Just your thoughts and honest opinions **UPDATE**

Ok. If you'll reference my other posts you'll know what's been going on with me and the hubby (or soon to be ex, or the children's sperm donor as I like to refer to him). We are no longer living together as he is with his g/f. Ok, enough there.
Since I got pregnant and before hubby left we had sex maybe a total of 3 times. Two of those times didn't really work out well since he was on blood pressure medication. So, needless to say, I haven't had "real" sex in about 3-4 months. Needless to say at this point, the fish stop swimming in the tank when I walk by. j/k. But, you get my point. I got my little "toy box" but, that's getting old.
So, here's my question. I have a guy friend that I have known and been friends with for about 5 years. He is also going thru a divorce at this time and is living on his own. Up til a few weeks ago there were NO feelings that way towards him at all (sexually or romantically). We were just friends, that's it, he was always kind of like a brother. Well, 2 weeks ago we were talking and he admitted that he kind of had a crush on me all this time but, out of respect for both our relationships, he never tried to pursue anything. I was, of course, stunned.
Now, I'm not looking for any type of relationship as I know at this time, it would be rebound and that's not good. And with the baby coming I really don't have time or the energy to put an effort into anything like that. However, mama's hormones are a-ragin' and I'm seriously considering thinking of "hooking up" with my friend. Kind of like a friend with benefits for the time being. But, I'm kind of torn on what way to go with this. He's not pushing for anything and I really don't think it would compromise our friendship. What do you ladies think?
***Ok, to the ones that told me to go for it, I did. To the ones that told me not to...I shoulda listened!! It's kind of funny, yet really sad.
So, I goes over to his apartment today. And well, one thing led to another and we're kinda making out on the couch. So, things go as things do and well...I sure got the suprise of my life!! Figured out why after 10 years of marriage his wife just "wasn't happy anymore" and wanted a divorce....dude has millimeter peter!!! And yeah...this may be TMI but, I swear ladies....4.5 inches..full on erection and maybe, just MAYBE...and inch around. I'm like, hmmm, well, all this is going to do is piss me off. Oh, that sounds so shallow. Seeing as how this guy has been one of my best friends for 5 years. So, I feigned a case of the guilty conscience and left. Ok, from now on I'll be a good mommy and listen!! LOL

Go for it.

As long as you tell him it's just sex - friends w/benefits and nothing else -- why not?

me personally i wouldnt do it, while pregnant that is....but i mean if its what you want to do be sure to use protection to make sure no infections happen...and have fun lol

I had a friend-with-benefits throughout my pregnancy! Go for it! Just make sure he is on the same page as you are!

I think it'd be a little wrong on your part considering he has already admitted feelings to you, it will send him the wrong signal no matter what you tell him.

Yup I agree with CatLuv. Go for it. But of course, tell him that it's a French Fry status. F.F. = F!@# Friend. 

I agree! Go for it!! The most that will happen is a good time. And maybe in the LATE future there will be more then "fun" But until then GO FOR IT MAMA!

If its something that you're sure you wont be regretting, then I say go for it!

Quoting rabidmommy:“ Ok. If you'll reference my other posts you'll know what's been going on with me and the hubby (or soon ... [snip!] ... with this. He's not pushing for anything and I really don't think it would compromise our friendship. What do you ladies think?”

Bad idea in my opinion. Intimacy can often bring out feelings you didn't think you had, or even confuse you into believing you have feelings. You have alot on your plate right now, I would say go make a trip for the toy chest  

I know he's not looking for anything relationship wise either...I think we've both made that pretty clear. And oh yes...absolutely would use protection.

idk its kinda a weird one for me.... it would be fun to have a friends with benfits but being pregnant would problably put a damper on things. Im not really sure why it would but i just think it might be kinda weird not having sex with babies daddy?? idk if you comfortable and so is he why not?

hey its all UP TO YOU GUYS babe whether u guys r comfortable w that and respect each others boundaries...
If it was me personally Id prolly go for it afterall WERE ALL ONLY HUMAN and have needs of closeness etc from another person...

Do what makes u happy cos happy is the way YOU SHOULD BE  

I would say get some new toys if you box is getting old!!!!

Don't do it until his divorce is final... He waited all this time he can wait a little longer until that is all done with... Oh and as far as protection better make sure he doesn't have the herpes. Condom wont help with that if he is viral shedding.... That could endanger your baby if you get it and outbreak at delivery...

MY VOTE IS NO!!!!! 

OH NO..... thats not good! well atleast now you know what your NOT missing out on.lol you gave it a try and now you can move on!! 

Lmao I'm sorry but that made me giggle a little. Poor thing.