Help..... don't know what to do....

Okay I don't know if it's the fact of that i'm pregnant and my son is feeling pushed away from the baby position or if he is acting out. For instance, me and his father are recently no longer together( he feels that since I don't want to be with him that he wont be their for the kids) I think my son is confused on his absence?! He thinks everyone is dada and will even run up to strangers(men) wanting to be held. His behavior has really spun out of control, to the point that a spanking doesn't help and neither does time out. My aunt told me i really need to beat his behind( but i'm not abusive) so I can't do him like I use to get done their are boundaries! I love my son and will do anything for my kids but I feel that if it's this bad now at almost 2 then i'm dreading what it will be in the future..... Help I need advice.....PLEASE LADIES

beat his behind becasue he can't adjust to his dad abandoning him? NO!!!

he needs ALOT of reasurance and love and extra attention

Take him on a mommy son date, take him to do some of his favorite things. It will get his mind off of things for awhile. It is hard when there daddy just ups and goes they feel that they are left out. But if you spend more quality time with him he might start coming around. I know that it is hard but my sister went thru that and that is about the only thing that I can suggest. Good luck!

it sounds like he may be seeking male attention. does he have a grandfather or uncle or another trustworthy male that is constant in his life? he could definitely use that. and he may even need a little extra one-on-one time with mommy if he's having attention issues.

also, misbehavior does not need to go undisciplined. i am definitely not against spanking, but for our little one, there are other things that seem to be more effective, like taking away his cartoons or video games...when he was smaller, a simple time out would sometimes do the trick.

Quoting BelindaJones:“ Take him on a mommy son date, take him to do some of his favorite things. It will get his mind off of ... [snip!] ... around. I know that it is hard but my sister went thru that and that is about the only thing that I can suggest. Good luck!”

Thanks... I try to spend a lot of time with him but I work so much during the week..... it's hard, but I will definatley plan one this weekend!

A new baby in the family is confusing for most young kids, and more so for younger ones like your son. My son was 5 when i was pregnant with my now 2yr old, and he was very jealous and didnt like it when i talked about the new baby alot. But as your son is younger, he may need extra attention, he will feel left out esp when the baby comes, but try to do things with him like take him out to let him chose things for the baby, help him make stuff pictures etc for the baby.. get him involved you know. little things will make him feel important.

as for the daddy situation that will play a huge part in his behaviour too as he is confused. i dont think spanking him will help.
and explaining the daddy thing to a 2 year old wont really help him as he is too young to understand really.
just give him extra attention, good attention,i know it must be hard if he is naughty at times but try your best to just ignore it. and be there for him. give him lots of praise on the good things he does, even if its something little like tidying up, or anything he does good, kids thrive on praise.

dont worry toomuch although its hard he will get used to the new baby in time, and the daddy situation.

Quoting MommyBear:“ it sounds like he may be seeking male attention. does he have a grandfather or uncle or another trustworthy ... [snip!] ... effective, like taking away his cartoons or video games...when he was smaller, a simple time out would sometimes do the trick.”

No trustworthy grandpa's, he loves my dad but he tries to make time but he works and often has a lot to do I take him over when I go visit my mom. I just don't wanna overload dad.

More than anything he needs you right now. My son is 3 and he clings to my dad because he has no father to play an active role in his life. I would say, spend as much time with him as you can and if you have a brother or other male role model for him....let him spend some time with him. Hope everything works out....I know what its like to have a "wild child".

Quoting wendylou:“ A new baby in the family is confusing for most young kids, and more so for younger ones like your son. ... [snip!] ... thrive on praise. dont worry toomuch although its hard he will get used to the new baby in time, and the daddy situation.”

Thanks.....

Quoting Jacob and Christians Momm:“ More than anything he needs you right now. My son is 3 and he clings to my dad because he has no father ... [snip!] ... model for him....let him spend some time with him. Hope everything works out....I know what its like to have a "wild child".”

LOL. thanks!