re: Significant other or child?
6153 postsposted 18th Aug
Quoting Erica (Jacob's mommy!):“ CFC sparked my interest to make a post like this lol....if you had to chose between your SO and your ... [snip!] ... I, and that's a sucky thing to think about! Anyways, such a tough hypothetical question but debate and discuss away lol!”Not sure if this thread has moved on, but yeah I'd choose Grant (my son). any day, any time, any place, at all. I love my husband but I'm giving birth to this child in about 6 weeks...this child is literally parrt of me...and though they might "leave one day" to get married etc (if i do my jobright lol) they're still my kid. People get divorces all the time. A marriage certificate is no garauntee you'll be togther forever. And kids may fight with their parents, but in the end the bond between a parent and child IS forever.
I have 1 child & live in Dothan, Alabama
7264 postsposted 18th Aug
I would commit suicide if I lost my children, seriously I just dont know how I'd live another day without my kids. If I lost my husband, I'd be very sad for a long time but eventually I'd be able to cope. My kids are the reason I breath, the reason I look forward to the next day.
The fear I have of ever losing my children (God forbid) is something that involves itself in my daily life. I cry about it alot because I just dont know if the world would keep turning without them. My family knows that if anything happened to my kids that I would find a way to off myself in some way no matter who stood in the way. I'd be dead to the world anyways and I'd never get better.
I would be extremely pissed if my husband chose me over my children and really, if thatsituation ever happened, I'd leave him for choosing me.
quoteThe fear I have of ever losing my children (God forbid) is something that involves itself in my daily life. I cry about it alot because I just dont know if the world would keep turning without them. My family knows that if anything happened to my kids that I would find a way to off myself in some way no matter who stood in the way. I'd be dead to the world anyways and I'd never get better.
I would be extremely pissed if my husband chose me over my children and really, if thatsituation ever happened, I'd leave him for choosing me.
I'm due March 14th, have 2 kids & live in Millersville, Maryland
1801 postsposted 18th Aug
Quoting Nyakos:“ I wouldn't feel guilt or sad at all, I never feel anything at all. I've told him my plans before but ... [snip!] ... years before we were married I never intended to have children and had a general dislike for them and he felt the same way.”
Give me your baby. I have two boys already. I have no problem with raising a third. In fact, I love all babies. If I didnt have so many health problems, I would have ten or twelve.
Have you talked to your doctor? You may be experiencing depression during your pregnancy, and that can become very serious to your own health.
I have 2 kids & 2 angel babies & live in Texas
642 postsposted 18th Aug
Quoting Erica (Jacob's mommy!):“ CFC sparked my interest to make a post like this lol....if you had to chose between your SO and your ... [snip!] ... I, and that's a sucky thing to think about! Anyways, such a tough hypothetical question but debate and discuss away lol!”My kids come first. I love my husband but he can take care of himself. Now on the other hand, if my kids were old enough to take care of themselves, then perhaps my view would be quite the opposite.
I have 3 kids & live in Ohio
9836 postsposted 18th Aug
Quoting nvoytek:“ I would commit suicide if I lost my children, seriously I just dont know how I'd live another day without ... [snip!] ... pissed if my husband chose me over my children and really, if thatsituation ever happened, I'd leave him for choosing me.”
This is how I feel. I've always had an odd sense of paranoia, but now when I picture my children in those situations, I'm instantly crying. I had to take my parents to the airport this morning and my daughter went with me. I was driving my parnts huge SUV over a bridge and got this image of going over the side. I was instantly crying trying to figure out how I'd save myself so I could save my daughter. I actually stressed myself out thinking I wouldn't be able to. This nonsense thinking is something I do daily. I just couldn't imagine living without them. Even worse, I don't know how I'd pull myself together for one if I only lost the other. Ugh. I shouldn't think about it.
I have 2 kids & live in Lake Oswego, Oregon
2731 postsposted 18th Aug
Quoting J e s s i c a:“ This is how I feel. I've always had an odd sense of paranoia, but now when I picture my children in ... [snip!] ... them. Even worse, I don't know how I'd pull myself together for one if I only lost the other. Ugh. I shouldn't think about it.”
I know I do this too, over the silliest things. I am always in fear, the other day I freaked out cause I was carrying a pair of scissors and I can't see well over my preggo belly and I was like OMG what if I dropped the scissors and my child was under the scissors when they fell and I hurt them or worse killed them I freak out about this kind of stuff all the time, I don't know what makes me think these things but I am glad I am not the only one, I was starting to think I was psycho or something. I never knew what fear really was until I had children. Now I am in constant fear. I could not live without my little munchkins.
I'm due December 4th (a boy), have 2 kids & live in Connecticut
posted 18th Aug
Quoting J e s s i c a:“ This is how I feel. I've always had an odd sense of paranoia, but now when I picture my children in ... [snip!] ... them. Even worse, I don't know how I'd pull myself together for one if I only lost the other. Ugh. I shouldn't think about it.”
I imagine those types of horrible situations all the time, like car accidents, suffocation, being kidnapped and killed. I'm in tears right now just thinking about it. My husband thinks I'm over protective, butmy kids are too important to just be laid back with.Like you, I dont know how I'd pull myself together for my other kids either. I really dont think I could. My world would literally crash down around me. I hate even thinking about it.
My children arent replacable, not a single one of them. And although my husband isnt replacable, eventually I think I'd come to terms with losing him as I expect to lose him eventually to death....either me dying first, or him dying first. But no parent should ever go through outliving their children.
I'm due March 14th, have 2 kids & live in Millersville, Maryland
posted 18th Aug
Quoting nvoytek:“ I imagine those types of horrible situations all the time, like car accidents, suffocation, being ... [snip!] ... to death....either me dying first, or him dying first. But no parent should ever go through outliving their children.”
Exactly. My great grandmother lives with me because I care for her. She has burried 2 of her 3 children. The last one died 4 years ago and she still talks about it almost daily. She's full of hurt and anger that they are gone. I don't know how she copes. And of course, her kids were grown, married and had kids of their own before they died. She never talks about either of her husbands who have passed away. But she just can't get over losing her kids. I don't blame her.
I have 2 kids & live in Lake Oswego, Oregon
posted 18th Aug
Quoting J e s s i c a:“ Exactly. My great grandmother lives with me because I care for her. She has burried 2 of her 3 children. ... [snip!] ... never talks about either of her husbands who have passed away. But she just can't get over losing her kids. I don't blame her.”
thats so sad to hear. Even when my kids are in their 80's and 90's, they'll still be my babies....always. And if I outlived them, like your great grandmother, it would break my heart too to go on without them no matter how old they are when they pass.
I pray daily that I go first, and if I dont go first, that I'd be going shortly after.
I'm due March 14th, have 2 kids & live in Millersville, Maryland
posted 20th Aug
i love my fiance, but my son will always come before any man or anybody for that matter.
quoteI have 1 child & live in Michigan
5 postsposted 26th Aug
i love my boyfriend very much but not enough to choose him over my child. any man can be replaced, your child can never be
I'm due October 18th (a boy) & live in Barrigada, Guam
posted 26th Aug
I asked my husband if Becca and I were hanging off the side of a cliff who would you save? He said he'd try to save both and if either of us fell to our doom that he'd save the other than jump over the cliff himself. He says he'd never be able to live without either of us.
quoteI'm due March 14th, have 2 kids & live in Millersville, Maryland
127 postsposted 27th Aug
It would be my daughter. I absolutely love my fiance, but when it comes down to it, he could always find someone else if he had to. My child is a part of me. I have put my blood, sweat, and tears into her, and I would never turn away from her.
quoteI live in Wisconsin
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