what do you ladies think??

ok, so my boy is 2 months old and me and my mil have not been seen eye to eye on anything  she really pisses me off Its my first child and her first grandchild,

Everytime me and my hubby make a decision on what to do with our son she gives us this judementel look and she tries to give us a million reasons why we should change our minds about things..
It pisses me off   

Its like she doesnt freaking respect me as a women or as a mom,
i went to talk to her one day and told her she could not put aidan on her bed to sleep that we have been training him to sleep in his bed,
so week later we needed her to babysit because we needed to get some stuff done and it would have been faster to leave him with her, and what does she do?? she puts on the bed to go to sleep her excuse ohh he was just to fussy so he just pass out on the bed  ahhh!! I just want to kill her ... then when i tell her something she turns around and complains to my husband what does she think hes gonna do?? anyways my hubby is tired of getting in the middle so i told her that she needs to come over this weekend so we can discuss some things

Also she has tol me that now that her grandson is here that this is an opportunity for her to make up for the mistakes she made with her sons  excuse me??

so i plan on telling her this weekend that he is our son not hers and that what we say goes doesnt matter whether she likes it or not..
and that she has already had her opportunity to be a mom and its not my fault that she f***** up
and that this is my turn to be a mom..
sorry so long..
what do you ladies think??? of course i do plan on saying this respectfully

I say ditto. At least you have balls to say something. My bf's mom thinks she has authority and I need to do what she does and she knows best. But I don't want to start a fight and everything be really tense and dramatic. I'm sure I'll blow a fuse on her someday.....good luck to you  

tell her to back off.

my MIL i sthe same way.. i told her she had he chance with her kids.. and that she got an early start at 16   this is OUR baby and we make OUR own decisions. If we need advice form her, we'd ask her.



she might get all pissy.. but if it isnt going to affect ur relationship with ur SO, then let it all out.

Good luck!  

Oh the mother in laws. I love my mother in law to peices, she drives me up the wall. You are not alone. Make sure you tell her exactly how you feel and hopefully she gets the point. Im wishing you all the best but women that are already grown, had children and somewhat lived their lives dont change. My mother for example is set in her ways, and will never change. Im supporting you on this one 100%. My mother in law tells me every name i pick out is a bad name, she hates the way I cut my potatos or veggies for a salad. She doesnt like the way I make our bed, or my method of cleaning. We try and discuss with her that everyone is different and its all the same outcome, and she agrees but she just cant keep her mouth quiet. All the best to you!

I would def talk w/ her but she has already started a habit... so don't expect immediate results... When She continues and she says she doesn't like your decision ypu might have to be a little rough to hold your ground... like "So" or "Oh well"

My MIL didn't like how me and my hubby interacted, she said we were too blunt... I had to tell her... "In My Family, we call it honest" I'm sure her opinion will hop right back up on a soap box when baby gets here.

good for you, you have to stand up to peopel like this, or else it only gets worse.