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how do you ladies make time for yourselves such as , eating , showering , make up clothes and something simple as going to the bathroom without holding him in your arms and him screaming at the top of his lungs! but my boy will be 3 weeks and it seems like i have no time for anything maybe im being selfish but i used to be the high maitence pretty girl type not anymore.. ive gained weight like crazy it seems like its not going anywhere... anyone else felt this way?? and having a MIL always having something to say about my appearance doesnt help neither its like i just had a baby it wont go away magically overnight

Quoting Quynh *Tristan's Mom*:“ how do you ladies make time for yourselves such as , eating , showering , make up clothes and something ... [snip!] ... having something to say about my appearance doesnt help neither its like i just had a baby it wont go away magically overnight”

Welcome to motherhood.  
You will learn as you go. I used to have to put Maddy in her bouncy chair and let her cry while I took a shower. It breaks your heart, but it has to be done sometimes.Don't be afraid to let him cry. Its not going to hurt him to cry while you are going to the bathroom. Good luck.

don't worry momma, at 3 weeks you really don't get much time for yourself, I did things for myself while my baby was sleeping, and I got my mom or my mil to come babysit for our date nights to have some time to ourselves, we do this about once every week or every other week for a few hours, it helps, I put Bryson in his crib and turn on the mobile and he loves to look at that, but he is almost 9 weeks old, when yours get a little older they will be able to be left alone for long enough for you to take a shower or eat or goto the bathroom, lol, hang in there!

Quoting Kelli Jo *RUFF*:“ Welcome to motherhood.   You will learn as you go. I used to have to put Maddy in her bouncy chair ... [snip!] ... done sometimes.Don't be afraid to let him cry. Its not going to hurt him to cry while you are going to the bathroom. Good luck.”

someone told me that if i let him cry he will get stressed and then feel neglected yeah he sometimes forgets to breathe while he's crying it scares me to put him down

Quoting BrysonsMomma:“ don't worry momma, at 3 weeks you really don't get much time for yourself, I did things for myself while ... [snip!] ... they will be able to be left alone for long enough for you to take a shower or eat or goto the bathroom, lol, hang in there!”

yeah maybe im just in the blue because his father is still doing the same things before baby came and has all this time and what not ...

Quoting Quynh *Tristan's Mom*:“ someone told me that if i let him cry he will get stressed and then feel neglected yeah he sometimes forgets to breathe while he's crying it scares me to put him down”

I can't say thats true or not because I havent had that experience. He is young so things are going to be difficult right now, but you will figure out how to balance your daily tasks and the baby's needs. You will have to learn how to do everything fast! Shower fast, eat fast, poop fast, everything! Oh and your MIL? She should keep her mouth shut about your appearance because I am sure she has been there too.

The first couple weeks with my lil one I felt the same way, my SO actually came home from work on his breaks so that I could eat and pee etc... It does get better though I can promise you, I normally do all my stuff ( make up starighten my hair and what not) when she's sleeping now that we've got ourselves somewhat of a routine.

Quoting Quynh *Tristan's Mom*:“ yeah maybe im just in the blue because his father is still doing the same things before baby came and has all this time and what not ...”

it's ok, when have a bigger change in our lives than the daddies do, our hormones are out of whack, our bodies are different, we take care of them more than anyone else, but you'll adapt to it, I felt the same way, like my hubby went back to work and everything seemed normal to him, but I am home all day with a baby trying to figure out how to keep him happy, but it's all worth it , and don't let her cry for too long, he is too little, she will feel insecure and neglected, I just tried to wait til he was sleeping to shower at that age, like I said when she gets a little older she will be ok to sit in his crib or bassinett and stare at the ceiling or mobile for a little while. good luck momma

Quoting Quynh *Tristan's Mom*:“ how do you ladies make time for yourselves such as , eating , showering , make up clothes and something ... [snip!] ... having something to say about my appearance doesnt help neither its like i just had a baby it wont go away magically overnight”

I have a 3 week old also and its really hard. I usually take a shower and stuff like that before my fiance goes to work so he can watch Aiden while I have some time for myself. Other than that I try to get stuff done when he is sleeping. My MIL actually came over the other day and said something about the house not being clean. I wanted to slap her!

Quoting Kelli Jo *RUFF*:“ I can't say thats true or not because I havent had that experience. He is young so things are going ... [snip!] ... everything! Oh and your MIL? She should keep her mouth shut about your appearance because I am sure she has been there too.”

haha yeah she always has something to say and its not helping but thanks

Quoting mistyy:“ I have a 3 week old also and its really hard. I usually take a shower and stuff like that before ... [snip!] ... is sleeping. My MIL actually came over the other day and said something about the house not being clean. I wanted to slap her!”

omg you get that too huh? its driving me mad it like makes me more depressed when she says something

Quoting Quynh *Tristan's Mom*:“ omg you get that too huh? its driving me mad it like makes me more depressed when she says something”

Remember one thing though, if you think what you may be feeling can be PP depression talk to your doctor. Thats a lot to suffer through when you have so much on your plate.

Quoting Quynh *Tristan's Mom*:“ omg you get that too huh? its driving me mad it like makes me more depressed when she says something”

Yep.. it drives me nuts! Especially because she knows what I'm going through with him right now. He constantly cries whenever he is awake, we constantly have to hold him and rock him. When the hell do I have time to clean the house?! lol

You're not selfish. It's necessary to feel normal. I was really depressed for about three weeks after the baby got here, and I only showered (and slept more than a couple hours at a time) when family would come over every few days, and I stayed in my nightgown all day long. But then my mother told me that it is imperative that I bathe, brush my teeth, and put my clothes on every day. And if I want to put on some makeup and take the baby out of the house and do something, then even better.

It will not hurt the baby to have her cry for a few minutes while you grab a quick shower. She knows she's not neglected - I come right back for her and she always gets fed, cuddled, changed and sung to regularly! Babies don't always cry because they're unhappy. Sometimes they just cry because that's what babies do.

I took her advice, made sure the baby was dry and well fed, then stuck the baby in her crib and took 10 minutes to shower. Miraculously the baby was still alive. Then I got HER ready and took her out to run some errands. We went to the bank, to the library, and walked all over downtown. When I started doing that kind of thing regularly I got over the depression really fast.

you are not selfish! you gotta care about yourself to care about somebodyelse! lol...but im pretty high maintenance and i usually do everything when my baby sleeps but when i know for sure im staying at home, im just bummin! what i found helps sometimes when you want to do your makeup or hair is to put your baby in one those slings lol....works for me!!!!!!! and i take forever to get ready to go anywhere!

about your mil...i know how you feel and it doesnt help that my sister in law just had a baby 2 weeks ago and is back in a her old jeans and going to be wearing a bikini in hawaii next month!   lol...

youll be fine, good luck!