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Um, if all she said was right, then I would dump his ass. But that is just my opinion.

Quoting Bisonbird:“ Um, if all she said was right, then I would dump his ass. But that is just my opinion.”

Yeah.. pretty much all of it is right. He does give me money sometimes.. for food lol

I have been with my hubby 7 years and we haven't made it official....Here in Canada we are considered common-law though so meh....I would think long and hard about what your sister is saying. Was she just talking like that because she was drinking or does she have valid points? Do you think he's cheating? Why does he hate your parents? Maybe you should have a talk with him about your concerns.....

honey if he really treats you like that then your sister is probably right. But im going through guy drama myself only not the same thing.. But i would think that if you two had a baby together he would want to marry you by now its been 4 years.. thats long enough to wait.

Oh my God. Yeah, leave him. It will be hard at the beginning, going through with it, but if all of that is true, I mean, do you really want to live the rest of your life like that???

Quoting morganpaige05:“ Okay so I'm staying at my mama's tonight (again) because I want to spend time with my sister before she ... [snip!] ... about all this and our relationship? Sorry I'm always venting on here about my relationship but I need someone to talk to..”

You should go back to your mothers. I would. You'd be happier, it seems.

All of the things that you've pointed out are red flags.
I know, I know...it's all easier to see it a certain way when you're looking outside the box, but maybe that's just what you need. Maybe someone needs to be honest with you and not sugarcoat anything, because the truth is always the best. If your boyfriend doesn't help you out financially and has been with you for so long with no intentions to marry you, what is it that's keeping you together? Is it because you're pregnant with his child? I know there are lots of things that we don't see because we're not in the situation, but you asked for advice, so I'm doing my best to give you some solid stuff to think on. Your sister sounds like she definitely knows what she's talking about and she knows what's best for you. Sure, it wasn't nice for her to call you stupid, but aside from that, what do you think about all that she said? I think you already know the answer, but you're letting fear get in the way of doing what's right.

I think you could do better as well if all is true.

Quoting jdayton331:“ All of the things that you've pointed out are red flags. I know, I know...it's all easier to see it ... [snip!] ... about all that she said? I think you already know the answer, but you're letting fear get in the way of doing what's right.”

Yeah... we have just been together so long so life would be weird without him. I am scared of how it will be.. I just want my baby to have a good relationship with her father. He is pretty cocky though.. At times he is sweet (very rare) I just want someone that is sweet to me all the time and wants to marry.. doesn't look like that is gonna happen anytime soon though. He doesn't like my parents because they drink all the time.. but they have done that my whole life so I am use to it. They are good, hardworking people

Quoting morganpaige05:“ Yeah... we have just been together so long so life would be weird without him. I am scared of how it ... [snip!] ... because they drink all the time.. but they have done that my whole life so I am use to it. They are good, hardworking people”

So I guess you need to ask yourself how compatible the two of you are. Has it always been this way, or was he nicer and more sincere in the beginning of your relationship? Sometimes people drift apart, and maybe it took you a couple of years to realize your differences, but it's better late than never. Who's to say that your daughter can't have a good relationship with her father? As long as he's willing to be there for her, there is no obstacle standing in the way.

Quoting morganpaige05:“ Yeah... we have just been together so long so life would be weird without him. I am scared of how it ... [snip!] ... because they drink all the time.. but they have done that my whole life so I am use to it. They are good, hardworking people”

How do your parents treat you? Does he not like them because they drink or because of their parenting? And does he have plans to marry you ever? If you two have a child together, why doesn't he give you money? Or is it because he already provides everything you and the baby needs?

It'll be easier to judge if we get to see both sides of the story. But it sounds like you want to leave him but just afraid of the adjustment. Do what you heart tells you to do.

well i know that my ex and i were together for 2 years and it was like i was all give,give, give and he was mostly just taking. I mean yeah hed give me money for food or buy me a shirt or something i wanted when he had some extra money but as far as helping with the baby he didnt really do, like buying clothes or other things. He was always quitting his jobs and im sure he was cheating on me since he was always so defensive and rude when id ask about whatever, like if he was gone or night or something. He bailed out about 3 months ago and havent heard from him since than. Im saying if he isnt giving you what you need than you should start doing it on your on and eventually find someone who will be there for you