How to deal with overwhelming Gradmothers to be

My mother in-law is getting on my nerves! Ever since she found out I was pregnant she been calling me twice a day, having concerns with what I ate and how I felt. I did not mind that at first but it is beginning to become too much. The lectures are becoming too much and her interference in matters of picking out things for the baby have become out of line. For instance, I picked out a 3-in-1 bassinet that my husband and I both really liked yet when I showed her the picture she didn’t just say she didn’t like it she said it was UGLY and that infants should not have dark furniture and the she did not like plastic (in actuality the bassinet is made of wood (dark cherry finish) with aluminum rails). Her micromanaging ways have gone too far and it is stressing me out. Is anyone else having the same experience or has any advice?

Yes and it's sadly only to get worse when your little one comes if you don't set some boundaries soon. I wish you luck and hope that your MIL isn't as much of a bully as mine is  !

My mil didn't seem to care my entire pregnancy until the last couple weeks. Now that he's here she drives me absolutely nuts! She does so many things that irritate me and says things that are rude and piss me off. I don't know what to do. NOthing works!

Quoting Mrs. Brunson aka YellaTa:“ My mother in-law is getting on my nerves! Ever since she found out I was pregnant she been calling me ... [snip!] ... micromanaging ways have gone too far and it is stressing me out. Is anyone else having the same experience or has any advice?”

I have bad advice when it comes to that kind of thing, i have an overbearing mom, and it really came to the point where i was like you can just shut up. She was really upset when i got pregnant with aayla, she told me that alex wasnt even grown or whatever blah blah blah, and i was like you can just shut up this was a decision my husband and i made between ourselves and has nothing to do with you, then she accused me of being a different person since him and i got married, so i was like yea your right i stand up to you now and you dont like it becuase i dont ask you what i should do with my life i talk to my husband about it. It was just a big falling out for a while, but like i said i have bad advice becuase i would be telling her to shut up and shove it up her rear. im sorry you have to deal with that though, i hope you can work though it without an argument, make your hubby talk to her about it, lol

Quoting jan the baby wrangler:“ I have bad advice when it comes to that kind of thing, i have an overbearing mom, and it really came ... [snip!] ... you have to deal with that though, i hope you can work though it without an argument, make your hubby talk to her about it, lol”

My mom was the same way and I did the same thing to her. We ended up fighting for so long until I decided that I would just pretend our fight never happened. I know in the back of her mind it's like she is still mad that I stand up to her now instead of letting her walk all over me but she has to suck it up if she wants to see her granddaughter.

Quoting sandra raquel:“ My mom was the same way and I did the same thing to her. We ended up fighting for so long until I decided ... [snip!] ... I stand up to her now instead of letting her walk all over me but she has to suck it up if she wants to see her granddaughter.”

i feel the same way, i mean i know my mom is pissed when i dont take her advce and she holds a grudge for a really long time about things, and its like you know what, you are a grown woman with grand children, i am your child, you shouldnt treat me this way, i dont know its hard sometimes trying to do what she wants or at least so she thinks im doing what she wants when its completely opposite of what james wants, and i think thats why she says or does things sometimes, just to be spitefull of james and she wants to see if i "stand by my man" or not, but shes learned one time too many that i for sure stand by my man and i dont say how high when she says jump anymore

Quoting jan the baby wrangler:“ i feel the same way, i mean i know my mom is pissed when i dont take her advce and she holds a grudge ... [snip!] ... or not, but shes learned one time too many that i for sure stand by my man and i dont say how high when she says jump anymore”

I got that same lecture the "you're a different person now, he has changed you" one. I was like no he hasn't my daughter has. She is my number one priority now and that is it. She got so mad at me and started a fight because I didn't want her to visit 2 weekends in a row. Then she started telling me that she hopes my daughter never makes me feel like I made her feel. It was ridiculous, she was acting like a little kid that didn't get what they wanted. All 27 years of my like my mom got all she wanted when she wanted and now it's like she can't stand it that I have my own family and I am not 100 percent available to her.

Wow! It's great to hear that I am not the only one going through this. I am still upset about the bassinet and would like to know what other people think about it.

Quoting Mrs. Brunson:“ Wow! It's great to hear that I am not the only one going through this. I am still upset about the bassinet and would like to know what other people think about it. ”

I think that's poop it is your baby and your choice in what you want him/her to sleep in. Saying it is Ugly was just a stab at your feelings. I would get whatever bassinet you want and if she doesn't like it well too bad it's not her child.

Just don't pick up the phone when she calls

Quoting Mrs. Brunson:“ Wow! It's great to hear that I am not the only one going through this. I am still upset about the bassinet and would like to know what other people think about it. ”

ps. the bassinet is cute, better than the one I had and that was was forced upon me by my MIL she bought it without telling anyone and shipped it to me, so I was stuck with it.

Love the bassinet. It is a lot cuter than the one that I got from my mother in law too. Mine was second hand, and while there is no problem with that at all, I had a girl and it was a boys pattern all over. I had everything forced on me by my mother in law. I cant stand her. We moved almost 1000 miles away and she is still trying to control everything. i hate it. when our daughter was born, she downed me for breastfeeding, and doesnt think I should BF with our child I am pregnant with. She downs everything that I do with my child including not having her baptised in the lutheran faith when I was raised penecostal. She downed me for not giving her a binky. My husband never stood up for me, now I have to do it myself. And it is not pretty at all. You have to set a precendent. Period or you will be dealing with this for the rest of her life.

Quoting kayleighsmom:“ Love the bassinet. It is a lot cuter than the one that I got from my mother in law too. Mine was second ... [snip!] ... And it is not pretty at all. You have to set a precendent. Period or you will be dealing with this for the rest of her life.”

My bf doesn't stand up for me either, I have to be the one with the balls in our family. I stand up to his family and mine and it causes so much stress. He just sits there and says nothing.

I told my husband that I will kill him if he didn't stand up for me. He pretty much feels the same way about his mother and it is irritaiting him as well

Quoting Mrs. Brunson:“ My mother in-law is getting on my nerves! Ever since she found out I was pregnant she been calling me ... [snip!] ... micromanaging ways have gone too far and it is stressing me out. Is anyone else having the same experience or has any advice?”

You poor thing and u barely gor pregnant, unfortunetley with time its gonna get worse, at least she cares about you, my mother in law has never called me, shes not really an interactive type of lady. I wish she cared more to call me