ANYONE PLZ HELP

HELLO,
i just recently had a ''miscarriage'' at 22 1/2 wks. the date was july 26 of this year. i need anyone out there that has went through the same thing. i have alot of mixed feelings about the doctors at the hospital. she was born at 1 pound 2 oz and she lived for a half an hour after she was born and the doctors didnt do anything to help her. i dont know i just went and had her cremated today. the hardest thing i ever had to do. i feel so mixed, one minute i believe that she is in a better place and the next i cry over a something so small. my heart is in pieces and i just dont want to feel so alone. im trying to stay strong;. i want to try for another child so soon but i know it's not the best option. when is a good time to try again? i know that that will never replace her but im so mixed up.....anyone been through the same thing?

how come you had her so early?

I'm very sorry for your loss. Here's a link to another mommy that just lost her baby too. Maybe you guys could get advice and help support eachother.
http://members.baby-gaga.com/member336132

I have never been thru a loss but just wanted to say I am so sorry you did.

That's so sad   i hope you feel better. &just remember, things always happen for a reason.

how do miscarriages happen? what went wrong? what should we be watching out for? (sorry if i sound dumb, but i'm a first time mom and i'm currently 21 weeks, and i would be totally devastated if i found out i lost the baby around this time, i'm so scared right now to know that i have a chance of losing the baby anytime now)

Quoting .CharlotteAmber.:“ how come you had her so early?”

well i guess this would be to answer bebichinitas question also.....me and my hubby were getting intimate on wendsday night. i was on top....everything was fine until when i woke up went to the bathroom and saw bllod when i wiped. i went to the labor and delivery they told me it was fine and if i had mild cramping to take tylenol... the next day, i woke up with pain and then the pain came to be contractions... i went into the hospital and they checked me i was 2cm dilated. (sp????) i had a slight fever of 101 and they told me they werent going to stop my labor. i ended up having her at 1:35am. but they old me it was because of an infection and they gave me antibiotics, but come to find out it was a minor UTI. in just dont understand why they didnt stop labor if they gave me the antibiotics and my fever went right away......i dont know im an emotional wreck

Quoting bebichinita:“ how do miscarriages happen? what went wrong? what should we be watching out for? (sorry if i sound dumb, ... [snip!] ... out i lost the baby around this time, i'm so scared right now to know that i have a chance of losing the baby anytime now)”

any type of bleeding....mine was so minor but it can change fast

Quoting it's a girl!!!:“ HELLO, i just recently had a ''miscarriage'' at 22 1/2 wks. the date was july 26 of this year. i need ... [snip!] ... is a good time to try again? i know that that will never replace her but im so mixed up.....anyone been through the same thing?”

I am so sorry for your loss.
I have set up a baby loss forum due to the death of my own baby.
It may help you to know you are not alone not ever .
kind regards Sandra O'Connell

http://lifeafterdeath.forumup.co.uk

Quoting bebichinita:“ how do miscarriages happen? what went wrong? what should we be watching out for? (sorry if i sound dumb, ... [snip!] ... out i lost the baby around this time, i'm so scared right now to know that i have a chance of losing the baby anytime now)”

I am so sorry not always things happen for a reason!!!
I am sure you did everything right ans sometimes we will just never get the answers.
Take care sandra xxx

Quoting mama nats♥:“ That's so sad   i hope you feel better. &just remember, things always happen for a reason.”

I have to say I find this quote very hurful.My baby died and people who make these comments upset me greatly.Sometimes babies die for no reason and the parents have to live with this all of their lives. Also it's not a case of feeling better it's a case of learnig to live everyday with your grief.I am sorry if you find my post harsh but I need to make you realise not every baby dies for a reason.
Sandra

Sorry to hear about your loss! We dont know why these things happen but if you need somebody to talk to im here!
*hugs*

Quoting Sandra O'Connell:“ I have to say I find this quote very hurful.My baby died and people who make these comments upset me ... [snip!] ... with your grief.I am sorry if you find my post harsh but I need to make you realise not every baby dies for a reason. Sandra”

 
I usually have to "bite my tongue" when I read that on here.

Quoting northwind:“   I usually have to "bite my tongue" when I read that on here.”

Sorry if I offended you it was not my intention but what could possibly be the reason for babies to die?>
Take care Sandra

Quoting Sandra O'Connell:“ Sorry if I offended you it was not my intention but what could possibly be the reason for babies to die?> Take care Sandra”

You didn't offend me at all. I agree COMPLETELY. I just don't usually say anything. I don't know why, probably because I'm a peacemaker.