re: :( i dont want to be a bad mom

Quoting a l e x.c a i l e e:“ maybe you should have thought about that while you were pregnant and looked into adoption. you can do it.. you have to be strong!!”

Hey, I'd rather have an arm cut off and go through all the stress in the world then give my baby up for adoption..

I'll only give in to adoption is if my other and only option is abortion..

Quoting McLeary:“ thought about what? it being hard?...just becasue a mother is overwelmed doesnt mean she should think about adoption...thats stupid to say”

no the fact shes young and thinks she would be a bad mother and not succeed..
it wasnt mean i was just saying obviously she had these thoughts while pregnant. something she could have looked into.  thats all im saying everyone sloooww down!!

Quoting Gina!:“ My baby was just born on the 12th, and I knew it would be hard work, but yesterday I started crying because its SO tough... I'm only 16 and a mommy... I dont know if I can do it... successfully.  ”

the fact that u are concious that it will be hard will make u a better mom
u want the best for u bubs right'? thst means ur on the right track.

Quoting a l e x.c a i l e e:“ no the fact shes young and thinks she would be a bad mother and not succeed.. it wasnt mean i was ... [snip!] ... she had these thoughts while pregnant. something she could have looked into.  thats all im saying everyone sloooww down!!”

no it was rude... and fyi i think every mom to be has that thought at some point

hun I'm 26 and its still hard and I have cried a lot as well with the baby, its just very overwhelming. I think most new first time moms feel as if maybe they can't handle being a mom. It's a very tough job. You have this new bein g that is entirely dependent on you and you don't know hwat he needs sometimes. His/her only means of communication is by crying and its tough because we don't always know why. Plus being a new mom with a sore body I think we tend to all lose it emotionally as well as physically because of the sleep deprivation and the trauma we just went through. Just tough it out and keep doing what you need to do to survive it will get better. Just remember the little one is so worth all your tears and lack of sleep. Maybe get a relative to help out during the day so you can sneak in some sleep. Hang in there. I know how your feeling I felt horrible my first week and I thought I was coming down with a bout of depression.

Quoting a l e x.c a i l e e:“ no the fact shes young and thinks she would be a bad mother and not succeed.. it wasnt mean i was ... [snip!] ... she had these thoughts while pregnant. something she could have looked into.  thats all im saying everyone sloooww down!!”

Bottom line - it was an uncalled for comment. If it was meant to be helpful, you should have worded it differently - but adoption to some people is a very sensitive subject. You need to watch what you say....

Quoting Mavick:“ Hey, I'd rather have an arm cut off and go through all the stress in the world then give my baby up for adoption.. I'll only give in to adoption is if my other and only option is abortion..”

she obviously thinks if you get overwhelmed as a new mom...you should have given the kid up 

she is gonan eat those words when she has her baby...unless she is superwoman

Quoting a l e x.c a i l e e:“ no the fact shes young and thinks she would be a bad mother and not succeed.. it wasnt mean i was ... [snip!] ... she had these thoughts while pregnant. something she could have looked into.  thats all im saying everyone sloooww down!!”

YA but the fact the shes worried and has vaild concerns made your comment uncalled for...it was not very nice...and look to yourself and think if you would like for someone to have told you that. I think she is brave too. At such a young age its a huge decision to keep your baby...most people push you to abort because ofher age. Im 26 and scared shitless as well...but I know I made the right decision keeping my baby regardless of my baby daddy situation...

Im 17 and my sons a few days short of being 6 months. I never thought i would be able to make it this far. The first two months i was hardly getting any sleep. I didnt think i was going to be able to handle it. Every mother no matter the age has these feelings, just get as much sleep as you can, dont stress yourself out to much and just go with the flow. It does get harder but you will be able to get over the obsticles.

Quoting ♥K-Bears*Mama♥:“ no it was rude... and fyi i think every mom to be has that thought at some point”

i just dont see how its "RUDE" ... if i was thinking i cant do this and im going to fail as a mother i would deff look into adoption so the baby could have the best life, or the life i couldnt provide.
I was simply stating she could have looked into that.. and maybe she had. I dont have a baby yet so i dont know how tough it is. So maybe when i have mine ill come back and write the same thread. I guess i just dont get it or whatever.. but i was saying how i felt. I felt that would be the logical thing to do.

Quoting a l e x.c a i l e e:“ no the fact shes young and thinks she would be a bad mother and not succeed.. it wasnt mean i was ... [snip!] ... she had these thoughts while pregnant. something she could have looked into.  thats all im saying everyone sloooww down!!”

k guys she apologized.. didnt mean to be mean.. lets move on.. back to the OP

Quoting a l e x.c a i l e e:“ no the fact shes young and thinks she would be a bad mother and not succeed.. it wasnt mean i was ... [snip!] ... she had these thoughts while pregnant. something she could have looked into.  thats all im saying everyone sloooww down!!”

most new moms..young or old have thoughts that arent exactly inspiring...at least she is conserned about being a good mom...she obviously cares.

Quoting a l e x.c a i l e e:“ no the fact shes young and thinks she would be a bad mother and not succeed.. it wasnt mean i was ... [snip!] ... she had these thoughts while pregnant. something she could have looked into.  thats all im saying everyone sloooww down!!”

If you make a post about you being overwhelmed about being a mother and we say something along the lines of you should of looked into adoption how would you feel?

Quoting *Mrs. von Sydow*:“ Bottom line - it was an uncalled for comment. If it was meant to be helpful, you should have worded ... [snip!] ... should have worded it differently - but adoption to some people is a very sensitive subject. You need to watch what you say....”

i suppose it was meant to be helpful.
that was just the first thing that came to mind when i read the post.
i wasnt trying to be mean to her. i think its great shes trying im young to and trying as well. i think it just came out "differently" then expected and you all took it differently then what was thought in my head!

Bottom line Gina just keep your head up hun!! Good luck with everything and seek help from family and friends during the day as was suggested and get some shut eye!!