Daddy's little girl has me heartbroken.

I have been a single mom for about 3 years. In that time I was lucky enough to meet a man whom I love and we are expecting a baby in January.For the greater part of that time my daughter has had me heartbroken. She has always been a daddy's girl, literally from birth. He is an ok dad I guess. I won't give him credit for being a good husband, or a decent person in general, but he does love her. In recent times I am finally getting steady child support, so I guess he has grown up a bit. I am sad because alot of times my daughter bawls when she has to come home, like being with me is a tragedy. It hurts my heart because since the day she was born I have been the one working hard to make her who she is. I deal with the "boo-boos", and I am the one that teaches her values. It hurts so bad because I hate that she wants nothing to do with me. He is a weekend father. He does the fun things with her. I am raising her, I have the heartache, I am the one that has put myself out there to make her life better. Yet, I am the one left feeling worthless day after day.

My mom says raising little girls can seem like a thankless job sometimes. She tells me to be patient because one day I will be Madelyn's best friend and above all she can't live without me. I still feel devestated. Anyone else going through the same thing? I need help.

You know, from the time I was teeny tiny until maybe 13 I thought my dad was the best person alive. I'd ball when I had to come home & he was less than a weekend father. I didn't see what my mom was doing until he finally dropped out of my life & I was able to understand what it really is that my mom did for me. And just like your mom said, my mother is now my best friend & my greatest strength.

Your little girl loves you & she probably cries when she leaves him because she doesn't get to see him as much, not because you are horrible. You are doing an amazing job & it will all come full circle. I really wish you luck & I hope you stay strong.

I have to agree with your mom. Right now, she probably wants to be with the one who doesn't say no and let's her do what ever she wants. But when she get's older and can grasp what all you have done for her, she will be forever thankful. I'm really close to my dad, but I don't have a mother like you! 

My daughters 4 and her dad is a loser. Hes never really been there for her but needless to say, my daughter loves him so much. Hes in jail right now and she asks about him alot. I know shes going to be a daddys girl and I cant imagine going through what you go through. Like you said hes the weekend dad and does the fun stuff and since he sees her only a few days, he probably doesnt discipline her much. My boyfriend has a son and he gets his son on the weekends too but once sunday comes, his son is ready to go back with his mom. It hurts my boyfriend but we feel its mainly because we have rules out our house and his mom lets him get away with alot. Just hang in there. Like you said you will be her bestfriend one day

I know when my dad used to pick me up for the weekend. I never got in trouble for anything, we did tons of fun things, we went out to eat and i got whatever i want. and when i had to go home to mom i cried cause i knew it would be two weeks or more before i got to do all that stuff with my dad agian. My mom is my best friend now. I realize nowwhat i didn't then, that my mom sacraficed so much for my brother and i.

Give her time. She will come around and you two will be closer than ever.

my BF daughter does the same thing, he gets her every other weekend and she crys when she has to leave!! it could be because she doesnt see him enough... just wait you will soon be number one!! you are doing your best i'm sure and later she'll see that she is too small to appreciate the stuff that counts and only sees what babies want like toys and fun stuff

My pedi told me that most girls are naturally daddy's girls usually until they hit puberty, and he told me not to take it personal if this is the case with my daughter. One day she will realize how much you've done for her and she will be your best friend. My mom and I were always best friends, but my dad's been out of my life since I was two.

Quoting micah ♥:“ You know, from the time I was teeny tiny until maybe 13 I thought my dad was the best person alive. I'd ... [snip!] ... horrible. You are doing an amazing job & it will all come full circle. I really wish you luck & I hope you stay strong.”

I don't even have a girl but Dang! i was so happy to read your entry because i realized that i wasn't the only one! my 2 year old son goes with his father 2-3 days a week and literally throws a fit when he is dropped back off with me!! His dad doesn't pay child support, lives in his parents basement at 22, didn't see his child more than a few times for the first year of his life (( he was going to college aka partying with his druggie friends )) and to this day does very little for his son. I am the one who does therapy with my son, teaches him words, taught him to walk, and teaches him right and wrong and he HATES me! I'm begining to think its simply because i'm not the FUN parent, i'm the set bedtime you need to eat fruit and veggies and not JUST french fries parent.