Such thing as prepartum depression? Stupid question.

Is there a such thing as prepartum depression? I kno there is for after you have a baby but I was wondering if there was such a thing though. I am a natural born talker (after you get to know me, I guess shyness) and my fiance said to me last night that I have been quiet on him here lately, like something is bothering me. He said that that is not like me to be all quiet. Just wondering if there was. BTW, I told him that I have been thinking about the baby cause soon she will be here, but the truth is I have a lot on my mind though.

there is. . . . and its usually just jitters. . . but I have had depression in the past and mine gets worse during pregnancy but not usually until the end of pregnancy. I would talk to the dr about it if you are worried. I get quiet in the end too and Im a talker. . . Im usually trying to get things straight in my head and by then Im just soo tired I dont want to talk and the baby is always kicking its hard to concentrate.

girl, you are not alone. seriously, i've felt like someone else entirely on and off lately. it's startling. scary. sad. i'm actually going to talk to my doctor about it when i see her this afternoon. i think i've been told that there is such a thing as pre-partem depression. it makes sense. there's a lot to plan for, set up, organize and expect. there's a lot on your plate.

my plate is chaulk full.    i work for assholes who dismiss my unborn daughter as if she's nothin' special. (neither have children. they're assholes.) and i'm in the process of getting a car, that's been stressful. then there's the work situation (again) and my need for a new job/form of income. i don't want to have to ship my daughter off to a friend (or a stranger, even worse.  ) after she's born. so i'm looking into watching about 4 kids a day, not including my own daughter. so we'll see.

but i feel you and i totally relate. my life's so blessed and i'm so grateful, excited and over-the-moon happy about being pregnant and becoming a mommy--i just havea lot of anxiety/stress/worry.

good luck.

yeah, its called regular depression!

talk to your ob and they can get you on something safe to help. i was recently put on zoloft to help with anxiety issues but its typically used as an anti-depressant. my hubby and i just went through some crazy stuff and we've decided we'll be separating and divorcing after this baby is born so of course i've got a TON on my mind!

talk to your ob, they can help.

Quoting Soon2B Bennett's Mommy:“ yeah, its called regular depression! talk to your ob and they can get you on something safe to help. ... [snip!] ... be separating and divorcing after this baby is born so of course i've got a TON on my mind! talk to your ob, they can help.”

oh my! bless your heart girl. i wish you the best with your divorce and being a single mom. that would certainly qualify as stress/anxiety. man, i would be lost.

best of luck to you though.

Quoting Expecting a Daddy's Girl:“ Is there a such thing as prepartum depression? I kno there is for after you have a baby but I was wondering ... [snip!] ... told him that I have been thinking about the baby cause soon she will be here, but the truth is I have a lot on my mind though.”

Yes... you can slip into depression BEFORE the baby is born. I did with my 2nd. They gave me medicine early on with my 3rd so the same thing didnt happen. Just talk to your Dr and they will decide whats best to do.

Quoting Soon2B Bennett's Mommy:“ yeah, its called regular depression! talk to your ob and they can get you on something safe to help. ... [snip!] ... be separating and divorcing after this baby is born so of course i've got a TON on my mind! talk to your ob, they can help.”

Yea, seriously, what Amber603 said, good luck and the best of wishes throughout that.

Have you ever been depressed before?
Depression is crazy shit. Feels like nothing will ever change or happen, nothing will ever get any better, no reason to get out of bed, don't want to talk to anyone or do anything, you get no enjoyment out of normal activities even things you used to love, it's like everything is hopeless and pointless just this pit of despair.

That's depression .

Then there's preoccupied- so many things on your mind that you find your head going off in different directions. You still enjoy the things you enjoyed before, but there's this undercurrent of "I want to leave so I can go home and think." You wake up in the middle of the night, or in the morning, and cna't sleep because you're thinking so much . You get excited about some stuff you're thinking of, or scared, or feel some emotion (depression = no fear or even interest just... flatline).

A lot of super-chatty people withdraw somewhat if they are thinking a lot and have a lot on their minds - and having a baby definitely creates that sort of situation! Its probably just that your mind is trying to create a sense of calm around you by helping to block out unnecessary stuff.

From what you described, it doesn't SOUND like depression.
It could be, sure, but I've been depressed and it doesn't sound the same.
Maybe you just need some down time, and that's OK too, and if that's the case there's nothing to worry about.

I don't know if it is that or the real thing of depression cause I have been told I suffer from it. But I hope it isthe whole baby thing and nothing else but some things that he told me has just been getting to me, honestly, it all started after he told me all that stuff. But I will talk to my doctor cause I go on the 13th. Thanks.

Quoting Expecting a Daddy's Girl:“ I don't know if it is that or the real thing of depression cause I have been told I suffer from it. But ... [snip!] ... to me, honestly, it all started after he told me all that stuff. But I will talk to my doctor cause I go on the 13th. Thanks.”

You don't know if you're depressed but people tell you you are?
You may not have a word for it when you're feeling it, but you know that something is just NOT right and you're desperate for seomthing, anything, to happen to get you out of it because it just feels so wrong.

If you don't feel that way, you're not depressed.
Just tell the dr you've been feeling kinda "blah" and withdrawn and quieter than normal and see what he takes of it. Describe your feelings, but don't use the word "depressed" (drs like to latch onto things like that), and see if he thinks you're depressed.

I'm leaning towards not depressed. I think you'd know somewhere if you were.

Quoting Astraia:“ You don't know if you're depressed but people tell you you are? You may not have a word for it when ... [snip!] ... that), and see if he thinks you're depressed. I'm leaning towards not depressed. I think you'd know somewhere if you were.”

Not EVERYONE knows they are depressed. Depression has become as this "bad thing to have". Its like your a horrible person to be depressed... or so it seems.
My Husband shows signs of it sometimes, and I can tell because I suffer from it. He doesnt realize it though because he blames it on "stress". But, with me suffering from it time to time I know the symptoms and can tell. I know when Im getting depressed.... but some people dont. Especially if you dont have a history of it.

Quoting ~*Holly~*:“ Not EVERYONE knows they are depressed. Depression has become as this "bad thing to have". Its like your ... [snip!] ... symptoms and can tell. I know when Im getting depressed.... but some people dont. Especially if you dont have a history of it. ”

I guess that's true. But I think if you were depressed some part of you would realize that something is really really wrong- even if you blame it on stress or something, you know that something is all off and you want it to get better.

But what she's describing doesn't seem to be a realization that something is seriously "off," just that she seems quieter than normal but hadn't really realized it until it was pointed out.

But yeah, you're right, I guess you may not know that the symptoms you are feeling are related, or have a name.

Quoting Astraia:“ You don't know if you're depressed but people tell you you are? You may not have a word for it when ... [snip!] ... that), and see if he thinks you're depressed. I'm leaning towards not depressed. I think you'd know somewhere if you were.”

I have been diagnosed with Manic Depression and yea, I know how dr's like that word a little too much. My last pregnancy was high risk because of it and everyone was told to not leave me alone after I got out of the hospital because there was a chance of it progressing into something worse. But I have noticed it too and this is very unlike me, especially for 2 or 3 weeks.

Quoting Expecting a Daddy's Girl:“ I have been diagnosed with Manic Depression and yea, I know how dr's like that word a little too much. ... [snip!] ... because there was a chance of it progressing into something worse. But I have noticed it too and this is very unlike me.”

I seriously think that talking to your DR will REALLY help you. I know some people are against depression meds with pregnant but if its what will kepp you and your baby healthy and safe, its worth it as long as the DR prescribes it for you. I always felt much better on it. Like my old self again.
I really do wish you luck. I know what its like to be in that place. If you need to talk, PM me.

Quoting Expecting a Daddy's Girl:“ I have been diagnosed with Manic Depression and yea, I know how dr's like that word a little too much. ... [snip!] ... of it progressing into something worse. But I have noticed it too and this is very unlike me, especially for 2 or 3 weeks.”

Ah, okay. That makes more sense. You mentioned a history of it, but I wasn't sure if you meant like- when you were 12 or something,. If you've had cycles of it before then you'd recognize it for sure, so if you're noticing you're feeling "off" definitely worth talking it out with a dr.

I'm def. not against meds for depression as long as they're working for you and getting you back to feeling balanced again, especially if there's a baby involved too!

Good luck with everything! (and, can't remember if it was said, pregnancy/ post partum and puberty are the most likely times to go into depression because of the insane hormone changes going on so it's really really common).