Please help

Okay, i try to stay as posititve minded as possible seriously! now in the past i've had allot of issues with people being un- faithful, including the guy i'm with now which it only happened one time like within the first year we were together (2001). Now like i stated in my profile me and him have been on and off for 8 years ( a two years separation), and right now we are having some issues because of financial situations.    He's one of those people where he involves money into everything, and like i've been really trying to understand him but he is not understanding me!. He wants to go  out and find ways to get money but not all in the safest ways! ( he likes to hustle) and it not only scares me but then he likes to spend day's out and away and i tried to discuss that with him when he told me he was going to be stepping out and that he was taking a change of clothes, and not one time has he ever done this!. So i ask him why now are you taking a change of clothes and he's reply's saying because he does not know if he's coming back tonight. So from there i just point out that this is new, you never take changes of clothes, so why now? and he jumps up and gets F***ing sarcastic and says to me " yeah i'm going over a broads house" and i ask him why did he say that and he admits to being sarcastic because he thinks i'm already thinking something fishy is going on. I've just been noticing a change and because i know how much this money thing is bothering him i really try not to think he's out doing other things but it's hard when you are pregnant and you feel alone and he does not understand that and i love him soo! much but it is hard! 

your pregnant.. and he's out hustling all night. What a winner, lose him.

You should probably ditch him... sounds like bad news..

Once a hustler, always a hustler.Well in most cases. I used to date a guy like that and he got locked up for it. Then he went right back to it when he got out. Its like they get used to living a certain lifestyle, and having alot of money so to go from so much, to basically nothing isnt worth it to them, they would rather take chances.

Quoting Sexy 1st time Momma:“ Okay, i try to stay as posititve minded as possible seriously! now in the past i've had allot of issues ... [snip!] ... hard when you are pregnant and you feel alone and he does not understand that and i love him soo! much but it is hard! ”

I think that you need to get away from this guy. He is obvisouly not a good match for you.

What you need to to is step away and ask yourself "If he NEVER changed anything about himself, could I live with him forever just the wayhe is?" The answer is obvisouly noin your case. And that is OK! You are young. You will find someone else that will love you for who YOu are, and you will love him for who HE is.

Its hard, I know. But youneed to find someone that you dont need to fix or change. Someone that respects you and your needs and opinions. 


Find someone that is deserving of you, and what a great person you are.

He has been hustling and making money? Are you seeing extra money from him? I read another topic you had posted. Do you think he is out with another girl and just using hustling as an excuse?

Either way he is going to be a father he should not be out hustling or lying about it. Tell him he needs to quit or you should leave. It's not good for the baby.

You know what i don't understand, like i know that once they start that life style it's hard to pull away but he's gotten locked up before! and then he got out and was cool was working a good job and then the company went out of buss. and he started looking for other gig's and no luck and then he found something ( tele-marketing) and then that turned out to be temp, it was a bad company to work for ( they are always hiring & firing) so now it's this!, and he just gets angry so quickly like i'm not upset about the situation also. Well i will say this like when he comes home i'm going to have to express to him in the most simple way that he ned to observe the whole situation including me, and realize that it is disrespectful enough that he's trying to hustle but on top staying out all night and have me worry has got to stop! 

Quoting Sexy 1st time Momma:“ You know what i don't understand, like i know that once they start that life style it's hard to pull ... [snip!] ... it is disrespectful enough that he's trying to hustle but on top staying out all night and have me worry has got to stop! ”

Chances aer that wont change. I am just being honest. If going to jail didnt change him, do you think you will?

Yea its not cool at all. Where I live its so bad out here ppl are getting shot and stabbed every week, and its 17 and 18 yr olds dying. It's really sad because it's all over drugs. It's quick money, and its good money, but its not worth dying over, or getting locked up over. Just help him try to find a good job asap before he gets himself into trouble.

Why are you wasting your time?