Fiance trouble... any advice?

Ever since our son was born a year ago, my fiance has changed. Some way's for the better, some ways for worse. We were't engaged from the start. He proposed on November 21st, (Brady was born on July 19th). There is no passion in our relationship. We have sex maybe 2-3 times a month. When we do, he last for about 3 minutes and it is over. There is no round 2. Affection on a daily basis is rare. I get a kiss when we part ways in the morning, a kiss when we get home and a kiss before we go to sleep. Occasionally (3-4 tims a week) he will give me some affection outside of those lines. This morning was a breaking point for me. We were supposed to carpool this morning so we were up at the same time getting Brady and ourselves ready. While I was preparing Brady's formula for school, Jimmy was getting other stuff together. Brady was in his high chair throwing a fit because he was super tired and he has allergies so he isn't sleeping well at night. Instead of trying to make him feel better, Jimmy say's to him, "Stop that whinning, I am sick and tired of all this whinning." Mind you, he has been whinning a lot because he doesn't feel good and is cutting molars. When I called Jimmy out on this, he said that he never said that he was sick of all that whinning and that I was lying. He told me he was sick of me lying! I didn't even know what to say at this point. I helped him get Brady to the car and told him that I would be driving myself to work today because I didn't want to sit in traffic with someone that calls me a liar for something I know that I heard. Please help... I don't know what to do. I love him very much and want to work through this but am lost.

This is your first dose of marriage, ain't it grand!

ive been married for 4 years-I just took care of my son for 1 month by myself while my husband traveled for work- my son was sick the whole time, I am prego- and we were both awake for the last 4 weeks ( when the baby doesnt sleep- no one does) and he just told me I was a bitch cause i wanted a nap.- so I have no advice for you. I think I am better off alone cause they are no help home or here. and men are often very juvenille and immature- too often for the responsabilities that they create.!

ots' just a hard week for u! It happens to every couple, you just have to learn to let the little things go aka him calling you a liar, i know it's hard because it hurts but things will be sooo much better if you learn to not take things to heart, i'm still learning myslef so is my husband but i can see an improvment in us,

Sounds like he is pretty stressed out. Does he ever get any time out of the house? like away from you and the baby? I know that doesnt sound great but its something that some men need or they begin to resent their home life. My hubby and I used to pick out one night every week that one of us could go out (we switched each week). That way we both got some time alone to let of steam and just relax with our friends. Its helped relieve a lot of stress in our house.

Trust me. We wont be having any more children because he was so horrible when I was pregnant.

I think if it's really bothering you you should approach him about it when you are both calm, and just let him know how you feel! Communication is a really big, part of any relationship!

Chris had the same problems. For a while the whole not having sex that often was really my fault, I just felt like it was one more thing onmy long list of things to do before I get to go to sleep. I know selfish, but that's how I felt. Then when we would have sex, there were a couple of times that the numbers on the digital clockdidn't even change. Soto help that- I introduced the Velvet, it's a brand of vibrator. After he realized that his penis wasn't the only thing that could get me off, he decided that we would have great sex and now he waits for me to get off before he does. Good for him, I'm so proud of that. When it comes to my children whining- he just can't take it. We have 5 so one is ALWAYS whining. I can handle it because I am there all day and I can ignore it relatively easy. Chirs comes home from work or school and he just can't take it. I told him to ignore it like I do. He gets so mad at them. I have no fix for that yet. If you get good advice on that subject, I am so stealing it! Good luck hun. I think at one point every relationship goes through something like this. It can get better.

Quoting jenni1128:“ Sounds like he is pretty stressed out. Does he ever get any time out of the house? like away from you ... [snip!] ... we both got some time alone to let of steam and just relax with our friends. Its helped relieve a lot of stress in our house.”

He gets to go out every Tuesday and Thursday and do whatever he wants. He chooses to go to the gym.

Quoting Amy M Hixon:“ Ever since our son was born a year ago, my fiance has changed. Some way's for the better, some ways for ... [snip!] ... I know that I heard. Please help... I don't know what to do. I love him very much and want to work through this but am lost.”

First of all I'm sorry you're going through this...Allow me to tell you something I have learned, men are use to being the "baby" in the relationship somaybe he's just not use to being the "second" person in your eyes. I suggest, one night when your a little more calm sit him down (make sure the baby is sleeping and the big baby is fed) and talk to him let him know that the way he's acting is not right esp. around the baby. Remind him that you love him and everything you have built together.

As for the sex part, choose a night to put on make up and a sexy outfit light some candles oh and don't forget heels and surprise him trust me it works!  

I've learned the hard way to take the more gentle approach. We are women, and should take advantage of it. Instead of calling him out on an action, give him a very sad face and simply say, "Please do not say things like that". Men respond much better to pain and suffering, instead of criticism and lashing out. He obviously was ashamed of himself for what he said, which is why he called youa liar. Sometimes a hug and understanding goes much further than criticism.