re: ITS SOOOO HARD...

Quoting Mavick:“ .......right”

wat u mean.....right?

somebody is really stpid if u jus want ta raise ur kid alone. i understand if ya have to but dang ur kid isnt all u got to worry bout

Quoting BRiTT@NY:“ wat u mean.....right? somebody is really stpid if u jus want ta raise ur kid alone. i understand if ya have to but dang ur kid isnt all u got to worry bout”

look. if you like being there for a guy when THEY decide want you at certain moments doesnt mean others are stupid in wanting to be single parents. a kid isnt ALL you have to worry about, but they are first priority. it would kinda suck if they come and go if they please when the child is around and feeling abandoned. not all relationships have happy endings.

its not your place to say whether someone can date someone other than the babys father cuz you dont know what is going on. step fathers DO HAVE good impact sometimes. ever realize that? one just needs to be careful in choosing the right person.

Quoting Mavick:“ look. if you like being there for a guy when THEY decide want you at certain moments doesnt mean others ... [snip!] ... on. step fathers DO HAVE good impact sometimes. ever realize that? one just needs to be careful in choosing the right person.”

that's true...but if the father isn't there at all the kid feels abandoned too don't they. cause that would be worse that him bein around sometimes. cause then the kid would kno she has a real dad not a step(fake) one

Quoting BRiTT@NY:“ that's true...but if the father isn't there at all the kid feels abandoned too don't they. cause that ... [snip!] ... cause that would be worse that him bein around sometimes. cause then the kid would kno she has a real dad not a step(fake) one”

a stepdad is not a fake dad.

geez. just drop it already.

Quoting Mavick:“ a stepdad is not a fake dad. geez. just drop it already.”

I agree well my daughters sperm donor hasnt seen her since she was 6 mnths old so my husband is the only dad she has ever known and he is a way better father then the sperm donor is or could ever be! to her that is her dad

Quoting RAEYLNNS MOMMY:“ I THINK WHATS BEST FOR HER IS HER FATHER TO BE THEIR... BUT HE WONT ANSWER ME UNTIL SHE IS OUT...OCT. ... [snip!] ... I SHOULD WAIT BECAUSE THEIR COULD BE A CHANCE THAT HE COULD WANT ME AND RAELYNN BACK ONCE HE SEES HER....IDK WHAT TO DO.... ”

I think your daughter will be completely fine without a father. You don't get a choice to not deal with her until she's born, so why should her father?? If he's not there for you through the pregnancy, he shouldn't get the option to be there for you once she's here. Raelynn will be perfectly fine without her daddy, and who knows, you may just find someone who is in love with both of you so much, and would never just "diassapear" if you got pregnant, to fill your daughter's Dadda role.

wow i guess i jus feel a little different like the dad plays a big role in a kids life to me. i don't kno wat i would have done without my dad i never ever got in trouble til my parents split & i was wit jus my mom. guess its jus my opinion i don't think anybody should wanna raise a child alone.

I would wait for no man* boy in hiscase*to make up his mind about his child, cause if he where a man he would just be there from the get go. I don;t know if he is unsure if it is his child or not, but either way if he knows that he laid down with you and there could be a chance he could atleast talk to you on a regular basis. and honey when me and my childs father where going through things and he finally told me he didnt want a relationship, I went about my buisness and its amazing how many guys out there who dont care about you having a child. cause trust me hun, even though it aint a good thing, most people out there have kids now a days. But once you open up your life to new people *men* you would have never thought how many people would want to be with you! Cause honey if he is a MAN...he will see that you are you and your child dosent make you, but your child is apart of you and he will love you both!