Venting...future in-laws...

Okay so i have to vent...i am just at my limit!! So my fiancees dad is always critizing us on how we want to raise our child..it bugs the shit out of me...he constantly says that we are wrong and that we shouldnt do this or that...ugh! She is ours not yours asshole...I want to say that but i know my fiancee will kill me. I mean it gets on his nerves and pisses him off but he doesnt really say anything.
His dad always says well you wait and see...mark my words...the doctor is wrong about it being a girl and you are going to have to pick a boy name at the hospital! Ugh...the man is freaking blind...we have had a 3-D ultrasound done just to make the picture clearer for him...but he still says it doesnt look like a girl. I mean i dont know what penis he is looking at but they dont look like that.
Basically his dad is just...ugh there is no word to describe him..he is that irritating. All he does is try to pick fights with us...and criticize us.
Oh...Get this and he thinks it is funny to call me FAT constantly and tell me i am going to swell up like a balloon and be ugly...and that i will never ever be able to get the baby weight off.
So sorry but i had to vent...i dont know what to say to him. It is just plain ridiculous!

Yea it is YOUR baby. Don't listen to him. He's a jerk. Maybe you can try and say something to let him know this upsets you without causing a big mess and making your fiance upset. I'm suprised your fiance doesn't stand up for you and himself!?? it is his father. I know I would...

Oh he sounds like a real funny one! (sarcastic) How annoying.

The worse thing you can do to a person like your future FIL is give him a reaction. He sounds like he like drama and picking fights. When he says " oh wait and see how it is with a child'...just say "yeah we will find out. I am sure we won't do everything perfect and we will mess up sometimes, but no one is perfect. As long as we have the baby's best interest at heart...we will be great parents." That is all you can really do. Don't let it bother you. People will be judging and nit-picking your parenting from here on out. You just gotta let it slide off your back. Your the mom...you will know what is best for you child.

Whatta jerk!

he sound like a real piece of work.. does your fiancee stick up for you when he says that. that is so mean.. you self esteem is not so good right now anyways bc you already feelhuge..heshouldnt say that.

wellWHEN you do have a little girl... say now mark my wordsITS A GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!LOL

hun Im sorry. My FIL is annoying as hell too, but not to the extent yours is.
I would have a serious talk with your fiance and tell him that you realize its his father and your not trying to start trouble but that the things he says are really innapropriate and it really bothers you. It is HIS father so he should be the one to talk to him.

Im sure your fiance knows its bothering you but he might not know how bad and maybe if you tell him he will get off his ass and do something. My hubby doesnt stand up to his family either, but I do which probably the main reason they dont like me. If your hubby wont do it then you may have to yourself. Your FIL will only do what you let him get away with.

hang in there honey!

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My fiancee doesnt say much...it does really bother me. I have talked to him about it before but he says its not worth it and his dad will never change.My fiancee knows it upsets me but he doesnt say anthing but whatever! Some of the things his dad says upsets him even...but still nothing said back. I am at my limit and i know those pregnancy hormones are going to kick in one day and i am going to go off.. but i dont want that!

I mean being pregnant we have a hard enough time just trying to feel sexy...the last thing I need is someone telling me otherwise. I am a really nice person but i dont know how much nicer i can be. I mean he is really a jerk sometimes..and when i am not around...he tells my fiancee that he should leave me...and that i am going to be a controlling bitch and ruin his life...HMM??? Me and Ben have been together for over 3 years....3 years i mean there is nothing my fiancee doesnt know about me. UGH!! And i have to go to lunch with my fiancee and his dad and some other ppl today!!! what do i do...how do i tell my fiancee without crossing the line...and his dad...???!!!

Quoting Ryan Elizabeth:“ I mean being pregnant we have a hard enough time just trying to feel sexy...the last thing I need is ... [snip!] ... his dad and some other ppl today!!! what do i do...how do i tell my fiancee without crossing the line...and his dad...???!!!”

I would just do your best to get through lunch and pleasant and thentonight sit down with your hubby and just tell him that it really hurts your feelings when your FIL calls you fat and ugly. And that you have enough self esteem problems right now and he isnt helping so you would appreciate it if he(your hubby) and can talk to his dad about it. Im sure your hubby will understand and it wont be an issue. let him worry about crossing a line with his father.

as for the FIL always thinking he is right and this and that...time will prove him wrong so I say maybe leave that issue alone for now and just focus on getting him to treat you nicer for now.

P.s. I know how hard it can be to deal with In-laws. My FIL is an Abusive drunk and I had to have the talk with my MIL about how the baby wont be around when he is drinking and that she needed to tell him that. Well she FREAKED out and said she couldnt beleive me and how could I do this to her family and all that mess....i dealt with that for months and it was really hard.

Quoting Ryan Elizabeth:“ I mean being pregnant we have a hard enough time just trying to feel sexy...the last thing I need is ... [snip!] ... his dad and some other ppl today!!! what do i do...how do i tell my fiancee without crossing the line...and his dad...???!!!”

maybe you can tell him in a nice way...KILL HIM WITH KINDNESS..kind of way..maybe if you make him feel bad for saying those things to you. he will stop.. tell him you really love him son, and that you wish you two could come to comment grouds and get along for your future hubby and his son. because honestly its putting him in the middle and thats not good.

I will definitely be on my best behavior at lunch...and then tonight i will sit down and talk to Ben about it. I hope he understands. Any ideas on what to say to him..or how to bring it up...what if he doesnt understand...he can be kinda weird about his dad sometimes..and he could get defensive! I am so on the fence about it....I dont need this stress right now!

SO...lunch was horrible.. i wanted to bury my face in my food and cry. We ate lunch with some ppl from out of town that i didnt know..and his dad started his shit again.. calling me fat! UGH!

Quoting Ryan Elizabeth:“ SO...lunch was horrible.. i wanted to bury my face in my food and cry. We ate lunch with some ppl from out of town that i didnt know..and his dad started his shit again.. calling me fat! UGH!”

if i were the people eating lunch with him ... i would say something!! Like are you serious.. thats not very nice! i would have made him feel like a complete ass!! what a dick! you need to tell your fiancee to say something OR you will..

oh hell no!!!!!! i dont know how some of you ladies cannot manage to not stick for yourself's and have an opinion (even if they will be ur FIL) Your emotions and opinions should be heard specially right now that we are pregnant ;) im sorry to say Ryan Elizabeth but your FIL is just an ASS!! people like that donot deserve respect or ways to be nice to them. If you dont stick up for urself, your fiance will never think this really bothers you. Pluss, it sounds like he doesnty want to confront his dad about your feelings....thats a no no. now that u two will be tying the knot he should b there for you 100% more than with his family. I know i would never let someone hurt me in that way, specially right now-feelings and all are all mixed up. girly, stay firm to your opinions and dont be a push over...let them know how you truly feel, its okay u'll be fine ;) theirs nothing wrong with not always agreeing to their saying. dont let them hurt you more....