re: its happening to me ALL OVER AGAIN

Quoting rabidmommy:“ That would be the right thing to do. Don't call again til it's time for the baby to come. How are you ... [snip!] ... be. And if he's still with her even after she lied to him, that's his stupidity. Stop chasing him and save yourself the pain.”


Yea you're right. It hurts to hear the truth sometimes but it is what it is. Wtf can I do? All I'm doing is hurting myself and torturing myself. I bet he's sleeping good right now with no worries. While I'm up, eyes burning and I gotta wake up early for a drs appt. It sucks.

hah.guys i tell ya.and yes hun.haha.i went through the same.he left me for some whore.and he'd be with her all day.but i called her and told her after i did shit with him.because i felt like i had to pay her back somehow.but don't do that.just play it off like you don't need him...that's what i did.and yes.i act like i don't care about the other girls...and i always tell him it's okay baby i know who u come to at night and blahblahblah.cuz guys like that type of shit.he ended up dropping all those skanks too.now he's always with me.calling me all the time askingto spend time with me and he wants to move out of state with me when i leave in about 10 days.it worked.just act like nothing bother you.and act like you need him for one thing and one thing only.sex...show him how it feels to be around only when he's needed.he'll hate it and he'll ealize that he is actually loosing you and he'll come back i promise.he suns just like my babies dad.just trust me.it took me a while to trust my mom about this.play it off cool.put ur mind in guy mode.act like you don't giva fuck.now don't be mean though.be layed back...just act like nothing is wrong at all.and when u call him..becuz i know uwill.becuz i used to too...act happy...ask him wut he's doing..and if he ants to come over...or if u know him well..andknow he won't snap out...call him and be like hey come hit it baby..if he says no get ir from sumwun else..play it cool...keep the compliment rolling...be like..nooo i like how u do it baby i sware i dont want nuthin butthat.hit it and leave for all i care just come here.haha.i did it...it totally worked.

Quoting tmama_01:“ hah.guys i tell ya.and yes hun.haha.i went through the same.he left me for some whore.and he'd be with ... [snip!] ... do it baby i sware i dont want nuthin butthat.hit it and leave for all i care just come here.haha.i did it...it totally worked.”


It sounds good to fuck with his head like that but I don't want him to think he can call me just for ass. I'd rather just do it the hard way. Like I said, I don't want a future with him. He has hurt me bad and I won't be able to trust him ever again because he lies too much. If he does want to come back to me one day, I don't want to be with him so I wouldn't get back with him. As much as it hurts, I need to move on for the best. Things won't be the same and I won't trust him, so what's the point? Its a big waste of time. I know I can do better than that. My thing is I just want to get over him and stop crying for him. I'm just going to avoid him. I'm not going to play the games that he is trying to play with me.

oh i thought you wanted him back.and no i didn't want him to thingk he could only call for a peice of ass.now he don't want to even have sex.that was the whole point.now everytime he wants to have sex he won't because he thinks thats al i use him for.when really i just fak elike i use him for sex to spend time with him.he doesn't even want sex now...cuz he said it makes him feel like he's being used...which is good for me...& my babies dad has put me through so much...but i love him enough to forgive it all.if you really think deep down in your heart...that one day he may change...and if you love him enough...you'll wait fo ever...like i have...just think things through...if you don't see a future with him that is fine...but if you do...don't give up girly...because in the end it might just be worth it.i know in my heart me and justin have something good.that's the only reason i have stuck around...it has gotten rough..probaby rougher than most people could imagine...but inthe end i know it'll all be worth it...cuz in my heart i know he loves me he just doesn't know a good way of showing it...just live for your baby...that's the most important thing.he'll love you until the end...unlike any man ever will...and that's all that should matter.

Quoting I got my sunshine!:“ Cut off communication with him for awhile... some times not speaking to guys makes them think”

yea i agree with this because whether you want to be with him in the future or cut it off completely, not talking to him for awhile will give him time to think... and hopefully think about how much of an asshole he is for cheating on you : (
calling guys when i've had problems with them has just never amounted to anything good with me...

Okay, I am in no way an expert but here it goes. I think maybe the reason you call him is because you are having his baby and feel that you need to make things work between the two of you so your Jayden enters this world with his mommy and daddy in love. Maybe you still love him or are in love with the fact of being in love. I am a true believer in the saying "you did not end up together for a reason." I think he is the scum between a bums toes for cheating on you. Sweetness, he will get what's coming to him trust me on that. It's totally rad to be a single mommy considering my sister is one. I think it makes the woman stronger and it shows her child that just because their father did not raise then in the same house does not make him any less of a person. It builds character if anything. Just make sure Jayden's daddy has some what of a influence in his life, and if he not capable of that find a friend, brother, cousin, uncle, grandpa who can show him the ropes of manhood and to be a gentleman and to respect woman. I think you will only become stronger from this experience. I think that maybe it's best to stop talking to him until your sweet baby boy is in your arms. Then you call his daddy and you tell him that he can see his son the day he becomes a man, stops seeing that chick who has no class, helps pay bills, med insurance et, and when he can respect you and be 100% honest. He may never own up but its not the end of the world because God has a nice guy waiting to love and honor you and your baby. I hope this was somewhat helpful if not than I am sorry to have wasted your time. Anyways good luck in the future and hope all goes well with the arrival of your son.