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Cyber-bullying/harrasment/stalking on BG

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Cyber-bullying/harrasment/stalking on BG

posted 31st Jul '08
The poll is included just incase a person doesn't want to voice their opinion and they can discreetly vote on what they believe.


Do you think there is cyber bullying/harrasement/stalking on Baby-Gaga? Please state your reason for saying yes or no...



Cyber Harassment


Its forms and perpetrators




From the
April 2006 Issue
By Christa Miller



Stalking and bullying take many forms," says Jim Batelli, Mawah, New Jersey, chief of police. "It can involve ex-boyfriends and girlfriends, domestic partners, spouses, business/work relationships, students versus teachers, and even neighbors and relatives. Because of the Internet's anonymity and relatively low cost, Internet crimes cross all demographic and socioeconomic lines. It is difficult to create an offender profile, because the reasons behind the act vary so greatly. That is what makes these difficult crimes to investigate."


Cyber stalking
The generally accepted definition of cyber stalking is, according to a National Center for Victims of Crime (NCVC) document, "threatening behavior or unwanted advances directed at another using the Internet and other forms of online and computer communications." Cyber stalking is not unlike "offline" stalking. "The motive is usually control," says Jay Fisher, director of the Cyber Crimes Unit at CyberAngels.org. "This has not changed over time. Online stalking is like offline stalking - a way for a criminal to insert himself forcefully into a victim's life." The NCVC takes a broader approach, defining stalking as "a course of conduct directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to feel fear."

Cyber stalking takes a number of different forms, as it does offline. The NCVC notes the following forms of cyber stalking, which can take place in chatrooms, message boards, discussion forums and e-mail:
  • Threatening, obscene and/or unsolicited e-mail, text messages or other electronic communication. Spamming. Offenders sometimes sign their victims up at Web sites that will "spam" them with pornographic or marketing material. Live chat harassment or "flaming" (online verbal abuse). Improper messages left on message boards or guestbooks. Sending malicious code. Viruses, spyware and hacking programs can be used either to crash a victim's computer or to spy on the victim. Tracing another person's computer and Internet activity; identity theft. "The hacking is a method to control and aggravate the victim," Fisher says. "It also allows a perp to gain more knowledge of his/her victim."


The NCVC warns that cyber stalking can escalate into offline stalking, including the behavior most people associate with stalking: abusive and/or excessive phone calls, vandalism, threatening or obscene mail, trespassing and physical assault.

Cyber bullying
Cyber bullying differs from cyber stalking in demographics. Instead of adults targeting other adults or children, cyber bullying involves minors targeting other minors. Typically, it occurs among teens who know each other from school, church or the neighborhood. Although cyber bullying inspires the same physical and emotional reactions in its victims as stalking, it's much more subtly nuanced. For instance, victims can become bullies and shift back again.
StopCyberBullying.org, a Web site which, like WiredSafety.org, is run by WiredKids Inc., details cyber bullying and the many different forms and media it takes.
Direct cyber bullying includes all of cyber stalking's modes, and then some:
  • Instant or text messaging harassment. Bullies use these tools the same way they'd use e-mail - to threaten or say hurtful things. Password stealing. With the victim's password, a bully can impersonate the victim, change profile information to include personal or inflammatory language, or use the password to hack the victim's account. Blogs and Web sites. Blogs are free online diaries. They can stand alone or be linked to a Web site. In both cases, a bully might post disparaging information about a victim, or start a blog or site impersonating the victim. Digital pictures. Teens may use their phones to take pictures of other teens in the locker room or shower, then e-mail the pictures to friends or even post them online. Internet polling. Bullies participate in insulting or degrading polls about a classmate's physical characteristics or sexual experience.

Another form, cyber bullying by proxy, is more troublesome than direct cyber bullying, because bullies involve people who don't know what they are getting into. In most cases, cyber bullying by proxy makes it look as if the victim has started trouble, most often when a bully impersonates the victim. The victim's friends may become angry and shun him; the victim's parents may punish him; or a bully may even notify the ISP that the victim is a bully, so the ISP takes action against the victim.
One of the most dangerous forms of cyber bullying by proxy involves the bully either pretending to be the victim, or posting the victim's personal information, in chatrooms and bulletin boards that pedophiles or hate groups frequent. Advertising the victim for sex, or portraying the victim as a racist, can put the victim in significant physical danger.
Who are the bullies?
StopCyberBullying.org identifies four main types of bullies. These bullies are not like "traditional" playground bullies. Moreover, no one group or "type" is more at risk than another to become either a bully or a victim.
  1. "Vengeful angels" typically cyber bully teens who have been bullying them or their friends. "Revenge of the nerds" cyber bullies are similar to vengeful angels, though they bully more to have power over others with whom they normally have no power. Unlike vengeful angels, they need others to know what they're up to. "Mean girls" get together in a group to cyber bully, often for entertainment. Attention feeds their egos (and thus their behavior). "Inadvertent" cyber bullies either don't know they are doing wrong when they respond to an upsetting message or intend to be "playful" and don't understand that others could take it seriously.


Parry Aftab, an attorney who works pro bono for WiredSafety.org, says it's a mistake to believe that words can't hurt in these cases. "Cyber bullying has strong potential to go offline," she stresses.
Technology
StopCyberBullying.org notes that only imagination and access limit cyber bullying methods. Fisher adds, "As technology has evolved, so have ways to harass people. No one is truly anonymous online. Thus, a harasser can utilize more tools to make a person's life miserable - down to actually seeing a face [via Web cam] to associate with an e-mail address." As he sees it, one main problem is that although many people can turn off such technology, they often choose not to. "Careless users may keep equipment up and running. A good hacker/stalker can take advantage of a person's mistakes."
"It is difficult to forecast future trends because the technology is constantly changing," says Batelli. "One of the things we are becoming concerned about is the predator's ability to disguise the offensive e-mail's source by using multiple e-mail addresses or by hacking into another server to send the message. Wireless home networks can play into this. Unfortunately, the Internet itself provides solutions on how predators can circumvent law enforcement."
He adds, "Police need to be diligent, proactive and innovative. This type of crime is not going away. It is only going to become more complex. Law enforcement [agencies] must stay abreast of the constantly changing technology by continuing to train [their] officers."





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I have 3 kids & live in North Battleford, Saskatchewan
posted 31st Jul '08
Yes and no.

There are people that say harassing things on here but they are all fackers so who cares?
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posted 31st Jul '08
I don't feel like there is cyber bullying going on in the forms the article you posted states. Nobody has sent each other computer viruses and nobody is taking it to another level. If somebody feels bullied by another member they can easily click the ignore button.
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I have 1 child & 1 angel baby & live in Beverly Hills, California
posted 31st Jul '08
i dont really think so,im not on here all the time to say though..I DO KNOW some people get damn bitchy when they dont agree with what you are saying and can be brutal..also i find if someone makes an opinion about someone it spreads like wildfire-like that amber chick..shes finally allowed to talk in a forum without being harrassed big time.
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I have 1 child & live in Kelowna, British Columbia
posted 31st Jul '08
Ok take that back I reread the article without a screaming baby in my ear and I do see some forms of that.
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I have 1 child & 1 angel baby & live in Beverly Hills, California
posted 31st Jul '08
Quoting Monica♥sMcKenzie:“ I don't feel like there is cyber bullying going on in the forms the article you posted states. Nobody ... [snip!] ... and nobody is taking it to another level. If somebody feels bullied by another member they can easily click the ignore button.”
I completly agree with this. There is name calling and feelings do get hurt, but nobody is really harrassing anybody else. It never gets to that level.
There have been a few instances of prank calling, but you risk that kind of stuff when you give your number out, to anybody not just e-friends.
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I have 2 kids & live in Virginia
posted 31st Jul '08
Quoting Sara12345:“ i dont really think so,im not on here all the time to say though..I DO KNOW some people get damn bitchy ... [snip!] ... it spreads like wildfire-like that amber chick..shes finally allowed to talk in a forum without being harrassed big time.”

Amber pissed off a whole group of people. She was lashing out, making fake accounts, and harrassing them on MySpace. The people who harrassed her were people she had messed with or their close friends.
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I have 1 child & 1 angel baby & live in Beverly Hills, California
posted 31st Jul '08
eh i think some ppl jump on others when they havent grasped the ways of the site and some pretty much ask for it i dont think there is too much bulling
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posted 31st Jul '08
I don't think that BG is on par with what you're describing. Sure, people can get downright nasty on here, but Nick and Mara gave us the wonderful "Ignore" feature so you can avoid it.  If someone is harassing you in PM's, every time I've submitted them to Mara, she has completely dealt with it, and not ignored me. 

I make it a habit to not give out too much personal information on here, and just keep my guard up because you never know who is on here. 
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I have 2 kids & live in Sherman Oaks, California
posted 31st Jul '08
Quoting Monica♥sMcKenzie:“ Amber pissed off a whole group of people. She was lashing out, making fake accounts, and harrassing ... [snip!] ... accounts, and harrassing them on MySpace. The people who harrassed her were people she had messed with or their close friends.”
oh i didnt know she was doing all that harrassing! Sorry i didnt know the whole story i just knew what i watched.
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I have 1 child & live in Kelowna, British Columbia
posted 31st Jul '08
Quoting Monica♥sMcKenzie:“ Amber pissed off a whole group of people. She was lashing out, making fake accounts, and harrassing ... [snip!] ... accounts, and harrassing them on MySpace. The people who harrassed her were people she had messed with or their close friends.”

Yeah she was an ass for awhile and we had some choice words with one another but since she changed her ways people backed off of her
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I have 2 kids & 1 angel baby & live in Chicago, Illinois
posted 31st Jul '08
I really don't understand why people get all butthurt about this stuff...it is just the internet. Cry a river, build a em-effin bridge and GET OVER IT!

If you feel you are being bullied, sign off! sheesh...
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I have 1 child & live in Indiana
posted 31st Jul '08
Quoting Rubygirl214:“ I don't think that BG is on par with what you're describing. Sure, people can get downright nasty on ... [snip!] ... habit to not give out too much personal information on here, and just keep my guard up because you never know who is on here.”

Ditto to the Amerz.
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I have 2 kids & live in Berwick, Pennsylvania
posted 31st Jul '08
What is Community-based Harassment?



Community-based harassment is a grown-up version of school yard bullying. Multiple individuals within a community participate in the harassment and stalking of a single individual. However, rather than attack a victim physically, techniques are used to undermine a person psychologically. This can be far more damaging than a physical attack because not only is it very hard to prove, but it is extremely traumatizing for the victim. (Also known as cause stalking or gang stalking).
What sets community-based harassment apart from the related examples to the right is that the reason it takes place is often obscure to the victim. Without a solid reason for its occurrence, victims are often dismissed as delusional.
In addition, this form of harassment often leaves the target a victim of ridicule among friends and family because of the subtle nature of the attacks, which further compounds the trauma to the victim. It is emotionally draining and isolating to the victims because it is extremely difficult to prove, and virtually impossible to prosecute.
View a video of gang stalking activity. Also, there is a slideshow of stills taken from the video.
Frequently Asked Questions (pdf version) about organized stalking groups.
Why is this Happening?

Although it is difficult for a non-victim to understand, it is not difficult to realize that many schoolyard bullies have never outgrown their unhealthy ways of dealing with conflict and pain.
Reasons may include revenge by people who feel slighted but prefer to remain anonymous. Revenge is more common than you may think, especially with the advent of the internet which allows "revengists" or "avengers" to share their ideas. See http://www.ekran.no/html/revenge
or do a search on the word "revenge" to see for yourself.
It is also possible that such harassment has developed into a form of "sport" for the individuals who participate, not unlike a schoolyard bullying situation, which tends to center somewhat obsessively and irrationally around one individual who is perceived to be weak.
It is important to realize that our society's understanding of human psychology has grown exponentially over the last 50 years, allowing any hate or vigilante group to take full advantage of such knowledge. "Psychological warfare" is the perfect crime, because it causes the maximum damage to the victim, with the least chance of exposure of the perpetrator(s). Victims can very well be driven to suicide, while the explanation appears to be mental illness, so their claims are never investigated.





I wanted to add this in the mix. Because I definitly believe there is community based harrasment on baby-gaga. I tend to see the same people attack one person on here a lot. I think that maybe those people in that group need to feel superior and that is how they do it. If there is this handy little IGNORE button, why doesn't that group use it?
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I have 3 kids & live in North Battleford, Saskatchewan
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