Potty Training, Where do I START!

My son is 20 months old. and we have just started to potty train. He is my first so this is all new to me. I have asked family member and others and they all have different things to say about it. My mother says that I should start after his second birthday, and with in about 3 weeks he should be trained. But i have a very hard time believing this. My son shows no intrest in using the potty. i ask him frequently if he needs to go potty, and he tells me No. So even though he tells me no i go and sit him on it anyways. but then he starts to squirm and wiggle trying to get down.
He has used the potty before, but no matter how much encouragement and cheering we give him he does not care about the potty at all.
I guess my questions are, is what do you guys think the avrage time in potty training is, what age, and how to go about it. I really don't want to be buying diapers for my son when he is around four.( i know some that still have too).
Any information helps.

I had the same question.. when do you put your toddler on the potty? my daughter is 16 months. we are expecting our second in Jan. I dont want to kids in diapers full time, as you know they can be expensive. so we have began putting her on her potty when we go. she sits and looks at an animal book and jabbers with me. lol. We have recently began putting her on right when she wakes in the morning, before she wets in her diaper. And sure enough she went in her potty! We clapped and made a huge deal about it. she doesn't seem to understand fully yet, but is getting the idea of it.. So I guess persistance is our key..

good luck..

mariah

i think every parent will have their own idea of the perfect potty training method.

personally, my experience with multiple children (as an oper, aunt, etc.) has shown me that no child fits a standard time line. my niece just stopped wearing diapers one day at around 19 months-- told her mom she didn't want to wear them anymore. my nephew on the other hand, really had difficulty potty training as he's a super uptight little kid who need a lot of encouragment and wasn't quite done till he was nearly four (they had to work on it for nearly a year before he could comfortably / reliably use the toilet). my other nephew transitioned around two and a half years with almost no drama (a few bed wettings and one accident from having to wait to use the toilet). When I was an oper, my kid started to potty train at 14 months! My bf's mom told me she never toilet trained her sons-- they just learned on their own. Then again, she made it sound like giving birth was just slightly more difficult than her weekly grocery shopping. SO, it's obvious that everyone's got a different idea of what works.

I don't think there's a standard age or way. As parents, you're much more equipped to understand your child's individual toilet training needs.

My generic advice is to be encouraging and open about it-- and when they make a big accident, don't get mad at them if they look like they're already ashamed of themselves-- this'll just increase the anxiety around toilet training. Talk about how much fun it is to use the potty (when I was helping my nephew potty train, I'd make the announcement I was going to go use the "big kids toilet" and ooooh it's so much fun and nice and clean and not smelly!)... sure, it's a little silly, but they'll appreciate it and it'll keep it in their head more and connected to day-to-day life and not just something you're doing to them b/c you're the adult.

a little before my son turned two he wanted to go potty in the toilet. he started doing it at bathtime since i told him that it was a no no to go potty in the bath. after a while he started asking to go if we were at home or if we were about to change his diaper. he has a training potty so now we either put him in "big boy" underwear or let him go bottomless. he feels really proud of himself when he doesn't have an accident, and sad when he does. its just a matter of timing. i know my mom said when i turned two she got me frilly underwear (you know the kind with the lace all over the bottom) and she told me if i didn't start going potty like a big girl she'd throw them away. the only time after that i had accidents was when i was sleeping. just make it something your child can take pride in or find fun.

AyearyJ wrote: My son is 20 months old. and we have just started to potty train. He is my first so this is all new to me. I have asked family member and others and they all have different things to say about it. My mother says that I should start after his second birthday, and with in about 3 weeks he should be trained. But i have a very hard time believing this. My son shows no intrest in using the potty. i ask him frequently if he needs to go potty, and he tells me No. So even though he tells me no i go and sit him on it anyways. but then he starts to squirm and wiggle trying to get down.
He has used the potty before, but no matter how much encouragement and cheering we give him he does not care about the potty at all.
I guess my questions are, is what do you guys think the avrage time in potty training is, what age, and how to go about it. I really don't want to be buying diapers for my son when he is around four.( i know some that still have too).
Any information helps.

Put some cheerios in the bottom of the toleit and tell him to try to sink them...A lil fun games i seen it off of a talk show so therefore i dont know if it really works or not but its worth a shot...Plus with my cousin he would never go but she would put him on the potty and then walk out and she would tell him i'll be back in a min and he would go...a few suggestions...

To get my son interested in STAYING on the potty, I entertained him with books or singing or clapping. He doesn't go when we're playing but it did get him to learn to stay on. Why is it that they don't go while we're in there? I have to walk out before he'll go, and sometimes, i'd come back to tinkle that escaped the potty... grrrr! I learned to keep the pull up above his knees and that catches the run aways. My son is only 15 months, so he might be to young to tell me if he needs to go, but i try putting him on 5-10 mins after he eats or drinks. Looking for his cues is a good way to tell too, my son likes to run behind chairs, couches, or doors if he needs to go. He still doesn't get why he's doing it, but i think after awhile, it'll just be what he's used to, so it'll be automatic. Good luck and let us know how it goes!

I put mine in pull ups and told her they were panties.. for a boy you would obviously not say panties but maybe big boy underwear. have him go in the bathroom with daddy or an uncle or somone you trust!! so that he can see how it's done! eventually he will catch on. also then can put things IN the potty and try to pee on them like cheerios or they actually sell things like this i belive at toys R us and i'm not sure where else you might want to look it up online.. anyways they pee on them and they turn into things and they are flushable..(cause who wants to fish that out of the potty lol) also buy that POTTY TRAINING ELMO it works wonders!!

here are 2 links for you to start out! good luck!


http://www.pottytrainingstuff.com/ttTargets.htm
http://www.rightstart.com/global/store/product~item~1276~dept~bath+time.html

It's different for every child, forcing him may make him dread it even more. There are different things you can do, one thing is reading books to him about the potty. My mom use to read me and my brother one and for some reason it made us want to be big kids. Also positive reinforcement is key make a huge deal out of it-maybe go to the dollar store and get some little toys and put them in a goodie bag and every time he goes to the potty he gets to grab something out of the bag. I know some people who have used candy, but i'm not big on that. Also have him watch his dad go the bathroom, let him go outside if he wants to - maybe when it's a little warmer. And one of the bigger things i've heard that helps is making him wear underwear or maybe the kind of pullups that let them feel they are wet. Other then that just be patient. My step son was not fully potty trained until he was 5 and it was mainly because his mother continued to let him wear pull ups and would not keep him on a routine or really encourage him in anyway. Good luck- every child is different.

My son is almost 27 months and i havn't got him potty train yet. I don't know what to do i bought him is own potty and he just want nothing to do with it. Am due in february with our 2nd child should i push him in to potty training or what help!!