Question & Vent

Okay so there is a friend of mine and she recently had a baby girl in April. Now she smoked weed through her entire pregnancy, and she was going to give the baby up for adoption because she knew her and her loser boyfriend could not properly; they lived out of a hotel! Anyways so he talked her into keeping baby. She is beautiful and this is no way directed at the baby because she didnt do anything wrong. So mommy keeps baby, has no job and has some guy pay for a hotel to live in because she left the loser boyfriend. Now Mommy smokes weed all day, and ciggs. and she breastfeeds baby. Baby cries and is fusy and they let her sit up since she was 2 weeks old and I've seen her neck snap back becuase she can't hold up her head, and I just feel so bad for baby because she didnt ask for any of this. Now I found out two weeks ago that my son has a cleft (which is no big deal but is still upsetting), I am so resentful of this peice of shit mother because she has this beautiful child that she can't even take care of and smokes weed around her and BF and all that. And here I am Itake my vitamins, and I stopped smoking ciggs for the most part and I dont do drugs or drink. I mean what happened to my son could have happened to anyone, it just happened to happen to me. It just pisses me off, because I was so happy to have my son. And all of these asshole mothers who don't give a shit about their babies or don't take care of them have such beautiful children. I know my son is beautiful, but he will have to have surgeries, and specialized dental care and all kinds of other shit. And these pieces of shit pop out healthy babies after doing drugs and all that. It enrages me. AmI wrong for being mad, I mean I don't even go hang out with her anymore because I can't stand to see her and the baby because I know what she does to her, and I know what my son didn't ask for?

Wow, I hope that bitch knows that she IS transferring THC to her daughter through breastfeeding. Just like THC stays in your system for 30 days, guess what it stays in the breast milk that long too, possibly even longer! Oh and lets not forget the toxins from the cigarettes remain in the breast milk as well. You dont say anything to her?! Honestly, I would call CPS on her as an anonymous caller. Because that baby does NOT deserve that.

Why dont you call CPS on this bitches ass,poor babie girl.

I'm sorry about your son   I too gave up smoking pot and smoking cigs plus stopped drinking when I found out I was pregnant,I have a friend who smoked 30+ cigs a day and her son is just fine Hazel has really bad asthma and I'm the one who gave up everything 

Quoting Nicola~11w4d left! [HBC]:“ Wow, I hope that bitch knows that she IS transferring THC to her daughter through breastfeeding. Just ... [snip!] ... dont say anything to her?! Honestly, I would call CPS on her as an anonymous caller. Because that baby does NOT deserve that.”

Oh Ive said shit to her, she asked me if I was gonna breastfeed. And I said no becuase I wanted to be able to go out on weekends if Dakota is at Grams and drink and not feel guilty if I smoked a little pot. She shut right up. Ive thought about calling them, but then she'll just go back to being a crackheaded prostitute, even though Im starting to think she deserves it. Oh and lets not mention the baby's 12 weeks and still hasnt been to the drs! Am I wrong to be so resentful of her?

It is true that bad things do happen to good people. It sux but its something that we all have to deal with. Looking at people who are doing everything wrong and nothing bad happens to them is not fun either. If i were you i would call CPS for that babies sake. She may be ok now but who knows for how long. She deserves better than that. I hope that everything goes well with your son, just keep telling yourself that he is happy and well taken care of so it could be much worse for him. Good luck

You are not wrong for feeling the way you do. It's a very difficult thing when you see someone elses child running around healthy when their mom did bad things during pregnancy, and you did everything you could to make sure your baby was healthy and then something happens and now they need extra attention. Not to mention the fact that that woman is a horrible mother, imo. I think you should call CPS on her because that little girl needs to have a good life, and that woman obivously can't give her one.

Quoting Courtney_Bly [HBC]:“ Oh Ive said shit to her, she asked me if I was gonna breastfeed. And I said no becuase I wanted to be ... [snip!] ... deserves it. Oh and lets not mention the baby's 12 weeks and still hasnt been to the drs! Am I wrong to be so resentful of her?”

Who cares about her... it's the baby that's at risk here! Who cares what she decides to do with her life... CPS will find that baby a good caring home with parents that can actually love her! You would only be doing that baby a favor if you called CPS.

Quoting Nicola~11w4d left! [HBC]:“ Wow, I hope that bitch knows that she IS transferring THC to her daughter through breastfeeding. Just ... [snip!] ... dont say anything to her?! Honestly, I would call CPS on her as an anonymous caller. Because that baby does NOT deserve that.”

Agreed. Because all they gotta do is test the baby.
My boyfriend smokes pot, but not around our daughter.
I quit smoking when i found out i was preg, and i've been trying to quit ciggs I started up after my daughter was born but i never smoke around her.
It's so sad that irresponsible people can have kids and thenthe ones who are TTC and very responsible and ready cant have kids.

Quoting Courtney_Bly [HBC]:“ Oh Ive said shit to her, she asked me if I was gonna breastfeed. And I said no becuase I wanted to be ... [snip!] ... deserves it. Oh and lets not mention the baby's 12 weeks and still hasnt been to the drs! Am I wrong to be so resentful of her?”

You really need to call hell I would if I lived in the US

Quoting babydoll.:“ You really need to call hell I would if I lived in the US”

Seriously, if I knew where she lived with an exact address, I'd call right now!

Wow. But, you know something. The bad people in the world usually get all the luck. Piece of shit people who don't give a damn about anything. It always works out that way. Frankly, she doesn't deserve a beautiful baby. Someone needs to step in and get that innocent baby out of there before something even more awful happens. How can people be so cruel and unsympathetic? It just amazes me.

Quoting Nicola~11w4d left! [HBC]:“ Seriously, if I knew where she lived with an exact address, I'd call right now!”

ditto

Quoting Mylah's Mommy [W.A.C.]:“ Agreed. Because all they gotta do is test the baby. My boyfriend smokes pot, but not around our daughter. ... [snip!] ... It's so sad that irresponsible people can have kids and thenthe ones who are TTC and very responsible and ready cant have kids.”

Yea, I smoked cigs socially and smoked a joint a night before bed pre-preggo but I quit all of that as soon as I found out I was preggo, and I will remain to not use the stuff till I'm done breastfeeding.

Quoting Nicola~11w4d left! [HBC]:“ Who cares about her... it's the baby that's at risk here! Who cares what she decides to do with her ... [snip!] ... baby a good caring home with parents that can actually love her! You would only be doing that baby a favor if you called CPS.”

Your right, Ill find a number. At least this way the baby will have some sort of chance, I just hope she hasnt done too much damage to her already. I know she go through WD of THC possibly and hopefully she hasnt done any brain damage.

Call for the babies sake....Or in 20+ yrs the baby will be doing the same thing/things her mother did. She deserves a fair shot in life.