Wowzerz...idk wat 2 do

hello ppl....i havent been on in a while....i lost my lil angel back in June, june 10th 2 be exaxt...it was the hardest thing i've ever had 2 deal with...and ive been thru some shit [lol] anyways, i kinda had 2 go through that alone [except 4 u wonderful women that r on here...u all r a GODSEND] anywho....i have a nu BF he's wonderful....we've known each other 4 [edit: 8years]....anyways ive finally told him about my miscarriage and everything and how i secretly have this unexplainable longing 4 a child....i mean im only 18 so i guess im a lil young to be thinkin of trying again. but its like i have this empty aching spot inside of me now =(. Anywho....i was tellng him about it and he was like he's ready 2 b a father....idk though....am i moving 2 fast? i mean honestly i do wanna wait until im finished with college tostart having kids...b/c i want to be finacially[sp] stable....but he has a house and everything and he says now that he has me a little him is all thats missing....and i feel the same way....is it normal 2 feel like this after a miscarriage? ne advice is welcome....thx

it's normall after a miscarriage. Don't rush it. It'll happen later on when god thinks you're ready again! Take some time to get better emotionally. I know how it feels I've had quite a few!

i think your moving a little fast.. you have known this guy for 4 years, but your in a realationship with him now things might change a little, (for the better) but youve only been with him for a little while.. finish college first.. i know its hard to not have your baby but you should slow down just a little..

Quoting *Future Doctor*:“ hello ppl....i havent been on in a while....i lost my lil angel back in June, june 10th 2 be exaxt...it ... [snip!] ... all thats missing....and i feel the same way....is it normal 2 feel like this after a miscarriage? ne advice is welcome....thx”

Wait it out. I know replacing what you lost might seem like the easiest thing to do but wait untill you are really ready and not grieving sp?

Honestly, there is NO SUCH thing as FINANCIALY STABLE! But if you think you are ready for kids then I say GO FOR IT!!!! Everyone deserves to be a mommy or daddy! Your age does NOT matter! You seem to have a good head on your shoulders to do what you want! Good Luck and I am sooooo sorry to hear about your loss!!!!

Thxz....maybe i am rushing...but i know 100% im emotionally ready...ive been takin care of babies since i was 7....i dont really party and club as it is so time is no issue....idk.....

Im sooo sorry for your loss, but Pleeease finish college before you start trying for another baby. It'll make things soo much easier for you if your done with school and have a good job.

when i had my m/c i wanted a baby right away too.. but we waited a few months so i had time to grieve. and then i got pregnant. but in my situation i waas already married. i'm not saying you should be married to have a baby, i'm just saying you should let your realationship with your partner have a little time to grow.

For me I wanted to replace that child and my husband and I tried again right away, it still hasn't happened. It has been hard and alot for us to go threw together, we have been together 9 years. If you want to know what I think, I think you have time, take it slow. I know you have known this guy for awhile, but you shouldn't rush and you can't replace the child you lost. I wish you luck.

It is normal and I would advise against it...

If you just started dating the guy, regardless of how long you've known him, you need time to be a couple before you decide to have a baby...

If it's something you really want with this man, not just something you want to do, then you can wait it out...

Also, please type like an educated adult, reading ebonics makes my m/s act up...

- Jess

Quoting MommyInTheMaking:“ It is normal and I would advise against it... If you just started dating the guy, regardless of how ... [snip!] ... to do, then you can wait it out... Also, please type like an educated adult, reading ebonics makes my m/s act up... - Jess”

sorry 4 typing in slang, but it's quicker....i was on my phone.