Well Its Over!

Lately I have post some topics on how my husband said he didn't love me anymore and how I was so hurt and then I find out he cheated on me. Well no matter how hard I tried to show him Ichanged and that I still loved him and still said I can't feel those things for u anymore so finally we said its over! Now what!!! I'm 37 weeks pregnant, never really worked because I've been married since I was 16 and was just a wife and a stay at home mom, and I have 2 yr old daughter! He hasn't run off or anything but I can't have him support meforever. I'm so Lost!!! How do u start over and have to pretend u don't love him and still want to be with him?

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I'd make sure that I got child support as well as Spousal(SP?) support...
If you have been married since 16 and have never really worked and have been a SAHM you should be able to get it. That will help out a bit. I think all you can do is wait it out as far as your feeling for him... Time can help heal and maybe he will start to have a different attitude, one that you won't love.

You're definitely going to have to take things one day at a time. There's no magic pill to stop loving someone who isn't in love with you anymore and there's no way that you can snap your fingers and have everything fall into place. I know your mind must be running amok with the "hows" and the "whys" but you won't be able to work for months so I'd let that slide for now. Your husband has had his time to think and come to terms with not being married and it'll take some time for you to do the same. He won't leave you high and dry and hopefully the separation will be amicableand he won't make anything more stressful, especially financially, than it has to be. Good luck, mama.

Well eventhough you will not be married he can still support the kids and maybe spousal support, Hopefully you guys can still talk and maybe work something out with out a crazy divorce case going on.

as long as you didn't cheat and your husband failed at this marriage, I am pretty sure u get spousal support on top of child support. And you are pregnant right now too...jeeez what an ass. Most women I know that have been thru this end up workingout all the time and turn into the most hottest women they can be. That seems to help them, and really you deserve someone to love and respect you. I am so against divorce, especially with kids involved-does he want one?? Does he want to try couseling? Seperation? I say you beat him to it, leave with the kid and send him the papers for divorce....you poor thing, hes a loser, maybe he is going thru mid life crisis...

Quoting AMarineWife:“ as long as you didn't cheat and your husband failed at this marriage, I am pretty sure u get spousal ... [snip!] ... with the kid and send him the papers for divorce....you poor thing, hes a loser, maybe he is going thru mid life crisis...”

Yes he wants one! We tried to see if things could work but we both come to realize that we wereboth using each other.Well if he is going through a mid-life crisis then he is going through awful early! He is only 26! and the other woman is 37, 250lbs, and has a son who is the same age as me!!!

Quoting Gracies Momma:“ Yes he wants one! We tried to see if things could work but we both come to realize that we wereboth using ... [snip!] ... he is going through awful early! He is only 26! and the other woman is 37, 250lbs, and has a son who is the same age as me!!!”

ok he is just insane then and the biggest loser ever. Go find a real man after that divorce, sweety, someone who deserves you