Getting Marrried?

So Greg (my BD) and I decited not to get married just yet, we dont wanna rush into anything just because we are having a baby. We both love eachother very much and can't wait for our little girl to be here. We want to get married some day but why rush things?
Well everyone I talk to thinks we're doing the wrong thing and that we should get married for the babies sake.
I want the day he asks me to marry him to be special,I dont want him to do it because he "has" to

what do you think?

Don't rush! It turns into resentment later. There's nothing wrong with that. You both still have the option of leaving, even if their is a child involved. Marriage is a permanent connection together as a couple (u and him), a child isa permanent connection (mom and child) (dad and child).

Quoting Pregapotumus:“ So Greg (my BD) and I decited not to get married just yet, we dont wanna rush into anything just because ... [snip!] ... sake. I want the day he asks me to marry him to be special,I dont want him to do it because he "has" to what do you think?”

I had my daughter before I married my husband - our daughter was 15 months old when we got married, I think it was a better decision to do it after - its stressful on top of pregnancy which is something you don't need.
It's not the 1950's anymore having a baby out of wedlock isn't the end of the world, if you want to wait, go ahead and do just that.

Your doing the right thing. thats what my finaceé and i decided to do as well. when my mom first heard i was pregnant she expected me to walk down that isle before the baby is born... but i was like we are NOT in a rush at all.

Good job! hope everything goes well. =)

I think you're doing the right thing because it's what YOU want.

I agree 110% Everyone keeps asking us when are you all getting married we say When we would have b4 the baby came along!! I know a couple who had been together 2 mo found out she was prego & got married 3 wks later. its their choice but I dont thinkit is something that should be rushed with or with out a baby on the way! So I'm right there with you!

I wish we had waited until after McKenzie came. My wedding didn't turn out to be the dream I expected except I was marrying the man I couldn't live without. If you don't want to rush it you don't have to. He wanted to get married before McKenzie came "for her sake" as well. I really wish we had waited until after she came because there are times I find myself questioning if it was because he can't live without me or he didn't want her to leave without his last name. If you wait until after baby and he still loves you and wants to marry you after all that drama baby brings home you'll know it is love.

My parents werent married when they had me, my aunt kept trying to pressure my dad into asking my mom to marry him but he told her he would ask when he was ready. My dad didntpropose to my mom until my 9th bday, then they didnt get married until March 17 2006. They were together 24years.
So IMO you shouldnt get married until you two are ready, what other people think doesnt matter, you know how he feels and he knows how you feel. And just because you got pregnant doesnt mean go rush and get married, alot of people are stuck in the old days when that was the "right" thing to do.

Thanks ladies! This makes he feel alot better!
I was starting to feel guilty for not getting married right away.

Me and my fiance are waiting.. We got engaged but no wedding plans. His parents think it a total sin we arent getting married. But my parents got married bc of me and then they go divorced bc it just wasnt ment to be. My fiance said he wants to marry me but he wants me to feel and look as beautiful as I can. Not wanting to puke at the site of food or not getting the dress of my dreams! Weddinds can wait but once your pregnant the babies coming either way! Best of luck!

Marrying because of a baby, IMO, is one of the worst reasons to marry. It should be because of love for each other. I'm so glad I didnt marry my son's father (which lots of people gave me sass about because I didnt). Marriage is a big commitment. It wasnt until I got married that I realized everything I signed up for. Its very different being a boyfriend/girlfriend couple than it is a husband/wife couple.

do whatever you guys think is good for you. my husband and i were only together 7 months when i got pregnant (and i was on birth control!). when we finally got married, my son was 3 1/2. i am glad we waited to make sure it was what we wanted. my brother had got married because he had got his girlfriend pregnant.....and now he has 2 kids with her and went through a nasty divorce and now a nasty custody battle. he wishes he would have waited cause she really screwd him over badly......so dont listen to everyone else...you guys know whats right for you! best of luck!

My mom keeps asking me when when when and it's getting real annoying.
This social worker told us we need to go get the $19.00 license and "bring our baby into the world legally" .. I was pissed.
My boyfriend says the same thing yours does, he said we wouldn't be married right now anyhow so why do it just because of the baby? We love each other, that's all that matters.. when the time is right you'll know.

me and my fiance jonathan decided to get married before we found out we were having the baby. We are going to get married while i am still pregnant,but we are not getting married because of that. We really love each other and had planned on getting married anyways. But people shouldnt rush things just because they "have to". We are really excited about getting married and about having our baby girl.

Quoting Pregapotumus:“ So Greg (my BD) and I decited not to get married just yet, we dont wanna rush into anything just because ... [snip!] ... sake. I want the day he asks me to marry him to be special,I dont want him to do it because he "has" to what do you think?”

I couldn't agree more with you!! Marriage is a very serious commitment! It shouldn't be taken lightly - just because they want you to get married isn't a reason. I would wait.