Struggling....venting.... please help

So my husband doesn't help out much at night. Actually he spent only about 7 minutes holding/helping with our son yesterday. That means I did everything for the 23 hours and 53 minutes left in the day. I do all the night feedings. It would be nice if he helped at night, then maybe I wouldn't feel so overwhelmed. I shouldn't have to feel like I'm doing this alone when I'm married right? Is this how other people are dealing with this? Because my husband works I understand that he may need to relax when he gets home, but why do I have to do everything? Is it normal to still feel overwhelmed, stressed at 6 weeks PP? I love my son, but this is sure hard sometimes. How have some of you dealt with this?
I have a feeling I may need to work during the day, currently I'm staying at home. I am scared though that work during the day and taking care of Rylan at night may be too much. I thought then maybe my hubby would help more if we shared the same role during the day. He said he would help more when he was older. So I was thinking gosh, so make me do it all now because you dont think he's fun? How unfair is that. I am also scared to have more kids, because will I just get stuck doing all the work with 2?

i feel ur pain!! but i don't really cause ur doing what single mothers all over do everyday. believe me when u get into the groove of it u will be alright then everything will change cause ur baby will never stay just one way. don't worry mamma u can do it! but to answer ur question no u shouldn't feel like that and be married but he works all day too so he probably doesnt consider what u do all day work. might want to express to him how u feel.

I wasn't ready to be a SAHM with my first. It's not that I didn't want to care for him, just the thought of having no "me" anymore didn't suit my soul. My husband is different than yours though. He's never thought of our children as MY job that he HELPS with- we're always equal at home. I'm sorry things are so hard for you- you must be so tired!

My husband works he is a mecanic so its no easy job he has to be at work early so if dominick wakes up at night its all on me, which is perfectly understandable.I work from home whenever I want too.The way I see it as long as he is bonding with him and playing with him I'm ok doing the diapers feeding and all that, now he will do it if I ask but other than that I do it.Most guys dont know what to do with a newborn and my husband waas like that too now that my son is 14 mons he has fun with him I guess you could say its hard but maybe if you talk to him it will get better.

You're not alone in this situation at all, trust me. My best friend's husband literally never got up at night (or in the morning) with the baby, never changed a diaper, never watched her alone for more than a few minutes. He worked and my best friend stayed at home, so he thought it was fair that he never had to do anything at all. Now she works a full time job, the baby is two, and she still does the vast majority of the baby-care duties.

I think this is the same for many, many couples. My dad is a great dad and very involved, but my mom (who has always worked full time) was definitely doing the majority of the child-care.

I don't even have the option right now of having a SO to help out, so I guess I don't have to wonder why I'm doing it all alone! At least I can make all my own decisions, though.

Anyway, hang in there! And tell hubby that you're exhausted and you need some help.

don't feel bad. i know what you are going through. our daughter was born in sept. since then i have done everything for her. yes he has fed her and put her to bed and the occasional bath. he works a full time job and 2 part time jobs so that i can stay home full time. at the moment she is sick and we don't know what is going on. all she wants to do is cry and want to be rocked. so on his dys off instead of taking care of her and letting me a have break at least for an hour or so no he has so many other things he wants to get done. it is very frustrating but i do it. he doesn't hear her during the night if she wakes up so i have to get up. no matter how tired i am i just get up and do it anyway, plus keep the house cleaned dinner fixed when he is home, laundry cleaned the animals fed. it is very hard work. not sure how i do it but i do and i know you can too. try as soon as you can to get the baby on a schedule that will help you out alot. since she was 2 months old she gets up at 9am takes a nap around noon then she is normally in bed by 8 pm. that helps me out so much cause i know when she is going to bed so that i can get a little rest or do whatever i need to get done. i hope this helps.

my twin stays at home with her kids (5). she now only has two that aren't in school but her husband was working two full time jobs and was never home but when he was home and she had to go to the store or somthing. shewould be gone for like 15 mins he would be calling asking when she was coming back. he literally said that raising the kids was her job.

My MIL is all excited about the upcoming baby.She told me one day that she was going to take the baby in the evenings for a few hours to give me break, (we are currently living with his parents). I had to tell her that was his job, granted while I am working I feel as though taking care of the baby and our household is my job, I don't want him to get comfortable with me doing it all. Because that won't be happening once I return to work. I have been known to be a work-a-loic.

I know what you're going through. sometimes I feel like a single mom..
I mean Mike loves Koen and he is a great dad, but I stay at home with him all day and I'm the one that gets up for all the night feedings.He is a web designer, he doens't get home until around 7 and he usually has stuff to work on when he gets home ( he does side projects). yesterday all the did was get Koen dressed after I gave him a bath, and then he gave him his bottle.. but then he handed him off to me since he had to go to bed.
It is really hard, I used to get so frustrated with him at first. but it's getting better. he's just over 9 weeks old now, and he's been sleeping thoruhg the night since 6 weeks so it's alot eaier on me now that I can get a decent amount of sleep. I'm getting more used to being a mom and taking care of him 24/7.
so yeah, you're definitely not alone, just hang in there mama, you'll get used to it and it will be a lot easier.

I actually talked to my husband. He told me to just let him know how I feel, that if I need a break to let him know and he'll take him. He said it goes both ways and last night he needed a break. So things will probably be fine. I've just been emotional again lately... ok so I'm always emotional haha. But thanks so much all of you for the advice and support. I love you all for it!