sad angry and confused

Im not sure where to post this, im so upset, and im not even sure why. Things have been difficult around here im life is drama and it shouldnt be because i hate drama with a passion. My fiancee's family hates me with a passion im going crazy. I cant even take my son for a visit to his great grandmas because of his grandma, im trying here she needs to see him she has only seen him once. Tina his grandma thinks she can take him out of town which i have said no to because she threatened to take him away before i was even in my third trimester. But i was willing to let my mom take him to florida for a week. I dont want to be mean or even unfair its just i trust my mom more and she WILL bring him back im sure tina will to but that slight doubt scares me. I need a new additude. Once i got pregnant i went crazy ok its not crazy but i cant control my mood at all its like i go zero to B***H in 2 seconds. i need help i need patients. How do i deal with my fiancees mom. What makes every thing worse is she expects him every other weekend, her house is a mess how is he suppose to walk in there he just started and he loves to walk and be down but he is a hand to mouth kid and SHE WONT CLEAN THAT HOUSE. I cant not take him because that will upset my fiancee who just doesnt get it. What do i do? How do i deal with my emotions without just letting things happen? How do i deal with his family which is sooo different from mine? I just dont understand their ways and my fiancee's cluelessness.

does your fiance help you deal with her?

Quoting AidensMama101107:“ Im not sure where to post this, im so upset, and im not even sure why. Things have been difficult around ... [snip!] ... do i deal with his family which is sooo different from mine? I just dont understand their ways and my fiancee's cluelessness.”

I would definatly be a bitch about this..That's your child, you're in charge of his best interest & you're only being a good mother by doing so..if you feel the place is not anywhere you want your baby to be.. Then explain to your Fiancee & his family why..If they want to see your child bad enough they'll clean & do what is expected to be able to..Don't let your child go there if you really feel it's a bad idea or you have any bad feelings what so ever..You have a concious [sp] for a reason..It tells you things!! If your fiancee gets mad at you because of it ; then I wouldn't let it bother me much ... You're being a good mother & doing what's best for your baby..

Quoting Holly[ &Hayden ]:“ does your fiance help you deal with her?”

No im on my own he is a mamas boy which is fine but he doesnt help me understand her one bit and he jumps at her every word. its annoying.

Quoting Mrs.Coldren:“ I would definatly be a bitch about this..That's your child, you're in charge of his best interest & ... [snip!] ... because of it ; then I wouldn't let it bother me much ... You're being a good mother & doing what's best for your baby..”

but no one gets that my mom says i am hard on her. and her house is not like dirty dirty its just cluttered she has so much stuff its unreal i can barely walk through her house i have a cluttered room but he only sleeps in there and i try to unclutter it but we live in one room so i have his stuff my stuff and my fiancees tina she just has enough stuff to furish 3 houses i asked her to clean it up but she cant she wont do a damn thing i even told her i would help and so would my friend anything my son cant walk on a bed! but i am trying not to make the situation worse with her i just dont know how to talk to her or get it through her brain that its not ok to have a house like that with children. Im not the best at cleaning up my clothes but atleast i can see the floor and know whats on it. mainly clothes and toys which is a easy fix there just isnt much room. for all of us so i deal til i can move out.