re: 10 year old left at home? *update*

Quoting cherrya03:“ It's true they do. I could never even look in a guys direction if they didnt want my kids around. Sorry but bye bye. There goes the door. I cant stand when moms do that.”

Me either. I had a friend once who was like that. This was before I had children of my own. But she would leave her daughter with ANYONE who would take money to babysit to go hang out with guys. She would get pissed at me or her parents or sister if they didn't want to sit for her to go be with a dude. 
Pathetic.

My mother did that when I was young, before she left.  She was always letting her boyfriends hit us and stuff.   It sucks to know that your mom cares more about a dick than you.  

Quoting USMCBabyOnTheWay:“ but the police won't bring me up when talk to this women, right? not that it really matters....she' doesn't know me...she doesn't know my name”

You don't have to give your name or number if you don't want to.

I would have your niece find out for you when the girl is home alone... have your niece find out when her mom leaves and the days (if they're the same all the time)... Then your niece can call you and you then can call the police.

That way you know for sure that she is alone and the mom isn't there.

Quoting USMCBabyOnTheWay:“ So my 11 year old neice made a friend that lives in the apartments i live in and she just told me that ... [snip!] ... the little girl for her mothers number so i can confront her...or maybe calling the cops on her....what do you guys think?"

many times calling those places makes things worse for the child (i use to work for CPS). i would try to talk to the mother 1st and explain your concerns and she how she responds BEFORE getting the state involved. If it is trully a case of neglect than def. do what is necessary, butto rip a child out of their home/comfort zone and send them into a world of having a million different strangers questioning you about your mom andthengoing several months without seeing your mom while no one ever explains what is going on to you is not very good for children. there are alot of things that happen after CPS gets involved, andit isALOT to put a child through. so i would suggest talking to the mom first to see where she is coming from, and then go from there. 

That's child neglect. Legally, a child isn't supposed to stay home alone until 12 or 13. Me and my sister stayed home by ourselves when we were little (6 and 8 ) after school and on the weekends until my parents came home from work. That was because we were poor and my mom couldn't afford a sitter. But my uncle always came by and we lived close to our grandparents, that's where we usually go anyways. But I was never left alone overnight.

I don't understand how a woman can leave her child alone just to see her boyfriend. What if something happens to the little girl? The boyfriend is nothing compared to a child she carried for 9 months or so and went through great pain to deliver and raise.

Quoting someday soon.:“ many times calling those places makes things worse for the child (i use to work for CPS). i would try ... [snip!] ... to put a child through. so i would suggest talking to the mom first to see where she is coming from, and then go from there. ”

Seriously???

You think it is somewhat okay to leave a 10 year old at home ALONE for HOURS??

You think it is okay to leave a 10 year old home ALONE OVER NIGHT??

You didn't say that exactly, but by you saying to talk to the mom to see where she's coming from, you pretty much did. I find that ridiculous!

No 10 year old child should be left alone for hours, let alone over night so her mom can go and see her boyfriend. Her mom should choose to spend time with her and not leave her like that.

Hell, why not bring the boyfriend to her house if he doesn't want her child at his??? Get a babysitter (friend or family) to watch her if the mom wants to go out.

It isn't hard! If she can't find someone, oh well, then she needs to stay w/ her daughter.  

I try not to butt my head into peoples buisness but when it comes to the safety of children I would def call child protective services

Quoting natesmomma:“ My mother did that when I was young, before she left. She was always letting her boyfriends hit us and stuff. It sucks to know that your mom cares more about a dick than you. ”

Yeah, my MIL is like that with her BF. He has been physically abusive with my husband's younger brother and two sisters and also verbally abusive. One of his sisters has a heart condition and when she was about 13-14, my MIL's BF told her he hoped that she died with her defective ass heart. What the hell kinda thing is that to say to a kid??? And he's hit my MIL, SIL's and BIL. But she still deals with him. I can't understand it. No one is going to abuse my children. Not even thier biological dad. Damn that. I'd kill his ass first.

Quoting USMCBabyOnTheWay:“ So my 11 year old neice made a friend that lives in the apartments i live in and she just told me that ... [snip!] ... the little girl for her mothers number so i can confront her...or maybe calling the cops on her....what do you guys think?”

I stayed at home a lot when I was about 10 or 11. However, it wasn't all night and it was because my Dad was working third shift while my Mom was working first shift and going to school. Even though I never got hurt and was able to do it, I was really lonely and really depressed. Call the police!

Quoting BBB mommy:“ Seriously??? You think it is somewhat okay to leave a 10 year old at home ALONE for HOURS?? You think ... [snip!] ... her if the mom wants to go out. It isn't hard! If she can't find someone, oh well, then she needs to stay w/ her daughter.  ”

ok   and maybe someone should call CPS on you considering your on the internet w/ your breast hanging out--very motherly.

I was just saying that she should find out what is actually going on by talking to the mom or child HERSELF, BEFORE contacting CPS. I don't think that is too much to ask if she is concerned. Depending on the child, some 10yr olds ARE capable of staying home by themselves after school or while their parents work. Staying home by yourself while mom is partying is not ok, but she should make sure that is in fact the case.

Quoting Zack & Zari's Mommy:“ Yeah, my MIL is like that with her BF. He has been physically abusive with my husband's younger brother ... [snip!] ... I can't understand it. No one is going to abuse my children. Not even thier biological dad. Damn that. I'd kill his ass first.”

Me too.  I can't believe women let people do that to their children.  You carry them for 9 m onths and give birth to them and then let some asshole crap all over them.  Makes me soooo angry!

Quoting Jessie [Isabella's Mommy]:“ I stayed at home a lot when I was about 10 or 11. However, it wasn't all night and it was because my ... [snip!] ... going to school. Even though I never got hurt and was able to do it, I was really lonely and really depressed. Call the police!”

See, and your parents were doing it for good reasons too and it still had an effect on you that was not so positive. This girls mom is doing this crap to go off with her boyfriend. Ridiculous. I mean, at least have a good reason. She not staying out all night to support her kid by working, she doing it for a MAN! That's so uncool!!!

Quoting Zack & Zari's Mommy:“ See, and your parents were doing it for good reasons too and it still had an effect on you that was ... [snip!] ... have a good reason. She not staying out all night to support her kid by working, she doing it for a MAN! That's so uncool!!!”

exactly, the poor girl has to make her own dinner!

I didn't really read all the replies.. so I don't know if someone has already mentioned this, but are you sure the kid is telling the truth?

I mean, kids say a lot of things to impress their friends "I stay home all by myself all night long!" for example. Once a 6 year old knocked on my door crying saying her parents left her alone. She was locked out of her house, this was around 2pm. She lived next door and after knocking and ringing the bell and realizing no one was home, I had her come in, gave her lunch and toys and let her watch cartoons till her parents came home at 9:30pm. Apparently, she was actually left with her grandparents who live three doors down, they had believed she was playing at a friends house.

I'm not saying that this kid is lying, but are you sure that's not possible?

And you should definitly finda way to get proof and get hold of the authorities. If you cannot for some reason, maybe you help out by inviting the kid to stay over a few nights if you like her.

Quoting Filzens_Wife:“ I think you should call DSS....that way it will be anonymous (sp)and it would be throroughly investigated”

I gree.. I had to do that once.. but the little girl was like5 or 6!! That stupid bitch mother needs to learna lesson! That she is a bad mother!!