I swear I could kill her

ok ladies here we go again my current boyfriend has been arrested because of his other baby mama . She big faced him while he was holding their six moth old daugther then kept hitting him so he grab her around the neck while the other little girl watched all this shit happen. The reason behind the maddness is my unborn son she feel like he doing more for my baby than her three so since he's been in lock up see keeps calling my house phone talking shit she has his cell phone and is calling every body telling them that he's a woman beater and that he all these bad things so I'm thinking of ways I could possibly get her out of the pic for good before my baby gets here becasue if she didn't care enough about the well being of her own baby I only imagine what she do to my son if she seen him with his daddy.

Um yeah,I dont think you should get her out of the picture.

The other kid has a fucking right to know her/his DADDY weather you like it or not. 

I know how she feels,my daughters dad just had his 5th kid and that bitch sounds like you,wants him all to her self.

You can't do anything to get her out of the picture.

He has 3 kids with her, they will ALWAYS be around and she will make your life hell if she is a spiteful, scorned woman.

She's not going any where. He fathered her kids just the same way he fathered yours.

But if he's the type of guy that would grab a woman around her neck as opposed to turning aorund and walking out of the room he doesn't sound like that wonderful of a man any way.

I do not think men should hit women for any reason.

Just remember. He's those kids father too. What happens if he leaves you and goes and has another child? You'd want him around to play dad. To pay child support. To be a father figure.

I'd assume at least.

hmmm You can't get her out the picture he has 3 kids by her. All you can do is stay out of his business between him and her. What goes around comes around. I believe in that saying. Just worry about the well being of your child instead of the other woman. Also I do agree with Dr. Jekyll if he is the kind of guy to grab a woman by the neck regardless if she hit him repeatedly he isn't all that great. A real man will walk away. While she beats him in the back. He could have called the police on her if he wanted to but he didn't.

You have no right to even TRY to get her out the picture. I dont give a shit what she is doing by calling people. She has three kids by that man and has a RIGHT to be in the picture.

The guy seems like a real piece of work because grabbing someone by the neck no matter what they did is uncalled for. Assault and attempted murder are two different things and maybe he needs to learn that.

You dont have to have anything to do with her but she sure as hell can stick around if she chooses. Thats not up to you.

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ You have no right to even TRY to get her out the picture. I dont give a shit what she is doing by calling ... [snip!] ... You dont have to have anything to do with her but she sure as hell can stick around if she chooses. Thats not up to you.”

uh huh so true. I know that is right.

My thing is I never did anything to this girl and when I 've talked to her I'm nothing but nice I can;t stand females that start shit just because you not with some one I have a son with another man and never once have I acted thast why he has a kid with someone else and the other bm is someone i can talk to with getting pissed off I hav> I just dont see this girl as being good for my son I know he got kids with her I Want her to back off with all the stupid shit she does like fucking up the car and trying to runhim off the road because he will have my son with him I don't like all the fucking drama I don't ask that way why should she plus she almost 30 I 'm only 22 I mean grow the fuck already. And no I don't want him all to my self we get the girl every weekend I buy for them like I do my own I just hate the way their mother act if I have wronged you why wrong me isn't my fault they shit didn't work out I wasn't anywhere around for that so how can you blame me .

Quoting ja'keith's mommy!!:“ My thing is I never did anything to this girl and when I 've talked to her I'm nothing but nice I can;t ... [snip!] ... wronged you why wrong me isn't my fault they shit didn't work out I wasn't anywhere around for that so how can you blame me .”

You are saying she needs to "grow up" but you are the one wanting to take three kids away from their father? Your age is not going to get you any simpathy. Maybe she doesnt see you as being good for her kids either. You dont know what your "man" has said to her about you. You dont live her life just ignore her. Its part of life esspecially when you got with a man who had three kids by someone else. Its not her fault you cant take it. He has a responsibility to those kids no matter what.

Quoting ja'keith's mommy!!:“ ok ladies here we go again my current boyfriend has been arrested because of his other baby mama . She big faced him while he was holding their six moth old daugther then kept hitting him so he grab her around the neck while the other little girl watched all this shit happen. The reason behind the maddness is my unborn son she feel like he doing more for my baby than her three so since he's been in lock up see keeps calling my house phone talking shit she has his cell phone and is calling every body telling them that he's a woman beater and that he all these bad things so I'm thinking of ways I could possibly get her out of the pic for good before my baby gets here becasue if she didn't care enough about the well being of her own baby I only imagine what she do to my son if she seen him with his daddy.

We're all commenting on the bolded part.

I guess but i feel like the shit she does is wrong I guess we differ their and anyman would be pissed if you put their child at risk because you pissed aboutnothing because he pays child support and gets them on weekends what more is their just because he moved on you act like a bitch thats not right he didn't leave her she left him and he chose the move forward so he should be made to suffer is that what you're saying I want to know how to get her understand that should stay between them not include me I know all that other shit about them having kids I never said keep him find his kids I would never want that damn I just don't want the drama thats not needed

Regardless of what is going on. What you all do is in the interest of the kids. I would say kill her with kindness. That is one way to break someone down that is mad at you. Is to be nicer and sweeter. If she doing those things maybe he isn't doing what he should by his kids. Hopefully he does right by you.
Think about it he has one than one kid with this chick so at one point things were good. He was doing right by her then you came into the picture. I don't know maybe it's fear that she has.
Me personally all I would want is that child support to take care of my kid and I wouldn't want nothing else because I will be to busy loving my child to care.
Let the drama go don't add too it. Maybe she will cool off knowing you are alright. Not what she heard about you from her X or what she thinks she knows.

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ You are saying she needs to "grow up" but you are the one wanting to take three kids away from their ... [snip!] ... who had three kids by someone else. Its not her fault you cant take it. He has a responsibility to those kids no matter what.”

I agree with what you said.  

Quoting Dr. Jekyll:“ We're all commenting on the bolded part.”

I think she typed that out of pure hate & anger. I've experienced someone harassing me and cussing me out when I flipped it with I'm sorry you feel that way I want nothing but the best she got quiet and apologized and things changed. I don't know about this one. We are getting a snippet of what is going on here.

Quoting BabyDee78:“ I think she typed that out of pure hate & anger. I've experienced someone harassing me and cussing ... [snip!] ... got quiet and apologized and things changed. I don't know about this one. We are getting a snippet of what is going on here.”

Yeah, I guess you're right.

The entire thing just confuses me. I've never been in a situation like that, but I've come into contact with a lot of people who are in the whole "My child's father is also this woman's child's father and now she wants him back..." and it just confuses me so much because I don't understand how some one can come into that much drama.

-bangs head on the wall-