its happening to me ALL OVER AGAIN

Of course I'm stupid and I pick up my phone and call the asshole(Bd). He's all nice to me at first and the conversation leads to me asking him why he cheated on me, yada yada. He gives me all these dumb ass answers.. "I'm stupid.",etc. He's still with the girl..... But claims that he doesn't know why. Supposedly she lied about some stuff and I'm wondering why he's with her and he says he doesn't know. That's pretty much the answer to all my questions. Yes I'm laying here in the dark, wide awake, crying. I just wish I wasn't stupid to call him. I actually like that we can talk on the phone now as friends but tonights conversation lead to shit that I didn't want to hear. What hurts the most is I'm confused.... He's a big time asshole and I need to stop myself from calling him and I really need to get over him but how? How can I make him realize he fucked up? Sometimes he makes me think that he does realize that and sometimes he makes me think he's happy with the decision that he made. Ugghh, I need all the advice I can get.

Cut off communication with him for awhile... some times not speaking to guys makes them think

I'm sorry I'm still not over Hazels father I still find myself sitting here by myself having a good cry to myself,I dont think I'll ever get over it seeing as hes my first childs father.

Quoting babydoll.:“ I'm sorry I'm still not over Hazels father I still find myself sitting here by myself having a good cry to myself,I dont think I'll ever get over it seeing as hes my first childs father.”

awww  

Quoting (Kaila):“ awww ”

Ohhhh well lol

its impossible to be friends with someone your still in love with  anytime you ask questions your never going to like the answer.

This sucks!!...... Then he gives me the worst excuse 95% of the men use when they cheat, "I was drunk"...

Quoting babydoll.:“ Ohhhh well lol”

You guys have an irreplacable bond with both of your childrens fathers, both their first babies, no one can ever take that from yall.

Quoting waiting4[JAYDEN]:“ This sucks!!...... Then he gives me the worst excuse 95% of the men use when they cheat, "I was drunk"...”

maybe counseling could help you guys overcome it and work out a relationship?

Quoting (Kaila):“ maybe counseling could help you guys overcome it and work out a relationship?”


He's with the other girl. I honestly DON'T WANT to be with him. I want to get over him. Its hard cause I'm a sucker when it comes to giving in and calling him or picking up his phone calls. He's really a fucked up guy, he just plays with emotions and make people cry. I realized that. I don't see a future with someone like that. It just hurts so bad right now and I feel like I'm never going to get over it.

Quoting waiting4[JAYDEN]:“ Quoting (Kaila):“ maybe counseling could help you guys overcome it and work out a relationship?” ... [snip!] ... that. I don't see a future with someone like that. It just hurts so bad right and I feel like I'm never going to get over it.”

You will find someone who will love you and respect you, tell him not to call you and that you will call him only if it pertains to Jayden.

Quoting (Kaila):“ You will find someone who will love you and respect you, tell him not to call you and that you will call him only if it pertains to Jayden.”

Yea that's what it was at first(just about the baby) but it lead to him calling me for the past 3 days "just to talk" cause he "can't sleep". I'm thinking y doesn't he call the girl then?... Ugh I don't know. And of course I still have feelings for him so its hard not to call or pick up his calls. I just set my phone to "forward all calls"... In other words, all my phone calls will be forwarded directly to voicemail but my phone is still on. I can text and use the web. He doesn't text me very much so I'm sure he'll try calling but it won't go thru. That's the best I can do right now to force myself to get over him. Ill just call him when I'm in labor.

guys are assholes. my babies dad cheated on me nine and a half months pregnant and came to the hospitol with hickies all over his neck. then afte rour aby almost died he left & didn't come back. some father huh? he continued to do the shit. and told me the same story yours is telling you. i'm sorry. i know what you're going through.what i did was i started faking like i was using him...like a fuck buddy.now he doesn't want the sex because he thinks i'm the one using him.so now he comes around all the time & wants to spend REAL time together...because he's scared i'm actually getting over him & he thinsk i reall yonly use him..when really i am just conning him into thinking that so that way he doesn't want the sex but wants to spend time with me because he thinks he's gunna loose me...use reverse psycology.it totally works hun.

Quoting waiting4[JAYDEN]:“ Quoting (Kaila):“ You will find someone who will love you and respect you, tell him not to call ... [snip!] ... but it won't go thru. That's the best I can do right now to force myself to get over him. Ill just call him when I'm in labor.”

That would be the right thing to do. Don't call again til it's time for the baby to come. How are you going to make him realize he messed up? You're not. Until he wants to take responsibility for his own actions then, he's just blowing sunshine up your arse. If he really thinks he screwed up then why is he still with her? Because he wants to be. And if he's still with her even after she lied to him, that's his stupidity. Stop chasing him and save yourself the pain.

Quoting tmama_01:“ guys are assholes. my babies dad cheated on me nine and a half months pregnant and came to the hospitol ... [snip!] ... the sex but wants to spend time with me because he thinks he's gunna loose me...use reverse psycology.it totally works hun.”

That's horrible and I hope your baby is ok. I don't know if it would work for me cause he is still with the other girl. Although he does call me asking if I still love him and would I still let him "hit", that he was thinking about "f*cking me" the other day, etc.... Obviously he's not serious about her either if he's calling me late at night talking to me like that. So I was thinking I would be alll nice to him, not trip about the other girl, just act like everything is cool.... To make him realize he made a mistake but then I know eventually If I keep up with that I would fall for him again and things would be worse. I think the best thing is to avoid him. What's really crazy is he said I can be his roommate if I wanted to, I told him "so you can f*ck me when she's not around, hell no" he said... "I wouldn't do that." He's a liar, when it comes to poonani, he's all over it. I know if I moved with him and I laid in bed next to him, he'd hit it without even thinking twice. He told me when I first got pregnant that he wasn't sexually attracted to me, what happened literally 2 mins later? He had a damn boner rubbing against the back of my ass!.... He's a dumb ass.