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I am really feeling like it's a pregnancy issue... being as how I'm pregnant - and having this issue... and I wasn't sure where else to post this where other pregnant ladies might read it... Sorry if I was wrong.

It's not a health problem so much as ... more like feelings of misgivings. And I'm feeling REALLY REALLY guilty about it. Sigh* ...

I'm 19 wks, about to find out the sex (maybe) on Monday, & everytime someone asks "aren't you excited?!!?" - I think to myself, no. I obviously don't answer that, but I think that. No. I'm not. I'm worried. I'm scared. I'm nervous. And even thoughI thought I was ready, I don't feel like I am.

I WANT to be excited, really I do. Please don't get me confused, I really do want to be happy about it and excited, I just can't keep from racking my brain about all the things that may go wrong or that I won't be able to do or will have to put off... I REALLY don't want to feel like this is going to ruin my life, but I am.

My boyfriend is soooooooooooo excited - I mean he really is which is why I used so many o's. He's made a photo album of our ultrasounds, goes to all my dr. appts, already has like plans for the baby, wants to decorate the room, I mean I love him so much, he's so good to me & us, & he is just so excited... and I can't bear to tell him I don't feel that way.

It seems like everyone who is pregnant is just fourty eight different shades of happy and excited, and I feel like I am the only one who is not.... Am I?
Maybe I will get excited later???
I don't know .... Is this normal?
I hope so ...

you still have some time to go. Maybe when you do the shopping, setting up the room, having a baby shower, and start the dialating process you will become more excited.

Sure it's normal. Some people have a hard time getting used to responsiblity, even if it was planned. Both my kids were planned pregnancies and I was nervous with both! I am actually even more nervous this time! Like, will there be enough of me to go around and how will life be adding another kid to the mix.... it's completly natural.

also feeling little baby kicks..

Quoting k&a+1:“ I am really feeling like it's a pregnancy issue... being as how I'm pregnant - and having this issue... ... [snip!] ... I am the only one who is not.... Am I? Maybe I will get excited later??? I don't know .... Is this normal? I hope so ...”

I'm due a month after you and so far, I am still more nervous and scared than "excited." I know how you're feeling. I think it's pretty normal, even for those of us who thought a baby would be a good idea, to be freaked out. Everyone assures me that it WILL get better. Just keep your head up.

i was 48 dif colors of happy when i found out i was preggers... but i remember when they told me i was having twins. i dont think i will ever tell them this but i was depressed for like a week. i kept thinking of all the things i will miss out of being a singleton mom. about how i couldnt bond with them as well and how hard it would be and how school and working are out the window for a while... but you get ovetr it fast. alot of women freak out

I honestly think the further you get the more excited you will get

every single thing you just said even the stuff about how your boyfriend is exactly how mine is and exactly how im feeling... i keep telling myself that maybe ill be a little more excited about it when she gets her.. but a baby now wasnt really planned i mean im going to a private college which is starting in less then a month and i have a baby on the way so when people ask if im excited you can only imagine how stressed it makes me feel so idk if you can call us normal or not but hopefully eventually things work out for both us

i wasnt excited till right up to the date almost..it wasnt planned at all,and when i found out i was devestated..now i love being a mom and i cant wait to have another one..you'll be fine..watch out for depression though,before and after baby.

Ithink what you're feeling is pretty normal. Having a baby is scary stuff!!!! And you're right, Im sure there are about a million things you could stress about, but in the end just know that as a Mommy, you ALWAYS find a way. (that's some of the very best advice I've ever gotten)

If you're scared, be scared, there is nothing wrong with that. It's new, it's different, and it's something you've never been through before. And when you start showing more and feeling that little Bean kicking around inside you I have a feeling you may start to get a little more excited. Right now it's just two lines on a stick and feeling kind of yucky, but soon enough it'll be much more real and there will be more reasons to feel excited!

I am hoping I will get more excited when I feel the kicks & stuff....

I just was thinking. God I thought this was such a good idea & now .... whoa.

Thanks for your replies, it makes me feel better to know I'm not alone.

All my friends just say "oh you will be" ... but it helps to know others feel/have feltthe same way...