Hard question to ask......

I know that there are many angel mommies on here, and I was wondering......did any of you NOT name your little angel?

I lost 2 of my babies, both between like 7 and 9 weeks.....and I could never bring myself to give them names. I'm trying not to cry as I type this, because I feel awful that I couldn't bring myself to name my sweet babies (and failing miserably as I sit here crying) and I was just wondering if any of you other mama's felt the same way?

I KNOW without a doubt and without being told what both my angels were, the first a boy.....and the second a girl. I don't talk about them much, on here or anywhere.....but I think of them often.

I guess I just need to know, am I alone in not being able to name my lost little ones?  

Thank you in advance to any mama's that share this with me, and all of BG......I know for a fact just how hard it is.

I have lost 3... all between 7-9 weeks, and I didnt name them. I just think of them as paving the way to this one being healthy and happy... my guardian angels  

Quoting Makaela & Tristans Mama:“ I know that there are many angel mommies on here, and I was wondering......did any of you NOT name your ... [snip!] ...   Thank you in advance to any mama's that share this with me, and all of BG......I know for a fact just how hard it is.”

I didnt name mine...We were in the process with names at the time of a loss but mine were early too..both before 12 weeks..If I had gone over the 12 weeks they would ahve had names though...dont feel bad mumma..  

It never even occurred to me to name them.

i names one of mine, but she was lost at 11 weeks, and the other one i did not name, nor did i name my chemical pregnancy

i think at 7 and 9 weeks i didnt even have names picked out... so not naming them i dont see as a huge thing... its not like they are any less loved... also i am sure they are looking down on you just the same as if you had named them. dont feel bad about it momma... if you want you can name them now... just make sure its as perfect a name as those beautiful angels are

I gave up two and regetted them both ever since...my ex, the daddy was killed a while ago and now i feel some kind of weird peace that they are all together now. We had picked out the names Felicia and Kory and i dont know if they were a boy and a girl but i would never use those names again so i think of them with those names.

I never named mine, all lost between 7-11 weeks. It never occurred to me to name them.

I have had 3 miscarriages. Only one of them was named.

The two that werent named were lost at 12 weeks, and then the other was an ectopic.

The one that I did feel it necessary and "proper" to name, was our son Caden, who I actually birthed and was able to hold and had to have burial services for him.

I dont think you were wrong in not naming them at all. At that gestation, I dont know why people do. I am NOT knocking them for doing so, I just personally dont understand.

Quoting Baby Apples:“ I gave up two and regetted them both ever since...my ex, the daddy was killed a while ago and now i feel ... [snip!] ... Kory and i dont know if they were a boy and a girl but i would never use those names again so i think of them with those names.”

same...we loved the name Maddison and then had an ectopic and I really didnt want the name to be used again...

Quoting MommaOfAngels:“ I have had 3 miscarriages. Only one of them was named. The two that werent named were lost at 12 ... [snip!] ... at all. At that gestation, I dont know why people do. I am NOT knocking them for doing so, I just personally dont understand.”

i named her just becasue i felt she needed a name, and i had names picked out from the begining, before i even got preggers i knew what i was namin my kids, thats the only reason behind me nameing my little one

Quoting aileys mommy:“ i named her just becasue i felt she needed a name, and i had names picked out from the begining, before ... [snip!] ... the begining, before i even got preggers i knew what i was namin my kids, thats the only reason behind me nameing my little one”

I really hope that I didnt offend you. I didnt mean it that way.

I actually struggle with this myself. I had 3 babies that I lost, yet I only named one. Does that mean that one was more special to me than the other two? Not at all. But I DO think it is different. I never held them, I dont have anything with me now of them...I dont know. I almost feel like a hypocrite. It is a really hard subject for me.

Again, Im sorry if I upset you. I would never want to do that. Everyone's lost babies are special to them, no matter what the age. And I can definitely understand where you are coming from if you already had the name picked out. I personally hadnt even thought of any names at 12 weeks, so it wasnt something that seemed necessary to me.

Thank you ladies, so much! I guess it never really occurred to me either to give them names at first.......I had been so heartbroken after losing them. And I've been thinking that I would definitely have given them names if they had stayed with me longer.....but it doesn't make me feel any better knowing that I just couldn't bring myself to do it when I lost them.

It's been about 7 and a half years since I lost my first, and the second about a year after that.....but I swear it's still like it was yesterday sometimes. Even now I know I couldn't bring myself to name my babies, but knowing that just doesn't help how bad a feel about it.

I had started to think I was just awful for not giving my little angels names, but it does to help that I at least am not alone. (Not that I want other mama's to feel awful!....that's not what I mean there. LOL But that I'm not alone in not naming my babies)

Thank you ladies!  

I didn't name mine. I didn't really think anything of it. I just knew I loved my little angel and we [me and my SO] will have someone watching over us.

Quoting Makaela & Tristans Mama:“ Thank you ladies, so much! I guess it never really occurred to me either to give them names at first.......I ... [snip!] ... to feel awful!....that's not what I mean there. LOL But that I'm not alone in not naming my babies) Thank you ladies!  ”

It is understandable.

It has been almost 3 years since we lost our first and just yesterday, for no reason at all, I was hysterical. It is something that will always stay with you. Not that I dont want to remember, but I would like to be at a point where I can think of them and be happy, instead of so sad.

I wanted to share with you a book that I read. I dont know if it would help you or not, but it is worth a shot, because I know it really helped me get through my lowest times. It is called Grieving the Child I Never Knew and it is by Kathe Wunnenberg.

It is a devotional reading, but it has a journal in it after each chapter that allows you to write about your journey through grief. I found it to be helpful, since oftentimes I felt like there was no one that I could talk to. I would encourage anyone to read it.