How do i ...

get my boyfriend more involved with my pregnancy when the baby is not his. Ive been with him for 5 years on and off.We love eachother so much.I tried everything to get him involve .. he have his moments where he is interested and sometimes he could care less. Should i stop trying or work it out. there is a saying they have in spanish which is. "It takes a father to raise it , and not just to make one. [ i really dont know how its really said in english]lmao

give him time, it's hard for any man to raise someone else's child. Just wait it out and let him get used to the idea.

Hmmm..I think it may be hard to get him involved since it is not his. But if you guys end up together in the long haul, he needs to be involved. Maybe this is not the right guy for you. However, in general, most guys are less interested in pregnancy than girls are.

I've realized a lot of men aren't involved in the pregnancy that much. Jeff isn't and I think it's just because it hasn't really hit him. Maybe it will when I get bigger, or maybe it will when the baby finally comes.

And I'm sure it's harder for a man that the baby isn't his. I mean, even five years on and off, and still having another mans baby, that'd hit me pretty deep. Don't try to force anything on him. Just take it a day at a time.

well if its not his.. then you need to really talk to him about his true feelings. you cant make him feel closer to the baby if he doesnt want to.

All men go though hormonal chagnes when they are with a pregnant woman anyway. my husband wasnt very interested with our son till he was born. its not really real to them till they can see it and hold it. this time around my husband is more interested but still... not near as much as me.

its different for us cause its IN us. watch and see when that baby is born and if he still acts distant.. then its up to you to make the crucial desision about what to do with the relationship.

Congrats honey and dont le tthis get you down :-)

Quoting angel mommy:“ give him time, it's hard for any man to raise someone else's child. Just wait it out and let him get used to the idea.”

Its not his baby? I must have missed another post.
ya sorry but I could not do it if it was me. If i was a guy and my girl cheated and a baby resulted. Nope I could not raise it.

i think u should let him come when he's ready. i don't try to get mine involved at all. i feel like this some men have a hard time dealing when its their child so who ami to try and make someone who isn't the father. he knows u and the baby come together and he can't have you unless he has the baby too. if its not interfereing with the relationship then let nature take its course. if its getting in the way of you two then yes maybe u should back off because its not his responsiblity in the first place.

i dont think she cheated. i think they were on and off like she said.

i was raised by my set-dad from the age of 1 till now. im 22. so great things will come.

Quoting Megan46268:“ i dont think she cheated. i think they were on and off like she said. i was raised by my set-dad from the age of 1 till now. im 22. so great things will come.”

I don't know my real dad. My [first] step dad is the realist daddy i have. and he's the bestest. haha.

My sister n law and brother n Law have been together for 10 yrs off and on and they both have kids one's 8 my sister n laws and one is 5 my brother n laws and they are both by seperate people and they have worked it out and worked through it and have been married for a year and are super happy! so I am betting you 2 can make it!

Quoting Glenda-Rae:“ Its not his baby? I must have missed another post. ya sorry but I could not do it if it was me. If i was a guy and my girl cheated and a baby resulted. Nope I could not raise it. ”

We werent together for a year and we just got together in april right after he founf out i was preggo , he still wanted to be with me its just that i have to continue to ask him if he wants to be in our lifes.

My sister n law and brother n Law have been together for 10 yrs off and on and they both have kids one's 8 my sister n laws and one is 5 my brother n laws and they are both by seperate people and they have worked it out and worked through it and have been married for a year and are super happy! so I am betting you 2 can make it!

sorry sumtn messed up with my computer! didnt mean to post twice!

Does he attend dr''s appts with you? Seeing ultrasounds and hearing the heartbeat could help. Also once he can feel your baby move it may help. Good luck. This sounds like a difficult situation.

Quoting Makayla and Jaxon's Mom:“ i think u should let him come when he's ready. i don't try to get mine involved at all. i feel like this ... [snip!] ... if its getting in the way of you two then yes maybe u should back off because its not his responsiblity in the first place.”

true.