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Ok so been feelin this way for a long time. I have been married for almost 3 yrs and for most of those yrs I have been unhappy. Found out yesterday why nobody comes over to visit ME. its because of my husband. they dont want to listen to him bitch at me or complain about every little thing. Lately I have had strongs feelings about leaving him. I am pregnant with my 4th and his 3rd and I want to be happy but I cant do it with him. I have tried but he wont change. All my friends and his sister and his friends are surprised that I am still with him. I know I can do it on my own I did it for 5 yrs before I met him. Yeah so I will have 3 extra but they wont be listening to him yell at me all the time. and no if any of you are wondering he has never hit me its just all verbal.

So whats he yell and or bitch about so much?

wow, sounds like what i went through, except i luckily didnt have any children with him.

if you are unhappy, that is really no way to live your life. i think you need to look inside yourself and figure out what it is that will make YOU happy and go for it. Make sure it involves your children, but if it doesn't involve your husband, so be it.

Have you tried to talk to him about it? If he really loves you he would hear you out and try to make it work. Cause obviously your trying to make it work cause your still around.

wow.. I am feeling the same exact way. My boyfriend bitches at me about everything I do. I don't want to be unhappy and I don't wantour child to see us fighting all the time.

Quoting mommytobe4:“ Ok so been feelin this way for a long time. I have been married for almost 3 yrs and for most of those ... [snip!] ... wont be listening to him yell at me all the time. and no if any of you are wondering he has never hit me its just all verbal.”

I can understand that, my bf yells at me in stores and shit around other people and kind of underminds me. It's not at the point where I feel abused yet, I get frustrated and so does he, but it is so embarassing. He doesn't talk to me like that at home either so that is another reason I don't fell like it is abuse. I hope you can get passed thisbecause emotional abusecan hurt. My mom abused me like that for years. I think if you know you will be happier without him then youshould be with out him. I don'tthink abusers can change their ways, but talk to him and see what he can change and if he even cares. I hope everything works out for you!

Quoting OctoberMommyToBe:“ Have you tried to talk to him about it? If he really loves you he would hear you out and try to make it work. Cause obviously your trying to make it work cause your still around.”

Yes I have talked to him about. he told me that if I just do what he asks then he wouldn't bitch at me. for instance he got mad at me because I didn't want to get up with him this mornin and hid the coffee from me because he wanted me to get up and have coffee with him. he did the same thing yesterday but I found it yesterday. he used to do the same thing with my internet modem and anything else that got more attention than him.

Quoting mommytobe4:“ Yes I have talked to him about. he told me that if I just do what he asks then he wouldn't bitch at ... [snip!] ... I found it yesterday. he used to do the same thing with my internet modem and anything else that got more attention than him.”

So he wants you to be obsessed with him and so in love you obey his every command?

=(

Does he hide the kids if you give them more attenion than him?

Quoting --Aly--:“ So he wants you to be obsessed with him and so in love you obey his every command? =( Does he hide the kids if you give them more attenion than him?”

yea pretty much. and no thats probably the only thing he hasn't tried except threatin to take them if I leave him

Quoting mommytobe4:“ yea pretty much. and no thats probably the only thing he hasn't tried except threatin to take them if I leave him”

Courts generally give custody to the mother unless you're abusive and addict or something.

I doubt he can just "take them away".

When I got divorced I had a two year old, and we agreed on joint custody so no one would have to pay child support, since neither one of us are dead beats, we just couldn't get along. [And he was a jerk to me, but is a great father.]

We had to go to a class to learn how to be divorced parents.

Quoting --Aly--:“ Courts generally give custody to the mother unless you're abusive and addict or something. I doubt ... [snip!] ... get along. [And he was a jerk to me, but is a great father.] We had to go to a class to learn how to be divorced parents.”

he is not the type to agree so easily. he will get temp custody until we go to court but I know for a fact that the judge will not take the kids from me because I am a good mother and I have never been in trouble with the law and I dont use drugs or drink extensivley. I have a couple of drinks so Im not afraid of that.

Quoting mommytobe4:“ he is not the type to agree so easily. he will get temp custody until we go to court but I know for a ... [snip!] ... been in trouble with the law and I dont use drugs or drink extensivley. I have a couple of drinks so Im not afraid of that.”

So, I think that if people go to relationship cousilers[sp?] that the relationship is pretty much over, but.

Have you ever thought of that?