re: :( i dont want to be a bad mom

Quoting a l e x.c a i l e e:“ i just dont see how its "RUDE" ... if i was thinking i cant do this and im going to fail as a mother ... [snip!] ... I guess i just dont get it or whatever.. but i was saying how i felt. I felt that would be the logical thing to do. ”

Seriously? You've NEVER thought about the mom you'll be, or how you're going to handle the change of having a baby? Get over yourself...  

Op

also your hormones are adjusting back so your gonna feel sad or overwhelmed...plus exhaustion doesnt help....you are 100 percent normal, and how your feeling has nothing to do with what kind of mother you are. I am having my second..but its been 7 years..Im 26 now and im scared because I remember how different it is.

Quoting a l e x.c a i l e e:“ i just dont see how its "RUDE" ... if i was thinking i cant do this and im going to fail as a mother ... [snip!] ... I guess i just dont get it or whatever.. but i was saying how i felt. I felt that would be the logical thing to do. ”

You obviously dont, I never EVER considered giving my baby up for adoption, I'm stronger than that. The fact that I'm struggling but still doing it shows a lot, you'll know what I mean whenever your baby comes along.
If you cant relate, then dont criticize

Quoting a l e x.c a i l e e:“ i just dont see how its "RUDE" ... if i was thinking i cant do this and im going to fail as a mother ... [snip!] ... I guess i just dont get it or whatever.. but i was saying how i felt. I felt that would be the logical thing to do. ”

i doubt that theres one mother out there who has not felt this way... and if there is then kuddos to them but my point is almost EVERY mother or mother to be has the same thought or feeling. so does that mean we should all look into adoption? yeah no

Quoting Gabes Mommy  :“ If you make a post about you being overwhelmed about being a mother and we say something along the lines of you should of looked into adoption how would you feel?”

more then likely feel you were probablly right.. and i should have given it more thought while i was pregnant..
i would have taken the advice whether i thought it was good or not. If i was saying i dont think im a good mom and i cant provide for my baby and i need advice i would SERIOUSLY, take all your comments and opinions to heart and i would take time and think "did i really make the right choice"
just becuase a baby is born doesnt mean adoption cant be looked into. if i was in this situation thinking holy crap im going to fail and i cant do this at all. I would reasses all my options including adoption if i loved and cared truly for the babys well being knowing i would be a bad mom.. i would do what was best for the baby.

Quoting a l e x.c a i l e e:“ i just dont see how its "RUDE" ... if i was thinking i cant do this and im going to fail as a mother ... [snip!] ... I guess i just dont get it or whatever.. but i was saying how i felt. I felt that would be the logical thing to do. ”

It's rude because alot of women have those thoughts, you dont have your baby yet so you dont know how hard it is physically, emotionally (sp?) or mentally. If she really thought she wouldnt be able to care for this child then she would of given it up for adoption.

You will be fine hunny I had my first at 16 and yes it is hard but so worth it! if it gets to hard talk to your doctor it could be ppd and that is not your fault but I doubt it and I bet you are a wonderful mother!

Quoting McLeary:“ Op also your hormones are adjusting back so your gonna feel sad or overwhelmed...plus exhaustion doesnt ... [snip!] ... of mother you are. I am having my second..but its been 7 years..Im 26 now and im scared because I remember how different it is.”

It's really scary, because he depends on ME. I just dont want to disappointed him, EVER.

Quoting a l e x.c a i l e e:“ more then likely feel you were probablly right.. and i should have given it more thought while i was ... [snip!] ... if i loved and cared truly for the babys well being knowing i would be a bad mom.. i would do what was best for the baby.”

no you would cry.....your gonna be an emotional mess who is exhausted like anyone who has a baby....

Quoting Gina!:“ It's really scary, because he depends on ME. I just dont want to disappointed him, EVER.”

your a good mom just for even being concerned for him....and it getts easier when you get used to it....

you may need ot remind me of my own words when I have mine...lol

Quoting *Mrs. von Sydow*:“ Seriously? You've NEVER thought about the mom you'll be, or how you're going to handle the change of having a baby? Get over yourself...  ”

yes!! .. i had a date set out for an abortion becuase i knew i wasnt ready but when i had the support i needed from family and my boyfriend then i knew it wasnt going to be all that bad. i do not think ill be super mom. i never said that..
i apologized for what i said but instead of taking the apology you all still come after me ..
i think to insult someone who has apologized for thier mistake is the wrong thing to do. if i was fighting the fact that what i said had nothing wrong with it then be my guest go after me. but i said i worded it wrong and i didnt mean for it to come out like that. i think thats fair.

Quoting a l e x.c a i l e e:“ yes!! .. i had a date set out for an abortion becuase i knew i wasnt ready but when i had the support ... [snip!] ... then be my guest go after me. but i said i worded it wrong and i didnt mean for it to come out like that. i think thats fair.”

when you apologize you arent supposed to try and justify your mistake...

but I will leave you alone now, I think you get the point

Quoting a l e x.c a i l e e:“ more then likely feel you were probablly right.. and i should have given it more thought while i was ... [snip!] ... if i loved and cared truly for the babys well being knowing i would be a bad mom.. i would do what was best for the baby.”

I had the same exact thoughts when my son was 2weeks old but i never once thought that i made the wrong choice. I stuck it out and dont regret one bit of it. I could NEVER give my son up for adoption no matter the situation, i know i would never forgive myself and one day he might think that i didnt care for him enough to keep him.

So your saying that if you couldnt handle it you would look into adoption and not even try to stick it out for longer? What would you tell your kid once they were old enough to understand why you gave them up. How do you think it would make them feel to hear that you didnt keep them because you thought youd be a bad mom and couldnt handle it.

Quoting McLeary:“ your a good mom just for even being concerned for him....and it getts easier when you get used to it.... you may need ot remind me of my own words when I have mine...lol”

Haha, maybe   My mom said the same thing, and hopefully I get used to it soon, for now its just stressful because its all so new.

I always see adoption and abortion as a girls easy way out...like forman it's walking away. Putting it this way you did the dirty now deal with it...thats what I said to myself...it's not the baby's fault its brought into the circumstances that are surrounding your life. But what you make of it and how you overcome your own adversity is what proves what kind of person you are and how strong you can be do not give up!!