Advice for What Helps Most

Hello,
This is a strange post probably because I am pregnant (18 weeks) and have a beautiful 2 year old. But my sister, who is 3 years older than I am, hasn't been able to conceive and has turned to adoption.
Last April it seemed as if a miracle had happened. My sister and her husband had arranged to try being foster parents. They were called to pick up a healthy 2 day old baby at the hospital! It's a very complicated case, but the birth mom took great care of herself during pregnancy (no drugs, good nutrition, etc). However she had just gotten out of prison for trying to kill her two older children during a psychotic break, and was not going to be allowed to keep this infant. Anyway, the case dragged for a year. TPR (termination of parental right) was always talked about as iminent. All the case workers talked about how shewould almost certainly beavailable for adoption. Then, at about 13 months, the mother came out with the name of a sister that she wanted the baby to be place with after the TPR trial was finished. This aunt is halfway across the country and had never expressed an interest in the baby until then.
Now, the baby is almost 16 months. The trial is almost over for the TPR, and the state has arranged for the aunt to come and meet the baby. The state may recommend that the baby be placed with her, rather than be adopted by my sister after 16 months (or more, after this is all finally done) of living with her!
We are all heartbroken and it makes me sick to think of my sister losing this child. It is her baby as far as we are concerned and you can imagine the devastation she and her husband feel.
My question is, what could I possibly do for her? I feel guilty for my own pregnancy and just don't know what would possibly be helpful or supportive. Please help! I'm sorry this is so long, I guess I just needed some advice for myself - my mother calls me to talk about my sister, and ask advice, and I don't really know how to explain how helpless I feel.
I posted this in Adoption, to, because I don't know really where it might fit.

It's hard to not feel guilty about your own pregnancy, but please try not to!
I think you should just let your sister know how much it hurts you too, BUT, mostly let her know that you are an ear she can use ANYtime!

Listening is really the best thing you can do for her right now.

Wow... that must be difficult. I would think that you could legally fight it, ifthey find the right lawyer, because it sounds like it would be in the best interest of the child if it stayed with your sister.

poor thing that must be so hard!!! my mom is a foster mom but that was the hardest part for her. i hope everything goes well, the hard thing about that is that the state does not care about how this is going to affect the baby she is use to your sister that is her mommy. maybe your sister should look into getting a attorney there hads to be something

wow. that is a horrible situation for everyone involved. I know its hard but try not to feel guilty about your pregnancy, i'm sure your sister is very happy for you and is glad that you dont have to go through the problem of not being able to concieve like she is. good luck to you all i really hope it turns out in your sisters favor.

Thanks to all...yes my sister has hired an attorney, they can file for intervenor status which does give them a chance...it will mean that there must be a trial for the judge to decide what would be in the best interest of the child...so nothing is definite yet. The waiting is terrible as well.

Aw this is sooo sad... I wish I had some advice but the only thing that comes to mind is be her sergeant one day... I offered this to my sister when she and her husband were having trouble she was elated...