I am Pandora Diane MacMillan* (formerly Waldron), author of the poem, "A Different Child" written on March 4, 1999, which you have posted to your web site. My poem was originally posted to the Canadian SPALS mailing list - Subsequent Pregnancy After a Loss -www.spals.com
and follows the SPALS Guidelines regarding mutual support, tolerance and diversity. I would encourage you to read the SPALS guidelines and if you are still trying to become pregnant or know a friend or relative in this situation, you would refer her to the SPALS web site.
This poem was written to tell Madoka Marietta Rosalie about the sister, Rhiannon Roxane, she will never meet, and to tell her how much she is loved and wanted. It is dedicated to Madoka Marietta Rosalie Waldron, and to all children whose parents will always miss...A Different Child.
The poem also appears on FictionPress http://www.fictionpress.com/s/87202/1/A-Diffferent-Child
. That copy of the poem states: "Dedicated to all who have lost a child and given birth to another much loved baby."
I would appreciate it if your copy of the poem would credit me as the author and include my original dedication with its postscript:
"------for Madoka Marietta Rosalie, from your mother,
Pandora Diane Waldron*--------March 4, 1999.
Remembering, with love, and not with sadness,
our Special Angel, Rhiannon Roxane,
who left this world 2 years ago today."
There are some other errors in the re-posting of my poem which have occurred on some web sites:
A Different Child is not just the title, it is the first line of the poem, as follows:
"A different child,
There's a special glow around you."
These lines refer to the new healthy baby who was born, not to the other different child, who passed away. However, the phrase "a different child" also later on refers to the child who was lost:
"A different child
Who was in their hopes and dreams."
In other words, in the historical manner of poetry, "a different child" has more than one meaning.
The last lines refer to the healthy baby grown up and able to offer comfort to another mother or father who is grieving. I actually met a young woman and a young man who said these compassionate words to me when I was grieving and partly through their words of hope, I tried again and had a successful pregnancy.
If my words can bring joy, hope or comfort to others, it is in this way that I continue to honour the legacy of Rhiannon Roxane. Let your child's memory be a living one, sharing the love you gave with others, and not a cold piece of stone.
This then was the intention of my poem. It was never intended to be a political or religious statement. If you have associated my poem with political or religious views, I would respectfully request that you remove my poem from your web site or any associated web sites which espouse religious or political viewpoints.
(Ms.) Pandora Diane MacMillan