dictating to me on how I should raise my child, or someone trying to take over the parenting role. That will not work. I will willingly take advice from people in my family, but I don't wanted to be treated as any less of a parent because of my age.

Any Suggestions, or stories?

well as of right now i'm living at home and plan to stay home.. BD is gonna come live with us in may.. but until then we will "share living conditions" as he likes to say.. he'll stay here a few nights a week and then i'll stay there a few nights a week..hopefully it works out that way..

We just moved into our own apartment the weekend before Chelsie turned 4 months.

It's really really hard. Everyone wants to be a helper. Everyone wants to give you all the advice int he world.

Accept the help while you have it but set down your rules that you want things to do your way with your child.

If you ask someone to do something one way with your child and not the other and they do what they wanted in the first place remind them.

I'de tell you not to be too harsh about it but you're going to be sleep deprived and hormonal for the first part.. so just get your point across.

But talk to them before the baby gets there and lay out your rules and see if they have any rules that they want to set into place. It's your child under their roof so they may have somethings that thye need their way too. (Just making sure the trash gets taken out everyday to keep the place from smelling.

I'm 18 and currently living with my parents. I have a job so I provide for all of my needs and I pay them for the things they do for me. My guy is joining the Air Force next month, and I am staying with them for as long as he is in training. 

The baby will be in my room with me, and I've already bought almost everything I need for her. (I started early because I knew this wasn't going to be cheap.) The living arrangements are fine for right now, but believe me, I have the same concerns as you considering my mother can be extremely overbearing and stick her nose where it isn't wanted. But with your child, you have to be able to tell other people your wishes in an assertive manner if you expect them to respect them. I know that if my mother oversteps her boundaries with my child, then she will hear it from me. 

im not a teen... im 20, but im living at home.
my bf and I just arent ready to move in together, and im still in college.
my family hates my bf... so thats really hard
but i love living with my mom and sister because they get to have a good relationship with my daughter (i barely knew my grandparents)

i can't say that telling people im pregnaunt hasn't gotten me some funny faces

im gonna live w/ my parents until i can use to the swing of having a baby// but my thing is is im doin' it all on my own.. so i definatly think i should wait a while

I'm 23 weeks and I am living at home with my parents still and plan to until me fiance and I can afford our own home. My parents have a finished basement so when the baby arrives she will be living down there with me and my fiance. I am going to college too so its really helpful that my family is going to be here to watch her instead of having to drag her out everyday and leave her with someone. I think it will be fine for you too unless your parents try and tell you how to do things then you just have to tell them its your child and your doing things your way!  

My daughter is just over 2 weeks old and I am living with my parents and my younger sister and older brother although my older brother is moving out at the beginning of september. Me and Emmie (my daughter share a room upstairs that I have painted and redone as a nursery-it's pretty much her room with my bed in it haha. My parents offered to let me have the spare room as well but I wanted to be close to her and I sleep with her anyways. I plan on living with them at least for a year while I'm on paid mat. leave which I get to be on until next July. Personally, I love it and wouldn't want it any other way. My parents are extremely supportive and since she's been born they are even happier. Emmie is not a fussy baby at all and she barely cries and my parents made it clear since the moment I got pregnant that they woul;dn't be raising m child and I would never expect that of them. It actuall works out really well because I have 3 sisters and a brother and ever since Emmie has been born our family has been even closer than before and we are always hanging out and doing things and they have been really helpful. They are always willing to watch her for me while I shower or bath and they love changing her and burping her and helping me with stuff like that too. I am still the mother though and it's my choice on the way I want to raise her and my parents and siblings know and respect that. I nurse her and she sleeps with me every night and she is my daughter. My parents actually feel really blessed about the situation we are in now. At first they were of course disappointed but they definetly aren't anymore. They have seen how I have changed for Emmie and how different m life is now that my life is Emmie. I buy her everything she needs with my money and anything they buy is gifts for her. I know if I ever do need help with something they will be there to support me and help me with no questions and that means a lot to me. My parents absolutely love their granddaughter and they really love that she is living with them. My parents have been waiting for a grandbaby for so long and they just love spending time with her and I and I love it too!

Quoting Randee:“ I'm 27 weeks, and as of right now I'm planning on staying at home until my boyfriend and I can move into ... [snip!] ... people in my family, but I don't wanted to be treated as any less of a parent because of my age. Any Suggestions, or stories?”

I am and I hate it. My mom and I have always had a hard relationship. We were getting ready to move out in a few weeks, then my fiance lost his job. So we only had our savings to live on. He's currently looking for a new job (the market is hard right now) but going from 18/hour to probably something around 12/hour will be a big adjustment.

Quoting MyFirst2009:“ i can't say that telling people im pregnaunt hasn't gotten me some funny faces im gonna live w/ my ... [snip!] ... use to the swing of having a baby// but my thing is is im doin' it all on my own.. so i definatly think i should wait a while”

"pregnaunt" lmao

Quoting ~Ashley Nicole & a girl!~:“ I'm 18 and currently living with my parents. I have a job so I provide for all of my needs and I pay ... [snip!] ... expect them to respect them. I know that if my mother oversteps her boundaries with my child, then she will hear it from me.”

i agree that telling you family how you would like to do things is important. my mom gave my daughter rice cereal without my knowledge and she isn't even the recommended 4-6 months yet.

Yes. I live with my mom and my daughter is two months old. Sometimes it is nice to have a helping hand but other times I feel like going off on here and telling her she is NOT the mother. Actually I have in a polite way said, "Well I AM MOMMY" and she has smarted off "Well I AM YOUR MOMMY" She pisses me off quite a bit now that I actually think of it. When I am trying to give Kadence tummy time to get her good with her arms and head she sits there saying Aw poor baby whats mommy doing to you, shes torturing you, aw mean mommy. To the point I feel bad and dont do it. I breastfeed and I freeze milk and sometimes feeding all the time during this growth spurt she is going through gets old so I say I am giving her a bottle..and I get the "Your a Mean Mommy" speech again because I feel I need a break. When Kadence has had a bad dream and wakes up crying in the middle of her sleep and she is aroudn when I go to pick her up to comfort her she quickly comes and "rescues her" like I dont know what I am doing. Its hard to overlook all of the stuff and I am sure here in the near future there will be a big blow out about it. I know she is just trying to help but I feel when I need help I will ask other than that BUTT OUT! But being a teen mom I think you will get that nagging advice no matter what, I do...from everyone..I just simply say well..you had your turn at being a parent, this ones mine..I think I'll do just fine thanks. Its rough but when its best for your child its what you have to do.

Wow...I think I made a mini vent in your thread. Auh..Id been holding that all in for a minute. lol.

I'm living with my mom until I can get a place. We have a couple applications out, so we'll hopefully have a place with my cousin by September... Dunno... Maybe october. We both hate our living situation.... So... The sooner the better.

I live at home and I plan to stay here until im good and ready. As of right now, im not paying rent (no job ) but once i get one, ill be sure to help out. Me and my boyfriend have shared living arrangements. [ie: i sleep at his house; he sleeps at mine] We plan on moving out in the future, but no time soon. I wanna get some schooling under my belt and be stable before I make such a drastic change. I mean . . . if your family is the pushy kind that likes to put their beliefs on you than maybe that isnt the best place to be with your child. My family is excited and anticipating the arrival of my baby. As of right now, they show that they know the difference between helping and CONTROLING. We'll see what happens.  
Lay a boundary and stick to it. But remember, if you want to be treated like an adult, speak to them like an adult.