Going threw a seperation and being pregnant

I am new to BG. I just moved back to colorado after almost two years. I got married Dec 06 to a guy in the Navy. I moved to virginia the same month. I was so very happy. I found out I was pregnant with our first child in May of this year. Three days after that he told me that he didnt know if he loved me of if he ever really loved me. He now wants a divorce. So I have moved back to Colorado with my parents and sister. I dont want a divorce and I am hoping that he just needs some time alone for a little while. I really miss him and dont really have anyone to talk to about it but my friend Kellie. I want him back! He is everything to me. Anyone have any advice?

Give him his space. He may come around but if he's not in love with you then he has no reason to be married to you.
I know that sounds harsh but I couldn't find another way to phrase it.

Give him his space to figure things out. If you really love him, you'll want what makes him happy. Good luck!

If you don't agree to the divorce the navy offers FREE marriage counseling, please do try it
Also, why you are separated he still has to support you financially 
I hope things work out for the best for you, BG is always here to talk!

I'm sorry hun!  
Maybe giving him his space will help!

If he doesn't love you, you shouldn't put yourself into that situation. You need what's best for you and your baby at this point... And if he doesn't love you, you're going to end up with a relationship that is just hell and fighting... Not what you need to bring your baby into... give him some space, and if he decides to come back - great! If not... Lots of women are single with babies, and lots of children have very healthy relationships with separated parents.

Give him space! He will relieze what he is giving up! I hope it all works out for you.

Space is the big thing right now and I commend you for wanting to work on your marriage and not just up and leave when the first sign of trouble comes alone.
Go to counseling as well....
I pray that everything works out for you.

Hey hun, I live in Grand Junction. Very close!

I would give him time, maybe he's freaking out over the pregnancy? But you deserve someone who is willing to work through your guys' problems and not just up and leave when something goes wrong. I hope you get everything figured out. Good luck.

I'm really sorry, I've been through a divorce myself and I know how bad they suck and hurt. Maybe he's just got cold feet about everything and will come around eventually, good luck to you. If you ever need to talk I'm around.

Thanks everyone! I thought I would give some more notes. We trying going to counsiling. We went twice and he decided he didnt want to hurt me anymore and said he wanted a divorce and that he wanted me to move with my parents.

Quoting *Court*:“ Thanks everyone! I thought I would give some more notes. We trying going to counsiling. We went twice ... [snip!] ... and he decided he didnt want to hurt me anymore and said he wanted a divorce and that he wanted me to move with my parents.”

I hope you know he has to pay you half of BAH and BAS a month or else he could get in ALOT of trouble.

I'm really sorry about your situation  

Court AKA shit brix-

You are amazing and Jamie is just being dumb. I know you said he has been acting different, but I'm beginning to wonder if this is just the real Jamie, ya know? I mean he did have two other fiances. Do you think maybe he is scared of commitment? A baby is a HUGE commitment bundled in with you are the only girl he has ever actually went through with the engagement and married.

I think he really does love you, but I think he is honestly scared which is why he is wanting his space right now and wanting to go do his own things rather then be tied down. LOVE YOU!

Quoting Kellie♥K -DD-GS-:“ Court AKA shit brix- You are amazing and Jamie is just being dumb. I know you said he has been acting ... [snip!] ... scared which is why he is wanting his space right now and wanting to go do his own things rather then be tied down. LOVE YOU!”

kellie so smart! took the words right out of my mouth. i don't know the situation entirely and i hate to ask, but how old are you/him? i know age aint nothin but a thang...but sometimes it really is. not usually for the girl but for the dumbass boy. anyways...i've sorta started talking to u in military wives so feel free to chat if you want.

HI KELLIE!!!!